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SavageScorpio
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From: Davis, Ca. US
Registered: Mar 2005

posted March 09, 2006 06:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SavageScorpio     Edit/Delete Message
I was wondering everyone's opinion on this... do you ever feel like you just seriously want to be single for a long long time.....or simply don't mind being by yourself, because that is how I feel these days, and people don't seem to understand. I'm nineteen and live in a very sorority/fraternity-like atmosphere, where if you're single, people think you're strang or something, or they think you're just hung up on a past love. The thing is, I want more than most people my age when it comes to relationships and whatnot, I do nothing half hearted, and take things seriously because such things affect me/my life extremely, so I'm very careful (I've learned the hard way)... whereas a lot of girls need 24/7 attention from guys, I don't like attention from guys (because most of it is of the sexual nature. I like it when guys are respectful, don't try to get close to you, just know you as a person...because for anything more to evolve takes time and trust). I have Mars in Aquarius which I think explains why I am so independent, get freaked out when people try to get close to me quickly, and really do like being single (because when you're young..wanting more than most people your age, you just don't want to waste your time.. especially when everyone is in each others business), and Venus in Scorpio which means that things affect me greatly, extremely, and you take things seriously, and feel things deeply. Is it so bad to want to be single, and wait until you're ready to have something meaningful... and want to take things very slowly w/opposite gender. Mars in Aquarius really doesn't have a high sex drive, at all... only really when I'm in love (venus in Scorp.. how you really feel about relationships, etc..) .. which ... doesn't just HAPPEN (some people can just be instantly sprung, ... I can't.. maybe when I was a kid..haha). Also, I'm not the type to just be with anyone or give myself away like that you know, I truly believe that some things, when they have the power to affect you extremely.. (at least me).. should have a meaning more than just hormonally (otherwise it's not worth it, not fulfilling, makes me feel empty.. and just NOT worth it.. sex isn't even good unless I'm in love... seriously) .. then again some things affect some more than others.. I was just wondering if it's just me?!

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SavageScorpio
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From: Davis, Ca. US
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posted March 09, 2006 06:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SavageScorpio     Edit/Delete Message
When I say be single and wait until you're ready to have something meaningful, I mean single and celebate !...

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miss_muffet
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posted March 09, 2006 09:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for miss_muffet     Edit/Delete Message
Hello...

I find a lot of Scorpio men or women are very confident in themselves and are just happy to be on their own that they truly enjoy being single.

My mother tried the marriage thing and was only married year and a half, long enough to produce me. Then never went out with another soul. I do not think it was because of her love to my father but rather she was just happy to be alone. As she put it, no dirty smelly socks to wash that is not her own.

Enjoy and cheers to you!

MM

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sue g
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From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004

posted March 10, 2006 06:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
Mmmmm......

I have to be honest here......very Scorpionic woman that I am....would find it very difficult to go without sex (after a few days I am like a mad one).

Having said that I would rather be on my own than with someone I didnt love.....

And even when I am in a relationship,I need time on my own to breath and be quiet !

x

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spellbound
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From: Illinois
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posted March 14, 2006 03:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for spellbound     Edit/Delete Message
I don't think there is anything wrong at all with your stance and encourage you to be who you are. No one knows what makes you happy like you do and there is absolutely nothing wrong with placing value on yourself, requiring more than just incidental relating.

The scorpio women that I know are very intense, both in actions and emotions. It can be a very powerful thing to harness. Do what it is that makes you happy. Knowing yourself in the quiet moments takes work and effort and it sounds like you are well on your way to understanding. That is something very difficult for most people to grasp and for you to be at such a young age, that speaks volumes to me about your soul development. You are on the correct path. You have that intense scorpio drive that most people mistake for hostility or cold-heartedness. But I found that it gives you strength to persevere and pick yourself back up after life knocks you down.

Celebacy can definately define a lot of boundaries for you and clarify many unknowns. It gives you time to figure yourself out and really know what it is that you want. That is definately something to work towards.

Just continue being who you are. Pay no attention to those who poke at you or don't understand your way of thinking/feeling; they don't have to. No one can live your life but you and you don't need anyone's approval to be what it is that you are. That is one of life's many gifts: indivuality. Treasure it. It's definately a rare find. I tell my daughter to march to the beat of her own drum, to satisfy her own desires to be what and who she is..despite what anyone else thinks. I encourage you to do the same.

Good luck!

Spellbound

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