posted October 14, 2006 09:48 PM
Hi I'm back, let me give this a shot and excercise what I've learned....
Thhere's no birthtime or city for the Aries but I did a rough calculation of your synastry here: http://astro-software.com/cgi-bin/astro/comp2f
I'm not seeing where he could be moody, but then again, don't have a birthtime or city for him. It may be because his Sun (Aries) and Moon (Virgo) are quincunx by sign-and maybe even aspect. If I had a brith time, I could see whether or not his moon squares his uranus, because that could definitely be a culprit. (Trust me, I had the opposition as a transit....it wreaked havoc) Your sun and Moon are trine by sign and aspect, so you be more in sync with your ego and core.
I'm kind of suprised that you two have communication issues considering the fact that your mercuries are trine, you have a double whammy mercury/uranus trine, and a mercury/mars sextile. You guys do have a mercury/jupiter square, but even that is not bad to me. Its always great when those two are in aspect...the worst it can bring is really long discussions that go nowhere sometimes (Oh, wait a minute). Then again, we may need an accurate reading of your chart and his seperately to see why this is. And we need a birthtime for Aries boy so we can get an accurate synastry chart.
I see that the issues of independence vs. closeness may have much to do with the your venus squaring his uranus. It seems that uranus just isn't there at the right times physically/emotionally/mentally etc.....like when venus wants affection. Or then again, that is said often about Cancer-Aries relationships....but we won't go based on sunsigns alone. Now if his moon does square his uranus, It also could factor in to him being conflict between needing space and needing closeness. Plus he's a virgo mooner like me; usually we don't cling to people and sometimes we need our space and alone time. Now you have have a scorpio moon in combo with the cancer sun which definitely needs closeness. I have the 8th house placement only, and while I have emotional needs it comes in conflict with the virgoaness.
I also see alot of nice aspects which may explain why you've stayed together despite the issues mentioned above. The Venus moon conjunction is very lovey-dovey and you probably feel very comfortable together....great for intimacy. There's also a Venus-Saturn trine offers longevity and stability to the relationship. To me, Venus/saturn aspects are about real love. Saturn is the glue that holds you two together. The Venus-Pluto trine brings intensity but may more easier to handle since it is the trine aspect. The Venus-Neptune sextile may bring a mystical element to the relationship; it could be idealistic, muy romantico, bada-bing bada-boom. Reality may not shatter it as hard as it would with a Venus/neptune hard apsect (even those are manageable too though!). Actually, reality may not even shatter the dream at all. Venus square Jupiter implies that you two may have alot of fun together...partying/spending/etc. Just don't overdo it. There's an element of playfulness in this relationship. You will also find that you (the jupiter person) are very forgiving of venus' faults.
Ah yes, then there's the Sun-Pluto Square. Also very intense and magnetic. (you are the sun person) I have this with my partner and when its light, its just an annoyance...sometimes we bicker. With this, I feel that sometimes he just knows (He's also double water too). I've heard that in this aspect Pluto holds the window to the Soul of the Sun Person. If the pluto is evolved, then he can help you immensely using this power with growth,transformation and such. If he isn't....you've got a problem. He may use this to control you, and keep you where he wants you. I also read somewhere that Pluto may even be threatened by the sun's display of ego. It goes on to say that either way, neither of you are the same as a result of this relationship. Transformation baby....Pluto's work.
Thats all for now, I hope an expert comes in.....