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topshelf
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posted January 23, 2009 04:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for topshelf     Edit/Delete Message

Hi all...
I've been friends with this cappy for quite some time.
Last fall we started flirting with each other.
You know..the kind that goes somewhere.
in fact, just before Christmas we questioned one anothers motives. "What are we doing" Is this what we want?
We let that sink in and then I told him that I wanted more...From there it has gone all wrong.. we now miscommunicate and are frustrated. I don't want this to mess up our friendship. I just think he's holding back..Sun square Moon is the major theme here.. Anyone see him as holding back kind of guy.. or is there just no real springboard to get it off the ground. God I over analyze...

Thanks

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cheshirekat
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posted January 23, 2009 05:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for cheshirekat     Edit/Delete Message
Wow! This seems like the complete opposite of just what I've been through with a real good Capricorn friend, lol. He wanted more and I was just distant and I too am a Virgo and now we can't communicate as good as we use to.

I just started study synastry for this reason, so I can learn from the mistakes I made in our friendship and try to be a better friend,instead of a jerk.

Im not good at reading synastry aspects yet but from what I can tell if he's distant, he's probably feeling unsure at the moment. I wish I could help more though >.<.

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topshelf
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posted January 23, 2009 08:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for topshelf     Edit/Delete Message
thanks.. wow the opposite eh? I know I've often been on the other side of the coin myself.

He is not really distant..just not forthcoming with the way he feels. He really initiated this. I just want to move forward or go back to the way it was.

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MyVirgoMask
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posted January 24, 2009 04:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MyVirgoMask     Edit/Delete Message
You both have Aries moons????
Am I seeing right?

Your Saturn looks like it RIGHT on top of this moon. That's not easy. He's going to hold back emotionally even more and watch his emotions because he feels scrutinized. It's also true to his Cappy nature anyway. You want a Cappy, they take their time making progress...don't move forward unless it's in surefooted steps. That means stages of development. That also means he is planning his moves *carefully* because he's leaving nothing to chance.
It looks like his Venus is in Aquarius? It's good that you have the element of friendship on your side. Venus Aquas are generally NOT demonstrative. Does his Venus square your sun, by any chance?
How are your Venuses together? Do they make an aspect? Tension between them can create a feeling of distance when you want closeness.
At any rate, he's not the kind to be pushed...at all. He comes forward at his own pace. Let it build slowly. He's holding back because it's his nature but I think your Saturn might be doing something to his moon and he's feeling self-conscious.
Ease up and let him come to you.
You guys both need to stop over-analyzing and expecting so much, you'll ruin the friendship AND any other potential if you don't stop doing that.
Your styles of communication seem like they're very different.

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topshelf
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posted January 24, 2009 08:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for topshelf     Edit/Delete Message
mvm

yes, we both have Aries moons...iknow, right?

His Sun/Merc square my moon.
Our Venus's do not make an aspect. His Venus sextiles my Saturn almost exact.
That moon /saturn conj is tough.. I see it in his eyes.. plus his moon is in the 12th to add to the feeling of "not sure" I think the venus/ saturn connection softens this a bit or it might not have gotten this far.

We communicate much better face to face.
Most of my relationships have started off at a boil and then simmer nicely.
This one (my first w/ a Cappy) seems to sit at a simmer and will have to be brought to a boil.
We live about an hour away from each other.
But both have summer spots at the same place. This is a large group of friends that spend weekends together.
I think he is hesitant to take our relationship to the next level because it would risk the group if it goes sour. I am in agreement because that whole part of my life is very important to me too. I don't want to feel like I have to leave because he's a jerk or vice' versa' lol
Aries moon ... act on impulse then deal w/ the fall out..
As we are both older its easier to tame that notion.. but it can suck the "spirit" out of it all.
Thanks for your reply.. it helps to have a confirmation on the cappy slow to go...
Maybe I should stick to the water boys
And yes, my biggest challenge, as a Virgo, has been to "get out of my own way"

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MyVirgoMask
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posted January 24, 2009 09:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MyVirgoMask     Edit/Delete Message
Topshelf, I'm a Virgo with an Aries moon too
And mine's also in the 12th. It's a weird place for it to be. Our own emotions are sometimes a mystery to us. It's possibly the same way for him too. The Aries-ness is a bit more hidden in the 12th...and also more sudden when it hits LOL

I wouldn't worry about the situation in general too much...try and relax your Saturn a bit if you can
It sounds like both of you are being mature about the whole thing, but maybe a bit too hesitant of the effects the involvement may have, so that you're both worrying too much about the future. That can make you both edgy toward each other.

It's probably just off to a rocky start but will continue nonetheless.
That Mars in Scorpio of his doesn't make a hasty move, either, but whatever steps it takes are pretty deliberate and passionate. I don't feel he's the type to just abandon.

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topshelf
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posted January 25, 2009 08:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for topshelf     Edit/Delete Message
mvm..

I have noticed quite a few Virgo/Aries moon
people here Do you happen to know how many? Are they all female?
What do you feel was the pull to Astrology?

With your moon in the 12th, are you often more suspicous of others intentions? Do you take things more/or not so personally than other Aries moons..?
My mars is in Scorpio (referring to your post).. I'm the passionate one
His mars is in Libra.. I would think this increases his desire for partnership but may make him a tad selfish and indecisive.
I'm more agressive by nature and just want to lay it all out there.. all or nothing..."sigh"
I, however, will take your advice and be patient.. let him come to me.. and try to roll with his flow..
Relax? are you kidding? No, I read to relax. I read anything..lol I'll even read the back of a cereal box. It helps me get straight

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heathernicole
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posted February 01, 2009 01:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for heathernicole     Edit/Delete Message
Hey guys I am the new kid on the block
I was reading and wanted to let you know that I am also a Virgo Sun/Aries Moon/Scorpio in Mars.

Sill trying to learn . . as the info is a little overwhelming!

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topshelf
Knowflake

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posted February 01, 2009 10:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for topshelf     Edit/Delete Message
Hi heather

Welcome

Wow! there must be 4 or 5 (at least) with this sun/moon combo.
I would be interested to know how old we all are?
My Mars in Scorpio is my favorite part of my chart.
I am mostly earth and water = mud lol

Do you find yourself in relationships with Scorpios. I do.. my weakness for sure.

As an update.. things are going much better with the Cappy!
He has finally started to open up to me.
I retreated a little and that seemed to do it..We now plan to spend next weekend together. I am still cautious to a degree but we have both agreed to not assume things with each other. This will help us not have misunderstandings. We are being honest with our feelings no matter how weird it feels.. no regrets...
This is so refreshing to me.
i've told him that I am not hard to impress at all .. to impress me all you need to do is ... be real

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