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JMommaSlim
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Posts: 39
From: Fayetteville, NC
Registered: Apr 2007

posted March 25, 2009 02:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for JMommaSlim     Edit/Delete Message
I love my Virgo to death and we became engaged a few months back, but still don't have a date. We've been together 15 months now. Honestly, right about now, I just think he gave me the ring to keep me around. Ive asked him about it before, but all he says is I want to do things right, which I understand since hes been married before and Im not trying to get married ASAP, I just want a round-a-bout YEAR but he wont give me that either. I'm sooooooo tired of guessing, since he NEVER wants to talk about it. I just need incite I guess. Is he serious? Is he READY for what I'm ready for now, or is the ring just to keep me around until he is? What do I do? Not to mention it seems like his mother might be ANOTHER obstacle for us, or at least ME to overcome. *sigh* and just when I thought I had my Virgo figured out, he throws me for yet ANOTHER mystery.


Now, while I love a good mystery, this is getting old. I WANT/NEED STABILITY at this point and while the roller coaster was fun in the beginning (and a tad bit nauseating to say the least), Im ready to get off.

HIM: 17 Sep 79 @ 0138 AM Jersey City, NJ
ME: 12 Nov 81 @ 1230 PM Columbus, GA

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BlueTopaz124
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Posts: 1566
From: Portland, OR
Registered: Jan 2004

posted March 26, 2009 12:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for BlueTopaz124     Edit/Delete Message
Go with what your instincts are screaming right now. You have a lot of questions you need answered about this guy, but it's all right there.

Whenever you have questions that you're half asking and half have the answer to already, you're seeing things but questioning it at the same time.

I get the sense this guy has been throwing you off-balance and that is never good. It's because he's not directly dealing with you in a relationship, he's dancing around it. Your questions are coming from what you're seeing and experiencing.

Take a step back, take a deep breath and decide for you what you want to happen. Then...talk to him and ask for what you want from him in a relationship. Maybe this with him needs to develop more and you need to get to know each other more (?) A good heart-to heart with him when you're both calm and in a good place will help.

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Mama Mia
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posted March 26, 2009 10:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
Try Pillow talk, I have learned that a man is most open and tender after love making. Try talking him about your concerns after you guys make love.

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JMommaSlim
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Posts: 39
From: Fayetteville, NC
Registered: Apr 2007

posted March 26, 2009 10:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for JMommaSlim     Edit/Delete Message
Yeah, that's if I can get him to. Did you see one of my other posts? Scorpio vs Virgo: WHERE'D THE SEX GO. LOL!

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Mama Mia
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posted March 26, 2009 10:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mama Mia     Edit/Delete Message
Yeah I saw that, there is definetly something here to be concerned about, he's not commnicating and he is not making love,beaware..Hope you work it out...

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