posted August 26, 2008 05:37 PM         

I am a sag girl. A new friend of mine is Pisces, and I can’t quite understand her sometimes. Have every limited experience with this sign. Anyway, I have noticed that she tends to be very snappy and bitchy with me. Not all the time, but it happens.

She is about eight years older than me, but some of her abrupt counter-comments are quite juvenile. She alternates this with being very nice and sweet. We share a good bond, she knows a lot of things about me than no one else knows and vice versa. I think she does value me as much as I do her. She can be quite amazing.

I usually laugh her comments off, but have called her on it in private after a particularly weird email she threw at me, and she was stunned, apologetic and sounded hurt even. She actually admitted that she can be quite difficult and her husband is the only one who can handle her attitude.

She is very well liked and respected and her speaking her mind is one of the things I respect about her, but am nevertheless confused by her behavior. She also snaps at other people, I have noticed, but seems not as abruptly as she does with me.

I value this friendship, and would appreciate any feedback regarding how I can handle her without ruining our friendship.

I have to add, that I am in a time in my life when I am going through some emotionally tough times and am VERY sensitive, so maybe her comments are exaggerated in my mind. I know that a couple of months ago when I felt better in my skin, her comments seemed laughable to me, and I will quickly shut her up whereas now I dwell on some of the things she has said.

Or maybe it’s not the comments themselves, but what I perceive to be the motivation behind them. Regardless of my emotional state, however, there is no doubt she is being difficult.

Anyway, I would appreciate any insight on Pisces girls.

p.s. I guess these situations are exactly why I used to prefer to hang out with guys. Which comes with its own set of complications and drama, I know. : ))))

posted August 26, 2008 10:34 PM         

from my similar experiences with - pisces friend and scorpio friend.

very similar experience to you. it's a very difficult situation. i found that i had to watch what i said or did ALL THE TIME and there was no way to relax and just have fun. if they expect you to walk on egg shell for them but can't offer you the same courtesy or equality - then they're not allowing you to be yourself (for whatever reasons) and that's not a healthy or balanced friendship because you can never relax and just be who you are. that's a huge compromise and once you've given that ground, it's very hard to get it back. my experience is it's a control mechanism by the other person - to keep you in your place. you're not being over-sensitive. and if anything - you need someone who is sensitive to you right now and helpful and kind. i understand her worth to you - but also consider your own worth to yourself - and how valuable and beautiful it is to have a friendship of equals and to be treated with respect and love - like true friendship. how much does she value you and your friendship?