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Lucia23
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posted January 22, 2009 02:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lucia23     Edit/Delete Message
I'm having a tough time lately with men and relationships, and I have decided to try to really be alone for the first time in my life.

But my Scorpio friend is making it hard. I feel like he doesn't actually want me, but he wants me to want him, which seems mean right now when I feel so vulnerable. I'm very attracted to him and I also like him as a friend/person...I don't want to write off our friendship. I can't figure out how to talk to him about this. Any advice?

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PeaceAngel
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posted January 22, 2009 03:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PeaceAngel     Edit/Delete Message
I think that if he genuinely cares about you as a potential lover or as a friend, he'll respect your wishes. I think just tell him how you feel, honestly and however he deals with it reveals his true intentions. And you'll know. And be able to honour your own needs.

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Jugular
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posted January 22, 2009 12:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jugular     Edit/Delete Message
I know exactly the behavior you're talking about and as a woman I can completely relate. My personal take on this is avoid further hurt right now at the hands of the Scorpio. Back off. Distance yourself dramatically. Be consistent with that. If he misses you he should have an epiphany and start to pursue you the way you deserve to be pursued. Otherwise no and you will know where you stand. That applies if you feel vulnerable right now. Good luck to you.

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matildaAtWar
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posted January 22, 2009 01:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for matildaAtWar     Edit/Delete Message
I'm a scorpio, and I know that we tend to be very demanding when it comes to pursuing people we are romantically interested in. We want either all or nothing, and if you give us anything less than what you're capable of giving then we are likely to be disappointed.

My take on this is to be frank to him about the fact that this is not a good time for relationships to you, be honest with him, open yourself up. Scorpios thrive on having deep connections with people we care for. We are innately drawn to secrets and we value complete honesty more than anything else. Being frank in communicating your feelings with him will probably earn you his respect. Please do not oblige just because he seems demanding, instinct tells me it will not end well in the long-run.

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Lucia23
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posted January 22, 2009 07:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lucia23     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you so much for the good advice.

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