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posted April 27, 2009 02:21 AM         

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Just curious.

A while back I was chatting with a friend about a mutual acquaintance who is a notorious womaniser. I laughed and said he better make a pass at me sometime or I will be offended. After all, he tries it on with everyone else female. This friend looked a bit shocked and said this other fella was too old for me. I said: why? He's not as old as my dad.

My age gap range is 30 years older, because I promised not to go with anyone older than my dad as he said it would be embarrassing. On the other side it is going to have to be legal, isn't it? I do have friends young enough to be my sons but they are grown men, and of course there is no naughtiness going on (I'm spoken for). It's just a hypothetical, frivolous question from a very silly Gemini.

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posted April 27, 2009 02:42 AM         

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No-one younger. Which is a shame considering some of the youngsters around.
I guess a year or so younger is fine if they are mature enough.

Probably 12 years older max.

As a 28 and a half year old, that translates into 28-40.

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posted April 27, 2009 03:05 AM         

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I was married for almost 10 years to a man 13 years my senior. For the most part it was fine. We had our moments where we couldn't understand each other or couldn't relate because of the generation gap. Sometimes when he would tell me about how much Utah has changed in the past 20 years or so... then it was like listening to my grandpa talk lol. It was for completely different reasons that I ended up divorcing him, but the age gap was just a very minor thing.
Sooo... I'm 38 now and I would probably go with someone no younger then 27 and no older then 48...that's 10 years either way. But you never know... Mr Wonderful could be a year or two beyond that, ya never know..

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posted April 27, 2009 04:29 AM         

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I really don't know to tell you the truth. All the guys that I have been interested in have been my age give within two years of me. I couldn't really tell you what is a suitable age either, it might be more dependent on each individual but having said that, if I was single, I could not see myself dating anyone younger than about 27 or older than about 41/42, so maybe it's a seven year thing for me.

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posted April 27, 2009 07:08 AM         

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12 year older maximum and for younger it's 6..but love changes everything,when you are a libra

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posted April 27, 2009 08:34 AM         

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Ages 18 to 102+ cool by me.
Been there done that.
biggest age gap was 76 years.
I have no age restrictions, never have, as long as he is of legal age.

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posted April 27, 2009 08:58 AM         

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Ah, such a hard one. Something switches off inside of me when it comes to younger men. But really it comes down to maturity. I can sit here and say that I wouldn't date someone younger (given the opportunities) but if they made my heart do flips and were what I need and good for me (and vice versa) then I don't think I'd let it go just because of numbers. I do have a preference for someone older than me. That said, I would put a limit on it, no matter how we felt about each other, just from experience. I was with someone older when I was younger and I found it restrictive. It's not just the differences in age but also experience and expectations - and also the place you're at in the present. For a fling, I'd say, maybe 20-25 years older, but for a committed relationship, at age 39 now, I think not much older than me. The ideal would be to grow old together, all other circumstances allowing age to permit. So mid-40s. But, again, if I met someone outside of that, I'd have to really consider my own limitations there.

Ask me again when I'm older. It's nice to know that there are men like Colin Farrell out there who don't mind having a go at a lady based on her wit and intelligence no matter her age. If I was in my 60s or 70s and someone like that came along......... maybe. Just maybe. Well, probably.

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posted April 27, 2009 09:03 AM         

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I thought I would only pair well with people around my age - similar generation means similar interests, hobbies, social outlook etc.

It wasn't too long before that theory went down the drain. I was infatuated with somebody 21 years my senior and after that with somebody 8 years my junior.

Love is ageless.

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I just realized you asked about relationships.
Well, I wouldn't mind being in a relationship with somebody much younger or older than me. The biggest age gap in a relationship I've had has been/still is 4 years. I think a much younger man would be exciting! But then there are some very good looking 50-year-olds... Hmmm.

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posted April 27, 2009 02:42 PM         

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i don't know, 15 years older is ok, 15 years younger, i would kinda be embarrassed.

i have turned down a lot of interested younger guys on thier age factor alone. which really isn't fair to them , but i think ok, in 15 years when i am 55 and you are 40 you can still get a 20 year old and my options have slimmed down a bit.

i can't help it , i really think like that. or also think like, you know i don't want to compete wtih girls half my age, not only don't want to, flat out ain't gonna do it.

i find older, more mature men far more attractive anyway. they have thicker.......wallets. ok, i am kidding....

really age is just a number.

the way i think works for me, but hey, ashton and demi seem to be doing ok.

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posted April 27, 2009 03:04 PM         

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Up to 6 years younger, if he's a Capricorn or lots of Capricorn placements.

Maybe up to 15 years older, but he must be the type who takes care of his body and grows old gracefully.

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posted April 27, 2009 03:10 PM         

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My minimum required age difference is epoch

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posted April 27, 2009 03:27 PM         

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hmmm a lot of my friends are younger than me so l guess anything between 26 and 48 for a lover and between 36 and 52 for a boyfriend.

I'm not fussy although don't really wanna have to be filling his xmas stocking with Harry Potter or viagra every year

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posted April 27, 2009 03:57 PM         

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A cougar? O.o Older women sound awesome!

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posted April 27, 2009 04:08 PM         

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10 years older than me MAX! I've never been attracted to younger. Though I don't have to worry about things now because I already have a significant other in my life.....he is the same age as me - 2 months older than me.....

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posted April 27, 2009 05:39 PM         

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i don't know, 15 years older is ok, 15 years younger, i would kinda be embarrassed.

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i have turned down a lot of interested younger guys on thier age factor alone. which really isn't fair to them , but i think ok, in 15 years when i am 55 and you are 40 you can still get a 20 year old and my options have slimmed down a bit.

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Really? My husband got turned down by older women too.
It has been quite amusing when those still foxy older women, not as old as myself....run into him again when he is with me and he introduces me as his wife....hee hee...too funny!
Oh... A 55 year old cannot have a 20 something? LOL! My grandmother was 57 years younger than her first husband. My long passed away friend had a 19 year old lover when she was 69...and it only ended because he was killed in a motor cycle accident 5 years later. And she had been wheelchair bound since age 14 to boot!
My father in law's wife is about my age.
In many ways age is indeed a state of mind...so change your mind!
If you believe you cannot attract younger, well then you probably will not. If you still see yourself as not worthy because you are no longer young, well that is what you would project out to others. It is not about faking being young, or making excuses for age differences....it is about just being real and being yourself and not being hung up on self age identifications. Like I say about my body, "My body is disabled, however I am not my disabilities"....nor am I an "age"....my body has age, not myself.
My husband and an ex are 15 years younger.
Betwixt an ex and my current husband, I had a few interested fellows who were 23 years younger.
And a few 30 years older (than myself) or so.
I really find it strange that age is such an issue. Or weight, or race, or if a guy needs Viagra or not....
I do not care what society thinks...I chose and choose by personality not age and so forth.
People who limit like that only lose out on some really interesting and even wonderful connections.
Just my two cents.

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posted April 27, 2009 05:52 PM         

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age limits? i dont believe in such things. love is love. as long as theyre legal age, etc.

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posted April 27, 2009 05:54 PM         

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I really find it strange that age is such an issue. Or weight, or race, or if a guy needs Viagra or not....
I do not care what society thinks...I chose and choose by personality not age and so forth.
People who limit like that only lose out on some really interesting and even wonderful connections.
Just my two cents.

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ditto and double ditto.

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posted April 27, 2009 05:58 PM         

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age limits? i dont believe in such things. love is love. as long as theyre legal age, etc.

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And thank you for agreeing with me!
Oh...I added more to my post whilst you were posting.

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posted April 27, 2009 06:33 PM         

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The Viagra and Harry Potter was only a j o k e

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posted April 27, 2009 07:03 PM         

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lexx, i know you are right. i met some really interesting men that i couldn't take seriously because i thought they were too young for me. i just know people talk crap alot and i felt funny about it, so i didn't really get to know them like they wanted to. i know it is just me being dumb, but i get embarrased by jokes like, what you doing, hanging out at the high school looking to pick up guys, you know, crap. so, yeah i missed out on some relaly neat responsible younger men that wanted relationships. i just couldn't do it. and like i said, i wouldn't feel secure when i was 57 and he was 40 and i am way past having children, so i always think about the future too. it's just me.

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posted April 27, 2009 07:32 PM         

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I used to not give any hope to getting together long term with someone closer to my parent's age than mine, but I think I'm getting over that. You only live once. May as well be happy if you find someone that works for you.

I'm not sure what my age range is for those younger than me. I think it would really have to be a case by case basis. The younger have more convincing to do than the older in my book.

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posted April 27, 2009 11:20 PM         

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When I was 21 I got engaged to a 33 year old man (we had been dating since I was 20). It seemed okay for a while, but really he was at a much different place in his life; he had a 5 year old son and I was only a few years out of high school. There were issues that came up regarding control, since I was young and fairly inexperienced. I can't say that had to do with his age; maybe it was just him being a control freak.

It's possible that for me, someone 10-15 years older who has never been married and doesn't yet have children would be a better match than someone the same age that is divorced with kids, because it's more about the place we would be at in our lives.

Still, it's also about growing old together, and sometimes when I was with my ex I'd think "God, when I'm 59 he'll be 71!" Now that I'm 25, I'd probably only date someone no older than 31-32. I used to never want to date someone younger, but my views are changing; if he was 23 or 24 that would be okay. Now that I look back, I can't believe my ex was 32 dating a naive 20 year old; even at 25 the thought of dating a 20 year old seems creepy!

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posted April 27, 2009 11:20 PM         

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Interesting, this guy in my anatomy class is about 16 years older than me and asked me out about a month ago during the retrograde. I declined. Age may have been part of it, but I think it was mostly me not being attracted to him in any way. I mean LOL, he barely spoke ONE word to me in that class before he asked me out, so that just totally came out of left field. If I haven't atleast gotten to know you, why would I spend time with you?

That being said, I think my limit is about 12 years my senior and about 3 years my junior. I'm much more accepting of being the May in the relationship than the December, I definitely don't care for younger men, especially when guys my own age are slow to mature. Still, I've stuck somewhere within my age range....oldest I've ever been with was 5 years older.

I think the issue with huge age gaps sometimes is if the two people can even relate to eachother. I definitely don't consider myself at the same place in life as a 31 year old and the chances of us looking for the same things is slim, but it can happen.

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posted April 28, 2009 01:48 AM         

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They say half your age + 7 is the absolute minimum for it to not be creepy. So for me that would be 18 (rounding up). Yeah, pretty much sums it up as I don't see myself committing statutory rape lol. I also make fun of my friend Kailie for liking a 19 year old.

I can't see myself dating someone 10 years older than me... I think it's because I like male models. Plus non loser 31 year olds have 9-5 jobs and cant go party like I like to party as a 21 year old. Not to mention, it takes a certain type of guy to go after girls 10 years younger than them. I don't trust it.

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posted April 28, 2009 02:32 AM         

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Not to mention, it takes a certain type of guy to go after girls 10 years younger than them. I don't trust it.

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Yeah, I get that. There are some men out there who want a trophy younger or socially beautiful wife to perk themselves up - in different ways. I find that really sleazy. So, yes, I think it's important for younger women to watch out for that aspect. That just makes my skin crawl thinking about it, actually.

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