posted September 06, 2010 12:19 AM
I've contemplated that question more than any other one of 'those questions' that we all have.
Here is what I've come up with... and keep in mind, this is just my own personal truth, yours may be totally different.
I think that sometimes we go after these 'unavailable' types, because we instinctively know that nothing comes of it, (usually) and what it boils down to is that we really don't want a relationship, sometimes we just think we do.!
If at some point you open up to one of the other ones (which I did many years ago, after my soul was battered and bruised from the first type), you then understand that maybe what had turned you off from the nice guys in the first place is the fact that you knew that if you got with them, you would have to change. You might have to let down your walls, learn to co-exist with another, and GULP! Be happy!
Believe it of not being happy scares the crap out of alot of folks, because there is always that dread that your happiness can be taken away.
Misery and/or lonliness are comfortable places for some of us, because there is no where to fall lower than that. So, you know what to expect.
Now this might make absolutely no sense, and if it doesn't please excuse me! Sag's tend to go on long philosophical ramblings. We really can't help it!
Anyway, I just think, or chose to believe that when you are truly ready to have a deep meaningful r/ship, someone is sent to you.
Good Luck Sweetie.