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posted April 25, 2009 01:52 AM         

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when LL went down i thought i'd been kicked off

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I thought the same thing about myself. I couldn't work out why - thinking that that last week was probably my quietest week at LL. I thought to myself, "What have I done now???!!!".

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posted April 25, 2009 04:30 AM         

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I didn't even know LL was down. I was absent due to exhaustion!! Nobody missed me!!! LOL

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posted April 25, 2009 04:56 AM         

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Oh koi!

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posted April 25, 2009 04:58 AM         

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Actually, that's what I need to do. It's too tiring being above ground!!!!!

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posted April 25, 2009 05:03 AM         

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Where's that Aries rising spirit?

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posted April 25, 2009 08:52 PM         

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awww Peace you are such a cutie. You really feel the meaning behind my words, don't ya xx

I really thought i'd been kicked off for that "he's just not that into you" thread... i even cried! LOL

The threads weren't being updated and l felt like such an outsider

THANK goodness it was only a hacker!!!!!!!

so glad we are all safe and sound back in the arms of LL.

How are you Peace Angel? hope life down under is good to you. Life up above is kinda cool... actually, i'm very drunk right now - just got home from my birthday party part 1 !I hate this venus/mars transiting my chiron... makes me feel like i'm hitting menopause hahaha

Koi - hugs to you. I know what it's like to be so busy you feel like your head has disappeared into your torso

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posted April 26, 2009 04:51 AM         

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Lara,, PA,

for some moments I had the same thought, that I had been kicked out for some reason.
But then I realized that there were NO registered members at all, that calmed me a little bit.

That "He`s not into you" thread is the one about male and female behaviour, right?
I think those subjects are so deeply personal, that they tend to trigger some heated discussions, and unfortunately sometimes the lines between a fruitful discussion and insulting arguments blur too much.

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posted April 26, 2009 05:10 AM         

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Same here, Thought I got kicked, then realised everyone else hadnt posted.

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posted April 26, 2009 06:11 AM         

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Just from what you said about heated discussions. I think that some people are able to have an objective discussion, throwing around theories/ideas, and then other people see something in that that touches something and they see it personal, where it's not intended that way. I think taking them personally is what causes the problems. Of course, there are moments where there are personal insults where someone actually outright calls someone a name, etc, and they are clearly personal. But when discussing differing points of view - you can't take that personally - everyone has a right to their beliefs - as well as to the expression of them. Trying to convince others is another problem. Respecting each others' rights to personal opinions is important. That said, we shouldn't have to start every post with "I think" or "I believe" because simply the fact that you are posting under your own username should be enough to signify that this is "your" view. It's hard if someone takes an objective discussion to heart though - I think that's where the problems occur. Online communication is hard because you don't have the vocal tone to go by or the body language and not everyone likes to use smilies - even though they can be used with insincerity too. It's a hard format to get around.

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posted April 26, 2009 06:15 AM         

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Lara

LOL. I am VERY familiar with that hitting menopause feeling. Though, sometimes I think its the people around me more than myself.

Have been on holidays since Easter, but back to class tomorrow. I'm really looking forward to it.

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posted April 26, 2009 06:35 AM         

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PA,

I absolutely agree with what you said about discussions.
People (including myself of course) shouldn´t take other`s opinions so personal; it would make it easier to discuss in a honest, respectful manner.

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posted April 26, 2009 07:59 AM         

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As you know I've just been lurking. I was puzzled when no one posted anything for 24 hours. So I kept on monitoring. On the second day, I thought maybe everyone was just busy but still it's very un-LL-like. On the third day, I started to think something was seriously wrong. Have they migrated to another site and kept it secret?! On the fifth day, I couldn't contain my curiosity anymore so I tried posting. And it wouldn't let me. Have I been kicked out because I was inactive?! That's when I realized LL was down.

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posted April 26, 2009 09:01 AM         

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Yeah, i can be a bit sarcastically insulting sometimes although l mean no harm. I just have strong views but when a person actually says to me "you have issues in relationships" when they don't know me and they are trying to be all clever and psychological with me - then i lose it cos it is personal and insulting. I would never get personal with anyone on the net, it's not my place to. Sure l disagree (most of the time) but then maybe l have seen both sides of the coin, although l seem to be incapable of understanding that you can lead a horse to water but can't make him drink LOL
So i apologize to everyone for my full-on passion exhibited when discussing a subject l have studied

I recently did this indigo child test online, which a friend sent to me and l got 100% so maybe i'm just too much out there off the reef with the dolphins

Peace and Angels to you all. OK, birthday rant over
HAHAHAHA xx

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posted April 26, 2009 09:15 AM         

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Hi
I missed LL..

I thought I was kicked too
I even asked why Im not a member anymore,whats wrong??I got a mail immediately and I learnt what happened..glad we are all together again

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posted April 26, 2009 09:38 AM         

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Lara

I definitely agree that you are highly passionate. But I also see you as one of those people that is able to discuss things objectively, to stand back and offer theories without it being personal. I think the thing with you is that you have some views that are out of mainstream and people get their noses out of joint with that. People don't like it when things don't fit with their personal sense of values or their beliefs. But I tend to think that if you're secure in your own values and beliefs then you don't get rattled by anyone elses.

You can usually tell if someone just wants to be belligerent or if they really want to have an open discussion anyway. And some people it doesn't matter how valid your point, there's just some personal dynamic happening where you could say white and they'll say black just because it came from you.

Re: Indigo Children. I started reading about them in relation to my own children, but the more I read about them, the more I see myself in there.

But I definitely see you as being one of the people that can discuss things from an objective/theoretical perspective.

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posted April 26, 2009 11:05 AM         

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I wish people could debate while sticking to the subject, not taking things personal and without hitting below the belt.

(Btw, I'm special. I can make any horse drink water).

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posted April 27, 2009 03:38 PM         

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I agree.. i don't get rattled with anyone else's beliefs as long as
1) they make more sense than mine
2) they don't turn my beliefs into a personal psychological smart a$$ analysis of ME!

How interesting that you read up on Indigo to glean info on your kids. Yes, i think all our kids are probably of that indigo ilk, at least l tell myself that when they completely ignore me and act like they own the damn planet!! My kids are so different to how l was as a child. I was so naughty yet l was never rude to my dad. My kids just p1ss all over me on a daily basis and l have to put up with "awww your kids are so gentle and caring" whenever l pick them up from playdates!!!

ho hum

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posted April 27, 2009 04:22 PM         

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Lara,

"My kids just p1ss all over me on a daily basis and l have to put up with "awww your kids are so gentle and caring" whenever l pick them up from playdates!!!"
LOL
That actually reminded me of what my mum has been saying about me, that I was an angel outside the home, and gentle and caring as you said, but when I came home I let it all out, and she had to suffer.
I wasn`t really rude to her or my Dad though.

Personally, I think I was always angelic, no matter where I have been.

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posted April 28, 2009 02:36 AM         

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My kids just p1ss all over me on a daily basis and l have to put up with "awww your kids are so gentle and caring" whenever l pick them up from playdates!!!

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Ah, it's moments like these that mothers are glad to speak with other mothers because they know that it's not just them. I hear this a lot from the other mum's at pick up time in the afternoons. And it's always those quiet, sweet, angelic looking ones that are the closet rats and trouble makers. Mine included.

EDIT: Observation. I rarely hear that from mothers with only children though. Some of the single child mothers whose children are genuinely quiet and "well behaved" are very judgemental of the behaviour of parents whose children show other behaviour - but in terms of parenting, multiple children is such a different parenting style and dynamic to having one child, I find. It's the amount of fighting that the kids do amongst each other that's just unbelievable.

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posted April 28, 2009 04:21 AM         

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It's the amount of fighting that the kids do amongst each other that's just unbelievable.

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ahahaha i did laugh out loud when i read this
My 9 and 8 year old elder sons fight like 6 month old puppies, day in day out. They get up and fight over the cereal pack, they go to school and probably fight in the playground. I pick them up, they fight in the car, at the park, back home they fight until they have no energy left to do anything other than sleep! lol
I just wanna know what they are learning as they fight!!!
lil gremlins they are!

The only peace l get is coming onto LL and reading your name PA!

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posted April 28, 2009 04:34 AM         

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ROFL Lara

I laughed myself silly.

Can I relate to that!

A classic one in our house:
"Muuuuuumm!!!!! She looked at me!".

I think to myself WTF????? Won't be getting parent of the year, but then, referring to my children collectively as "contraception" won't do it either.

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