posted March 29, 2009 12:12 AM         

It disappoints me when women hate other women just because they are female, becauase there is this sense of sisterhood that we should have and to support each other in what we, generally, perceive as a male dominated world. I'm not a feminist, but the girls, when it's right, should have each others' backs. That said, there's always going to be individual differences between people, regardless of sex.

That women hate you because you give off sexy vibes, isn't about you. The only time I can see that it would be is if you're chasing their boyfriends, and you don't strike me as that type. The way I see it is you're genuinely looking for someone to love you the way you are. And the cheating boyfriend of another women is not going to cut that for you.

The other thing it could reflect is if their partners are looking at you and it threatens them - that they don't see themselves as good looking, etc. But again, that's not yours. If someone is feeling insecure about their relationship, that's not yours either. I'm large breasted and I get killer looks from women if their partners eyes stray my way. I don't wear provactive clothing either, and there's only so much you can hide your baps (as bm likes to call them ). And I'm certainly no looker, or a threat to them or their relationships. I just figure, if I'm acting with integrity, it's not mine, let them sort it out.

posted March 29, 2009 12:49 AM         

You're one very very interesting lady. Your breadth of experience, with life and people, and your wisdom, is enormous, girlfriend. I have so much respect for you. You are such a strong woman.

posted March 29, 2009 12:52 AM         

Sorry, I had to delete that post. Gotta retain a LITTLE mystery despite the obvious past

posted March 29, 2009 02:07 AM         

Geez!

posted March 29, 2009 08:43 AM         

No i'm not the type to chase anyone nor steal or flirt with someone else's man. To be honest i always thought it was a body jealousy because once l was in Australia on the bus and these girls sitting behind me were bitching about me and being nasty. I totally ignored it and their faces dropped a mile when we got to Bondi Beach and my hunk of a boyfriend jumped into the bus cos he was so excited to see me LOL
They just gave me kinda "how did she get him" looks!!

Anyway, l find that online i also have problems. On FaceBook l have been deleted 3 times now, reported by other women i am sure of it.
Basically i'm popular and l post lots of spiritual and positive stuff on FB and l like to debate issues. My pics are quite racy and the combination unwittingly draws attention from men. Other women don't like this and to be honest it's a real pain when i get deleted because i have nearly a 1,000 friends and l lose not only them but the sentimental videos l create with my kids, etc etc.

The same happens on social networking sites too. I was invited to 2 by different friends and l got reported and kicked off both. One the one site l was named "Queen of the site" due to my popularity and someone obviously didn't like that and reported me for stalking her. I didn't even know who she was!!!! LOL
On the other site, l posted a link to a video about 9/11 and some woman reported me for being anti-semetic. wtf?

I can't win... and it frustrates me as it affects my life.
I can't do anything about it either cos of my natural individuality so l stick out in my clothing, my attitude and my verbal expression.
I am respected a lot by other women though who think i'm cool and kinda look up to me so it seems to fall into two camps.

I do accept it and l go on with my life but then something else happens like l got deleted again off FaceBook 2 weeks ago grrrr. Thank goodness this time they reinstated my account.

I am not good in groups of women though i have to admit. I feel uncomfortable, preferring to hang out with a couple of girlfriends or a girl and a guy.

posted March 29, 2009 03:08 PM         

I wonder if you are sensing Leo DC with all my aries trining it? I don't even know if that is possible.

It's interesting because some people on her think i'm Leo and some are sure i'm Aquarius lol

posted March 29, 2009 06:29 PM         

For example, if you do end up in an argument/debate with someone consider these points:

1. Don't say "you're wrong", say "I disagree". Saying "you're wrong" can demean the other person and make the other person's opinions seem unimportant, petty, worthless.
2. Give reasons why you don't agree with their opinion.
3. Give your opinion on the matter(s).

This adds structure to your argument and explains your relationale, it's the less aggressive way of getting points across and people feel less "threatened" or offended. Ramming people never helps, you won't change another person's opinions by doing that. Gentle and well structured persuasion will and it makes your arguments more foolproof.

Re Reality: Well you probably have an immense projection or aura about you, more specifically, self-confidence. Self-confidence and good self worth/esteem will undo the strings of many and others will find you threatening. I've got this effect on other people sometimes. Front is an amazing thing.

As for dress, they say that women are allowed to dress as they choose but it doesn't change what we feel and how we judge others on the inside. Be careful with what you wear.

Re others: Leo DC is speaking up in Lara.

posted March 29, 2009 07:45 PM         

When I need to vent it out I usually do my Tasmanian Devil fit in the privacy of my room where nobody sees, even though that part of me demands audience as it projects lol. So it should be honored in some way since it's part of your nature.

And Lara: I generally don't pay much attention to cattiness. There's always going to be someone threatened or whatever. No need to dwell on it.

From time to time I have had women that react badly to me when I go out (especially when i was in my 20's). Maybe it's how I carry myself - I do tend to strut lol.
...But I generally don't pay any mind to cattiness unless it's confrontational. The times it has been, it's been completely illogical.
Example: One woman bartender at a bar I'd sometimes go to used to give me dirty looks constantly. Blatant ones, and many snide remarks. I would go above and beyond to be polite to her, thinking 'Maybe it's the way I'm ordering the drink'.
I asked her very calmly what the problem was, and she basically told me that I was a terrible person and broke her male friend's heart when he bought me a drink and I never gave him my number. I mean, how silly can you get? Can one not exercise their right to say No? The guy didn't seem to mind me saying after an hour of conversation, 'No, thanks. I'm not interested, but thank you for the drink.'
And then I was called a **** because she saw me leave the bar with a man a week earlier. WTF? I tell you, whose business is that? No one's.