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GypseeWind
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posted June 19, 2010 04:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message
Yes, I must confess, I watched 'Field of Dreams' the other night.

It got me to thinking... in the movie Kevin Costner has voices telling him things to do, which make no sense at first, and he must have faith in each step he takes before more information is revealed. ALOT of faith, he almost loses his farm!

I don't have voices talking to me, if you do, more power to you! But it just got me thinking about the whole process of creating what you want.

So, if you build it... The Perfect Relationship (k, nothings perfect, but I mean perfect in a sense that most of your needs and wants are there) IN YOUR MIND, as in visualizing it, do you believe HE/SHE WILL COME??

Has it happened to anyone? I'de love to hear your experiences, if you care to share??

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posted June 19, 2010 04:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message
Been reading alot of Dyer lately and accodring to him absolutely!

I have in the past experienced what I keep my thoughts on, I really beleive thoughts are things, this keyboard had to be though of before I was able to type on it, for example.

The problem seems to lie, with my intentions, of letting go. It seems that when I remain emotionally attached to outcome then manifestation can not occur, but when i harbour a thought in my head it does maifest.

The other key, from what I have experienced it not only letting go, but letting go of the process to the outcome, and that is the scary part.

Ask for money, be able to accept whatever way the money comes, ask for a great love, be willing to accept when that great love needs to leave, etc.

I manifested my first house, my first (and only marriage), Pisces ex used to say "you conjoured me now deal with me!!! "

Lately tho, I have not been focused enough, nor grounded enough to manifest anything cept for peace from letting go, and that is exactly what I have manifested this time!

blessings

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posted June 19, 2010 05:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message
There's an example of this in a book called Write It Down, Make It Happen. I actually copied one of the things written by the woman featured in the chapter.

If only I'd stuck to that, and not let myself feel anxious, or get hooked on a certain person, I might have drawn someone better to me. Feeling better about myself in general would have helped, too, obviously.

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posted June 19, 2010 05:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cardinal Arbiter     Edit/Delete Message
If you learn to accept, you'll be be satisfied. It's all in yourself; all relationships are perfect. Whether they will show you how to accept or not, don't eat up implication that you should dedicate eachother to eachother, unless you know you will forget without him, but don't lie to yourself for greed on that point. Actually if you forget without them, then that's unhealthy to become dependent on, and you gotta find another place to learn.

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posted June 19, 2010 05:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message
I don't find it healthy to accept being treated badly.. it might be fine to find acceptance in walking away, or distancing oneself for a while, but there is no way that accepting something that someone did would be good for me right now.

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posted June 19, 2010 05:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cardinal Arbiter     Edit/Delete Message
I didn't mean to imply that you should accept being abused. But rather accept that that's where they're at in their journey of conscious, so you can't hate them for it. If they can't do it themselves and they're imposing on you teach them better. But just don't hold it again them, and you wont have hate for them in you, and that's all that brings you down.

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posted June 20, 2010 03:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PeaceAngel     Edit/Delete Message
Gpys, yeah, I believe you can manifest that person into your life. I also think you have to be ready to accept it.

Years ago I wrote down a list of the qualities I wanted in a partner and my (now) husband came along and matched them (and then some). In retrospect, I should have been a bit more specific, but you know what you know and when you know better, or different... I'd be adding "enjoys doing housework" and "helps around the house" if I were doing one now.

So, if you're going to do that, make sure you don't hold out, say EVERYTHING you want in someone. And then play the waiting game. I swear by that. I've seen it work.

I think it's a balance of what you're meant to have, something pre-destinned, and you connecting to it at the right time and also you choosing to bring it into your life.

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posted June 20, 2010 05:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Virgo-AriesArtist     Edit/Delete Message
I think manifestation is most definitely possible! I skimmed though a book called "He's Just Not That Into You" (it couldn't keep my attention), but stumbled across a great "exercise" in the back, regarding making a list of what you will and won't put up with in a relationship. They did advise keeping it clear and concise.

Well, I'm pleased to say after writing it down, and putting it up on my bedroom wall, exactly 13 days later I was asked out by my now fiance. He and I had been friends before that, but he stepped up and took the initiative in taking our relationship to another level and it's been totally worth it He's everything on that list, and more.

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posted June 20, 2010 05:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mermaid26     Edit/Delete Message
I like how PA says it. Yes, I believe you can attract what you desire. So don't be shy of high expectations and yes, narrow down the specifics on paper for a visual aid to a plan for action.
Wishing now I would of asked for "writes dreamy romantic poetry to me and serenades me, etc...LOL...husband told me not to hold my breath for a poem and he can't carry a tune. Guess I can't have everything.

Seriously though, my first engagement, back in high school, was to an abusive, drug dealing, controlling a**. (thank you for the lesson Universe) I don't know how, miracle...grace of God...but I met my husband in Nov. 1983, senior year and we are still together. We didn't exactly rush into marriage or having children...I'm pretty cautious, probably from the previous experience and my family background. He's slow and cautious by nature. Anyways, my husband is an honorable, highly productive, service & goal oriented, sometimes halo wearing Virgo. He's not perfect by any means. Sometimes that cold, Cap. moon and cantankerous Cancerian Jup. play out. I reflect it right back at him, water sign, what can I say?

My first relationship, I was young and looking for any kind of male attention, maybe even Daddy love (he was 4 years older)
One thing I knew was that I wasn't going to be controlled since I like my freedoms too much. I wish that I knew how I got so lucky...I did go through a very dark, depressive period as a teen prior to meeting my husband. He's my testimony that I was not forsaken for my trial. He was also incredibly supportive of me through my recent medical trials. We do have a mutual understanding in our relationship of not intentionally hurting one another. The future is all about blind faith though.
I'm constantly trying to strengthen my faith.

I think we do go through stages of adjusting our wants, needs, and desires. So yes, like Maya Angelou says "when you know better, you do better." Looking back should guide you how to move forward toward your goal. It's easy to lose ourselves and the sight of our goals.

I even started wishing on the New Moon 2 months ago to help me manifest my dreams. It basically involves handwriting a list of wishes. Anything that encourages positivity helps fuel me and propel me forward.

So yes, you can build a good relationship. Especially when you have a good set of plans and use quality materials. Most importantly, know that you are worthy of such.

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GypseeWind
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posted June 20, 2010 08:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message
Great stories everyone!

A couple of things jumped out during this, my first time reading all of your thoughts.

I read 'Write it Down, Make it Happen'. I had it so long from the library, I basically transcribed it. I wrote it down, it didn't happen... more to say on that later.

I just watched 'He's Just Not That Into You' for the first time. That was a cute movie. I haven't read the book, it's by Greg Barrenz? Or something like that? This kinda stuff reminds me of those 'The Rules' books, that make me feel like I can't be spontaneous, because I'm supposed to follow some script to ensure success. Yuck. I can't do that.

And in that movie, the girl that does everything wrong, is the one that falls in love, because she has an open heart, something I truly believe in.

I think the problem is this...

You may have an idea in your mind of your perfect person, and you may honestly believe you want/need/desire/deserve this person, but your ACTIONS might say something totally different!

Like while waiting you may see your ex. You may say, "Oh, it's nothing!" But what you are really saying is "I need to fill my time with someone I've deemed inappropriate, hence the term ex, until the right one comes."

Seems counterproductive.

Then again, are you supposed to be a nun while waiting.
(This is why a Libra Moon will drive you nutty!)

PA, couldn't you just manifest a desire in your husband to suddenly do dishes or laundry, or 2 hour foot massages? Wouldn't that be great?

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posted June 20, 2010 10:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MysticMelody     Edit/Delete Message
I like this thread... I just read all the way through and it started the wheels a turning. Thinking how I did write such a list and put so much emotional longing and intention toward the outcome that I did manifest exactly what I asked for (and it was the most meaningful deep personal day to day man/woman partnership I have had up to now) but that led me to compare my list and wish to the story of the Monkey's Paw (meaning be careful what you wish for)...
so I wanted to agree whole-heartedly that you can indeed manifest your wishes and then I started (rightfully) wondering what the heck my problem was... nodding along when you girls mentioned not being in the right frame of mind for manifesting etc type of comments...
so I started wondering WHY I hadn't written such a list and I answered myself with, "I'm not ready to write" such a list and I wondered WHY then, if I am so tired of my life as it is and claim to want a relationship, and then I thought, "Because I don't know exactly what I want to put on that list to make it perfect."
And that answered my question.
Sadly.
Strangely.
Truthfully.

They say you need to grow into the person you are meant to be before you can attract the person you are meant to be with, and I obviously don't feel comfortable making my Last And Final Wish yet. I mean, I am cloooose, but not just right yet. So, I probably have more growing to do myself, which I don't want to hear because I want someone to grow with me... so maybe I should just quit being afraid and go for it with the list I have...
but maybe I will leave out some important things like MUST BE PEACEFUL AND GENTLE while still being strong. Yeah, have to make sure to put that in.
We should compile a list. The perfect man list. We'll start a thread and everyone will add to it and we can just cut and paste it to our list, print it out and then study it for a few months 'till the astrological time is right for manifestation. Who knows... maybe the power of our thoughts will make a bunch of men simultaneously grow and learn new things so as to be ready for us. Kind of like the 100th monkey. :/

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posted June 21, 2010 02:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message
"Because I don't know exactly what I want to make it perfect."

EXACTLY, in a nutshell, that is my problem too!!

I mean, I have the framework in mind, but the details are conflicting.
Plus, I think I haven't resolved feelings for certain people in the past. I guess you can't move forward without resolving your past, but when your past is in your face every day, it's kinda hard. *sigh*

I like your idea of a list. We should do that.

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posted June 21, 2010 04:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for seeker3030     Edit/Delete Message
Wow! This thread leapt out at me and lo and behold it fits exactly what I've been turning my attention to over the past few weeks! Love the way the universe organises such things.. very neat - I reckon the Universe must have Virgo somewhere prominent

Anyway... to cut a long story almost non-existent I've been trying to come up with my list for the perfect partner and I keep coming back to that film 'Practical Magic' - it's the true love spell she does when she's a little girl; because she never wants to fall in love she gathers together all the qualities in a man she thinks can't possibly exist "one green eye, one blue; he'll hear my call a mile away; he'll be marvellously kind" etc etc. She thinks if she puts all those together no man could ever embody them all and therefore she'll never have to fall in love.

It got me thinking that maybe that's why things don't work for us sometimes when we make these wish lists - maybe part of us is scared of it actually coming true? The fear allows doubt to creep in and doubting wrecks the process because you're not detached and accepting. It's no accident that the word 'doubting' contains the lexi 'no god in it'. Accepting on the other hand has 'I get it' so I suppose that's the secret???

In the film of course she created exactly what she thought she didn't want but there's the rub - you create whatever you place your focussed attention on. She was working a spell and she believed in magic so would have no doubt that her spell would work... it worked as it should and brought her what she'd ordered.

So there we are.. simple! Now we just have to put it into practice! Yeah I talk a good theory!

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posted June 21, 2010 06:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Unmoved     Edit/Delete Message
After the Mr Aries saga. I took my old list and started reevaluating. Then this thread comes up. Wow.

I'll elaborate later in the week. Thanks for the synchronicity.

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posted June 22, 2010 02:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message
LL is the sanctuary of synchronicity, right?


Seeker, I LOVE that movie, I have watched it soooo many times! The book is even better, btw.

Yeah, I've been watching people at work tonight, and all I can come up with is what I definetly DON'T want!!! LOL!

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posted June 22, 2010 05:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for starkiss1     Edit/Delete Message
Well, I know somebody who built it...
And waited for him to come...

And waited...

And waited...

And then she had enough...

JK!!!

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posted June 22, 2010 08:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Virgo-AriesArtist     Edit/Delete Message
Just to add to the amusement factor, ....

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posted June 22, 2010 10:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ekf     Edit/Delete Message
I have had a lot of success with the visual manifestation personally. This guy that I've been doing on again and off again I started focusing on seeing him in situations in my future and really beyond all logical explanation he came back out of nowhere.

There's this LA psychic called the soulmate medium who says that wanting someone specific can create tension around that desire and push it further into the future, but if you make it your intention to want a loving relationship and view all of your actions as feeding that intention, the energy is more positive and it comes to you.

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posted June 22, 2010 10:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for starkiss1     Edit/Delete Message
Virgo-Aries, I think we are the only ones who think it's funny...watch out for the flying red arrows!

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posted June 22, 2010 07:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message
NOT!!! I do too think it's funny, I just wasn't here to laugh. Now I'm laughing!!!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

That would be me on the bench.

Seriously though, how many times have you heard people say, "It came when I wasn't even looking, when I totally gave up!"

There might be something to that too.

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posted June 26, 2010 01:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Unmoved     Edit/Delete Message
So, in 2005 I made a list. It was on my computer. I described the guy I desired from head to toe, to his eye color and his hobbies.

He showed up, as Mr. Aries, I thought. He was everything I listed accept for a few items. Mr. Aries wasn't as debonair as the guy I asked for. Nor was Mr. Aries as mature or as confident as the guy I asked for. The hair color was different and there were other things that didn't gel. As we all know, Mr. Aries considers me as just a friend. So, I have wondered ever since, what mistake I made in the conjuring process. And, maybe, it wasn't Mr. Aries. Maybe Mr. Aries was the intermediary before my guy shows up? I don't know.

Now I am doing a new list. It has changed a bit. More specific. More honest, but still quite similar.

So, I am still unsure about this, if you build it he will come, but I hope its true. I am building it. I am fixing my life getting ready to share it with someone special.

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posted June 26, 2010 05:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message
last eve me, my aqua daughter, my aries daughter and her cap gf sat in a circle and passed around a piece of paper listing the qualities of my man....

figured the conjuring process would be strengthened by a circle of all the elements,

we will see!!!

t~~~

ps then we went to a gay bar

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posted June 26, 2010 07:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Geocosmic* Valentine     Edit/Delete Message
Hippiechick,

"Then we went to a gay bar."


My experience with visualization has been sparse but powerful. I did an music exercise in 1999. I wrote 90 songs in 90 days. You really have to let go of perfection in order to do that so I was prepared to write some truly awful songs and be alright with it. Well, about 30 of the songs that I wrote turned out to be prophetic to a relationship that happened a for me a year later. The songs predicted and him and described him and the man who materialized was the most attractive man I had ever seen, even though he was short and fat!!

My most recent materialization is happening in a strange way. I was having some issues with my age, 43, and the fact that I'm an entertainer so I thought it would be a good idea to purchase the "I Love Lucy" TV series box set and study Lucille Ball in depth, in her chart and her relationship. I chose her because she didn't begin the "I Love Lucy" show until she was 40. I needed to understand this deep in my soul.

As I've been watching the shows in order and studying along with a biography and her chart, I've also been learning about her husband Desi Arnaz (Ricky Ricardo). There relationship was rocky and he was quite adulterous but their dynamic was very interesting in terms of show business.

But what happened is that I kept saying to myself, "Wow, Desi was really hot (so was Lucy)!" and I loved his business sense on screen as Ricki Ricardo, musician; and as Desi Arnaz, producer. So, what has happened? I may have materialized a spanish actor from Spain without even realizing it. He looks nothing like Desi Arnaz, more like Dave Navarro.

...and I wasn't even trying. It's just been the studying and the visualization as TV watching. This has been going on since February - Valentine's Day - to be exact. Nothing has happened yet, and may not happen, it's just thick in the air and a highly strange coincidence.

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posted June 29, 2010 02:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message
@ Unmovedy-moved,

I have heard that same thing many, many times.
Right before you get "The One," you get the "I think it's the one."

SIGH.

Sometimes everything is so flippin complicated, dammit man!

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posted June 29, 2010 04:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message
Hippichick, I love that idea, just not sure about the afterward reinforcement part! LOL!

But, I'm hoping you had a good time, actually I'm pretty sure you did!

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