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seveneieghtorange
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From: scottsdale, az
Registered: Jan 2005

posted January 07, 2007 02:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for seveneieghtorange     Edit/Delete Message
Its been a month and half or so since I posted, so I thought I would update you guys about whats been happenin with this dramatic affair.
For about 2 months I'd meet my ex for maybe twice a week to get the money that we both owe so I could pay it. All that time he had been calling me, leaving me voice messages and text messaging me, telling me he is changing and all I needed to do was to take him back and I would see that I was his one and only..
Yesterday I got a call from the girl Ive been suspecting that he's cheated on me with (I had met her before, he told he she was a "Friend") and she had news for me. She's 2 months pregnant by my ex. She said she wasn't going to keep it and was going to have an abortion, especially when he yelled at her saying that it wasn't his.
I have no animosity towards her. I could care less if she keeps the baby. She and I talked on the phone for 2 hours, comparing this and that. Apparently he called her, talkin sh*t and saying stuff like it wasn't his baby. I learned other stuff from her, too, the dirty deeds he does in front of her. Everything I thought this Pisces man was - honorable, with dignity, respectful of women - was all a front. All he is is a weak pathetic excuse for a man, persuading women to give him their money and then he would give them allowance. I was stunned. She said that her allowance would be $5 a day, while she was giving up all her money to him (she works at the entertainment industry, making about $1000 every two days), because he kept telling her he would be buying a house. All bullsh*t.
I saw my ex today to get the rest of the money, but he still owes so much. Nevertheless, I dont care. Its not worth keeping in contact with him, having some sort of false security and hope when he says and runs the same game to every girl he meets.
Just for the record, I have never given any money to him. He never asked me because he knew I wasn't like that.
He started crying in the car, saying he was going to buy a ring for me, he was saving up for a ring. I remained stoic the entire time. He said how could I be so cruel? It didnt matter anymore, telling my feelings to him went to deaf ears. He said he would call me later so we could talk. As soon as I came home, I changed my cellphone number.
I was so stoic and poised yesterday and this morning but now I am crushed. Im so hurt. I cant talk to any of my friends because they all think I broke up with him months and months ago when issues started coming up the first time. They dont know that we ever have any joint finances which is why I was forced to keep in contact with him before. But nothing is worth keeping in contact with him for, not even money and Im so anal about my finances.
Im really crashing down tonight I am so hurt by all this.

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Dulce Luna
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From: The Asylum
Registered: Mar 2006

posted January 07, 2007 07:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dulce Luna     Edit/Delete Message
Awww, sorry to hear that girl. Do you really need the money he owes you. If so, I would just get it up front from him and try to move on. If you really don't want to continue this and don't need the money then you don't have to keep going back to him for it.

Just keep on trying the Cutting the Cord Techniques that Sue posted. I hope you heal from this.

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sue g
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From: former land of the leprechaun
Registered: Sep 2004

posted January 07, 2007 07:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
Sending love and healin to you...

Here is the link Dulce mentions:
http://www.healingnetwork.co.uk/cutting_the_ties.htm

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miss_muffet
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posted January 09, 2007 08:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for miss_muffet     Edit/Delete Message
You are doing good.

The truth is that if he loves you, he would not have slept with another. The fact that he slept with another indicates to me that there is something seriously wrong with him OR your relationship. Whether the child is his or not is irrelevant. And I wouldn't be talking to that girl he slept with because I wouldn't trust her with a ten foot pole. And I do believe that anything she says to you is already tainted by lies before she even open her mouth.

Cut your ties, and start anew. You deserve someone who will give you ALL their love and trust.

MM

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Mama Mia
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posted January 09, 2007 11:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
Just keep going..If it does not kill you it will make you stronger..We live and we learn..

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seveneieghtorange
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From: scottsdale, az
Registered: Jan 2005

posted January 09, 2007 12:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for seveneieghtorange     Edit/Delete Message
That what Ive been trying to do. I've changed my phone number and really just trying to forget this nightmare..
Thanks for the support

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