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Nephthys
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posted September 05, 2010 12:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nephthys     Edit/Delete Message
*********sigh***********

Why is it, that............all the ones who want me, I don't want!

And the ones I want, don't seem to want me?

*A Big Sigh*

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Mysticknowflake
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posted September 05, 2010 06:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mysticknowflake     Edit/Delete Message
We always want what we can't have....

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Nephthys
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posted September 05, 2010 12:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nephthys     Edit/Delete Message
It's not that I can't have them................

It's that they aren't very responsive.........

Thanks, for the reply!

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eskimono
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posted September 05, 2010 05:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for eskimono     Edit/Delete Message
Could it be that with the ones you don't want, you are completely yourself - no pretence, no games. But with the ones you want, you can't behave normally so they don't see what a great person you are?

Don't have the answer though! Sorry. Struggling with this one myself. x

Quite self-affirming though - that people fall for the 'real' you?

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GypseeWind
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posted September 06, 2010 12:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for GypseeWind     Edit/Delete Message
I've contemplated that question more than any other one of 'those questions' that we all have.

Here is what I've come up with... and keep in mind, this is just my own personal truth, yours may be totally different.

I think that sometimes we go after these 'unavailable' types, because we instinctively know that nothing comes of it, (usually) and what it boils down to is that we really don't want a relationship, sometimes we just think we do.!

If at some point you open up to one of the other ones (which I did many years ago, after my soul was battered and bruised from the first type), you then understand that maybe what had turned you off from the nice guys in the first place is the fact that you knew that if you got with them, you would have to change. You might have to let down your walls, learn to co-exist with another, and GULP! Be happy!

Believe it of not being happy scares the crap out of alot of folks, because there is always that dread that your happiness can be taken away.
Misery and/or lonliness are comfortable places for some of us, because there is no where to fall lower than that. So, you know what to expect.

Now this might make absolutely no sense, and if it doesn't please excuse me! Sag's tend to go on long philosophical ramblings. We really can't help it!

Anyway, I just think, or chose to believe that when you are truly ready to have a deep meaningful r/ship, someone is sent to you.
Good Luck Sweetie.

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MysticMelody
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posted September 07, 2010 08:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MysticMelody     Edit/Delete Message
eskimono! That is so true. ♥

I'm sorry you are experiencing those feelings, Nepth. Life's a long, strange trip for sure.

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Nephthys
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posted September 07, 2010 11:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nephthys     Edit/Delete Message
The ones I want are available..........

I am attracted to European men......

American men are not doing it for me.......

American men are not gentlemen. They don't know how to treat a woman. American men do not know romance. American men swear all the time. I wasn't placed on this earth to hear the F word all the time. American men bore the **** out of me. American men have tons of emotional issues, usually come from divorced parents where 1 cheated on the other.........etc.etc.etc.

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