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Topic: eye contact
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writesomething
Knowflake Posts: 2764
From: meet me in montauk
Registered: May 2006
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posted February 21, 2009 09:35 PM
 
what does it mean when a guy cant keep eye contact with you when hes talking(casual coffee scene)..like he looks away and looks at me when i move my eyes away from him....it almost seemed like he was nervous speaking to me.....he looked me in the eyes but not a lot, mainly looking away...what do u think this means?IP: Logged |
Glaucus
Knowflake Posts: 3189
From: Sacramento,California,USA
Registered: Jul 2006
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posted February 21, 2009 10:20 PM
well.....it could mean that he's dishonest
and not telling the truth
it could also be other things like:
it could mean that he's very shy/nervous,and that it could be connected to insecurity it could mean that he has sensory integration/coordination issues which means that he has problems with processing more than one type of information at the same time.
some metaphysically oriented people believe that it could be the sign of an empathic type who feels that eye contact is an intense experience from the absorbing of other's energies.
I have a history of having problems with eye contact with others.
Raymond
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MyVirgoMask
Knowflake Posts: 2632
From: Florida for now
Registered: Sep 2008
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posted February 21, 2009 10:49 PM
Does he do this with other people too, writesomething? Or just you?I feel the same way about eye contact as an empath, Glaucus. However, I am sure to look into people's eyes from time to time...mainly because I get weirded out when people avoid eye contact with me  IP: Logged |
writesomething
Knowflake Posts: 2764
From: meet me in montauk
Registered: May 2006
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posted February 21, 2009 10:58 PM
Im not sure MVM...he never seemed to be the "eye darting" type...he did linger in the eye contact when he would actually look at me...so there was "long" moments..but i try to keep my gaze relaxed because i dont like being nervous around men! LOL...i prefer to be comfortable and friendly no matter how much i like a guy.
sometimes it was difficult. this was our first time alone together...we're usually in a crowd of people. IP: Logged |
PeaceAngel
Knowflake Posts: 9754
From: Australia
Registered: May 2008
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posted February 21, 2009 11:55 PM
If there were moments of lingering as well, I think it would suggest he's just shy or nervous around you. Suggests to me that he's mentally processing a great deal as he's talking to you.IP: Logged |
LEXX
Moderator Posts: 3168
From: Still out looking for Schrödinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion!
Registered: Jan 2008
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posted February 22, 2009 12:24 AM
I agree, shyness seems to be what it is.
I personally do intense eye contact which some people love and others are intimidated by it.
I prefer eye contact whilst communicating.IP: Logged |
Got Gemini?
Knowflake Posts: 1375
From: Mercury
Registered: Jul 2007
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posted February 22, 2009 02:41 AM
Sometimes, when I think a woman is REALLY REALLY REALLY pretty or beautiful, I won't make as much eye contact as I like. Not because i'm shy or intimidated, because i'm not, but becuse I don't want her to be weirded out by me staring which I may unintentionally do while talking to her lol. Other than that, its all about eye contact. Maybe your guy thinks you are extremely beautiful?------------------
Virgo Asc 6˚& Mars 0˚
Gemini Sun 24˚
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And yes, i'm a guy! IP: Logged |
writesomething
Knowflake Posts: 2764
From: meet me in montauk
Registered: May 2006
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posted February 22, 2009 07:39 PM
i asked my friend and she said..."theyre lying" LOL...i love simple, non thought provoking responses from my friends...lolwho knows! i thought it was a bit cute at first...when i started noticing he couldnt stare me directly ...but who knows the real reason..lol reminds me of a cancer friend of mine, who would get really nervous around me sometimes..and he couldnt look me in the eyes very well either...he had like no experience with women and it showed... this guy is experienced and older...so i wasnt sure.. IP: Logged |
MoonWitch
Knowflake Posts: 392
From: Somewhere Out There
Registered: Jun 2006
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posted February 23, 2009 09:26 PM
I have a hard time looking people in the eye and - no - not because I am being dishonest. Even during a casual and fun conversation I have that problem.IP: Logged |
writesomething
Knowflake Posts: 2764
From: meet me in montauk
Registered: May 2006
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posted February 23, 2009 11:29 PM
I found this quote:
Liar, liar!
The person you are speaking to, looking to his left or to his right. Studies suggest that if someone is fibbing, he will look slightly to the left while speaking to you, as he is using his creative brain, while if he is being honest, he will look to his right!
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vesta-sister
Knowflake Posts: 375
From: colorado
Registered: Sep 2007
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posted February 24, 2009 07:40 PM
Writesomething, I have caught myself doing this as well, I was a very shy child and the eye thing became a habit. It is not that the person is a liar ( depending on the person) mostly they were a shy child or maybe are afraid that you will be able to see the real person, afraid of being hurt.
I do try to make eye contact at times and getting better. I think those of us like that just need to feel we can trust you before we let you see that deep part of us. IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
Knowflake Posts: 4930
From: The Asylum
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted February 24, 2009 11:17 PM
I knew of two brothers who had trouble making eye contact with me when I was speaking to them. They never did this with anyone else but me, I never really understood it. I don't *feel* that my gaze is that intense but other people have told me it is so I guess that they were uber sensitive to it...LOL. Though at the time, I didn't entirely trust them because of it. My ex was pretty much the same way prior to getting with me and he's a Scorpio..ROFL. I guess I now know why. I try not to stare that often though since I don't like to feel like I'm invading someone's space in a way. I was finally put in all these guys shoes last year:, I met a guy that was pretty intense with the eye contact from my Rhode Island point of view. In wasn't even in the invasive plutonian way, his eyes were much kinder. I just wasn't used to it at first and it kind of made me look away at times out of shyness. My opinion on this: go with your gut. If you have an inkling he can't be trusted, then that's probably the case. But if they're obvious signs he's bashful then yeah...... IP: Logged |
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