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sarah9
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From: india
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posted January 08, 2007 03:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sarah9     Edit/Delete Message
I dont know if anyone read my Earth signs water moon post but this is an update from there.

My Virgo Scorp which was a very close friend of mine has suddently turned the equation of our entire relashionship.

As a background, we got to know each other through our mutual outings. It was never said that we were 'Dating' but thats what it was. We are both extremely shy people. Which is why i gs we understood each other on a deep level.

Well when he left three months later to another location we kept in touch through mails. Which were increasing warm but somehow due to the distance and some misunderstandings the contact petered out...

But its been an year now and the contact keeps renewing someway or the other...either he will contact me or i will.And whenever we talk its like nothing has changed.

Now recently i had been thinking abt him and one fine day suddenly logged in to chat (which is rare). The same day he had sent me 2 offline messages. Well i buzzed him on chat and we talked. During which for the first time in his life he talked romantic. As in he wanted to see my snaps ASAP. Said he still had his soft corner for 'my location'. That he keeps coming across my sweet face and that i need to send him snaps soon until which he wld stare at the lil snap he had of mine.....

He had been keeping and looking at my snaps!!!!And then he asked me when i ws coming down to his location. I asked him when he was coming here and he said somewhere in feb. And then i asked him if he was online everyday and he said yes, lets chat when free.

Now i was on cloud nine. This guy has always hinted at things and never been this direct before. I sent him my snaps the next day and chatted with him. He said i looked v mischevious in them and that i looked great and stuff!haha!

Well after which he sent me a Happy new year mail in which he hinted saying "plan/do something significant by 07.07.07 so that....its easy to remember.
Seeing the sequence of events i wld consider it as a hint fir marraige.

In any case during this time i sent him a couple of offline messages when he was online to which he did not respond. Maybe he didnt get them. And another one recently to which he jst replied with a morning dude...

Pint in fact being that he isnt communicating ....AGAIN!!!!!!!This was one of the main reasons for our losing touch previously too and now he's doing it again. Its put me in a v awkward situation bcos i dont want to send him any messages since he doesnt really reply. And if he really wanted to continue this, why doesnt he drop me a mail or message?

Why has he suddenly gone quiet once agin?????

And what am i supposed to do? Wait and watch to see if he's in two minds reg me or initiate something bcos maybe he needs reassurance....

Pls HELP!

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thedividedsky
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posted January 08, 2007 08:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for thedividedsky     Edit/Delete Message
i'm sorry you are experiencing all that confusion.

I'm glad that you two have become back in touch though...that is GOOD news.

Astrologically, he is a virgo with a scorpio moon. Which, to me are very different signs. He may not be thinking/feeling the same thing everyday, with his scorpio moon, he may be going into extreme feeling periods/extreme retreating periods (for reflection).

I am not one of the "wise" astrologers on this sight, but I know from experience having a virgo sun and scorpio asc combination.

Scorpio kind of mellows the Virgo "orderly" buzz. It can make a virgo much more emotional and moody and needy.

I have found Virgo men find it very hard to express their feelings. And couple that with the scorpio moon, and he may be at some kinds of odds where his feelings sometimes make it out and sometimes they are kept inside.

I think it is a great sign that he looks at your pictures. him telling you this is very important. Do not take it lightly.

I hope he responds soon! And don't worry, as a hard woking virgo(possibly), he may be very caught up in work, and views anything outside work as a "distraction" (no offense to you)

hope that helps....

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Natural111
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posted January 08, 2007 09:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Natural111     Edit/Delete Message
Don't worry, Sarah, guy's do this. All signs. Especially if they haven't said, "let's be a couple". They have to sniff their independence every once in a while. So, just hang back and give it to him. The worst thing you can do is not give it to him, and worry yourself. If he hasn't contacted you in a week or so, then contact him and say, hi, how's it been going. If his reaction is distant and cold, then, yeah, he's got something cooking on the other side, but if not, then, it was the indepedence thing, and he'll be happy you contancted him because now he knows you at least care.

That's been my experience.

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sarah9
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posted January 09, 2007 05:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sarah9     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Dividedsky and natural111

and THANKS for your words. They have reassured me and well....feeling better.

Altho iam going from one mood swing to another and well i just couldnt keep from writing to him. I thought i should act distant after his v brief wish but somehow i dont want the ball in my court.

So wrote to him today after a week saying

"Good morning....looks like chat isnt coinciding. But do drop me a message or mail when free."

And then a one liner abt my mom who isnt well and how the new year eve wasnt so good. After which i ended it with saying "Keep in touch and let me know when youre in my location".

So basically ive tossed the ball right back in his court. Its upto him to respond now. I just couldnt handle the responsibility of logging into chat with him . Why should i reach out all the time?

Anyways, Dividedsky, i liked the description you gave me of the virgo sun,scorp moon. He's a lot like a scorp and does hide his feelings or repress them.

I just have a tendency to think negative rt nw even when i know things seem ok...due to past experiances.

Just hope he doesnt come up to me and say he's with someone else and it wont work out with us....we've been friends for so long.

And if this doesnt work out i would be losing out on a good friend and thats what hurts....

oh well, pls wish me luck knowflakes. I need it!

Thanks!

Regards
Sarah

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sarah9
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posted January 09, 2007 11:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sarah9     Edit/Delete Message
What an idiot....

No answer! He cldve at least put in a word of sympathy cos my mom ws unwell!aaarrrghhhhh

Really wonder what this silence means after so much warmth! Crazy guy...

Sarah

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cancerrg
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posted January 10, 2007 06:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cancerrg     Edit/Delete Message
Even i am coming to back , to say,'HI'

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cancerrg
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posted January 10, 2007 07:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cancerrg     Edit/Delete Message
oh, i just missed it the first time , how is your mother now ?

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sarah9
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posted January 10, 2007 07:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sarah9     Edit/Delete Message
How NICE of u to ask me that cancerrg!Thanks! She is better but it will take time for her to totally recover...

How have u been?

My life is in such a turmoil right now yknow!I mean how can someone be SO direct one time and withdraw suddenly???I mean what kind of people exist in this world? Makes you want to lose your trust in everything and everyone.

Iam SO hurt...

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cancerrg
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posted January 11, 2007 08:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for cancerrg     Edit/Delete Message
Dont be !
thats the way it is !
i dont really know virgos , so i can't comment .i would suggest you to withdraw your self a bit . once you do that , you feel a bit less hurt !

yeah , i am ok . theek hu!

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sarah9
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posted January 12, 2007 12:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sarah9     Edit/Delete Message
Cancerrg,

I really need to know what the reason could be for this behaviour....any clues?I need resolution!

Reg
Sarah

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