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Topic: Would you invite this kind of person to your wedding?
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FistOfLegend
Knowflake Posts: 559
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Registered: Nov 2008
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posted January 17, 2009 06:03 PM
 
I have a friend I'm worried about.
She's getting married soon, and her sister is trying to sabotage everything. She wants to control her hair, her makeup, her dress, etc., and the reason for control is jealousy. She figures that if she can't find the one, at least she'll be able to ruin it for the sister who has.
They went dress shopping a week ago, and her sister was absolutely humiliating. She cursed at her in public, called her a dumb***, accused her of being cheap, and criticized the man she's marrying.
I've met this girl, and she's a totally disgusting person. I'm talking evil, shrieking Medusa. She's making my friend tense, uncomfortable, and unnaturally worried. Isn't a wedding supposed to be happy?
I've thought about it, and I can't imagine inviting someone like that. She may be family, but she doesn't act like it. Her acts are entirely selfish and hurtful.
Would you invite someone like that to your wedding? IP: Logged |
Peri
Moderator Posts: 2914
From: Kyiv, Ukraine
Registered: Dec 2003
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posted January 17, 2009 06:06 PM
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MyVirgoMask
Knowflake Posts: 1853
From: Florida for now
Registered: Sep 2008
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posted January 17, 2009 06:06 PM
This is the exact reason why I think elopement is the way to go.Of course she 'shouldn't' invite her. But she has to. It's a wedding. How else is that going to work? It'll create more drama if she doesn't invite her. Right or wrong has nothing to do with it in this case. Either one day of misery at the wedding (or however long before for dealing with the sister) or a lifetime of hell for not being invited and never hearing the end of it. Weddings are a nightmare. It's not a party for the couple, it's an exercise in patience and throwing a party for friends and family.
I've never understood this strange ritual myself tho.
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LEXX
Moderator Posts: 2416
From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion!
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted January 17, 2009 06:38 PM
No way.
However I do not go for the churchy fancy weddings anyhow.
Total waste of money in my opinion.IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
Knowflake Posts: 1853
From: Florida for now
Registered: Sep 2008
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posted January 17, 2009 10:05 PM
I can't believe how much money people spend on weddings these days. I mean, if that's what you really want, then it's great and fine. At least you know what you want.
But the obligation itself is weird, and the money can just be spent in much more practical ways for the future of the couple.
And if you really want a party, there are other ways to go about it to make it pleasant without having to get all stressed out. I'm sorry to hear about your friend, Fist.
Hopefully she'll be okay and able to get through her wedding and be happy, not miserable. It really saddens me to read what she has to go through  IP: Logged |
lechien
Knowflake Posts: 429
From: not home
Registered: Apr 2008
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posted January 17, 2009 11:27 PM
i agree with all about the idea of wedding... why do people throw the money out to torture themselves through that...?anyway, can't your friend just try to ignore her sis for the moment? just don't listen to her and do everything without her, and IF the sister does something crazy on the wedding day, people will just think that the sister is psychotic and will only sympathize your friend and groom, and the couple should just leave it as is, try and not to think the wedding was destroyed or something. after all troubles come with parties, right? something crazy on the wedding sounds more fun than building stress and worries preparing the wedding. IP: Logged |
blue moon
Moderator Posts: 5234
From: U.K
Registered: Dec 2007
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posted January 18, 2009 03:19 AM
Yes, she's my sister. Though I know I should tell her to shut the eff up, I don't want to cause trouble or hurt her feelings, she's not a bad person really. However, I will be secretly grateful if someone more abrasive takes her to one side and warns her to behave herself or else. IP: Logged |
sunshine_lion
Knowflake Posts: 1341
From: ann arbor mi
Registered: Apr 2008
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posted January 18, 2009 07:03 AM
i agree with mvm...weddings just get to be too much hoopla and family drama. thats one of the reasons we are getting married 1,000 miles away and then having a party when we return a week later. an informal outdoor party with a band and a cookout at a private lake. something so specail and joyous, should remain specaial and joyous and there is always going to be someone who isn't happy that tries to make everyone miserable. that is too bad about your friend. she must be a saint not to have put her sister in her place.IP: Logged |
amowls
Knowflake Posts: 1017
From: Richmond, VA USA
Registered: Dec 2007
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posted January 18, 2009 08:52 PM
No one is "evil"Anyway, I'd invite her but not dress shopping! IP: Logged |
PeaceAngel
Knowflake Posts: 8186
From: Australia
Registered: May 2008
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posted January 18, 2009 09:05 PM
bmBrilliant reply. I'm pretty straight up, but if I wasn't or couldn't be - then I'd like someone to do that for me too. IP: Logged |
FistOfLegend
Knowflake Posts: 559
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Registered: Nov 2008
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posted January 19, 2009 07:22 PM
That's the thing. It bothers me that some people can't even stand up to her. She bullies her way around. It's like she has her foot at their throats.
The girl's parents can't even stand her. No one in her family can. It makes me sick that she's called 'family'. She's only invited because of blood ties. What the hell is the concept of families then?
I hope she gets her karma. It'll land on her face like a brick.IP: Logged |
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