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T O P I C R E V I E Wmaleja.rangelHello guys, Im coming here for help. We have a big argument between my long term partner and me around a week ago, since then, we haven't talked at all. I have been trying to reach him out because I feel in some way it was my fault and I hurted him, he is a very sensitive person but also a very closed person. We have been together for almost a decade. I wonder if is possible to see a reconciliation between us? I know it was my mistake but I think we can make it out. I will post our charts with transits.SYNASTRY COMPOSITE I checked we have saturn transiting our 7th house and Im very scared with that, also the transit chiron is squaring to composite saturn and pluto. Any help would be very much appreacciated, we love deeply but sometimes when there a fights things can get quite rocky between us, I feel like something is missing with me when I have this kind of arguments. I can keep going with things but it's just I deeply care and want to get old with him. you know? hahaha I just hate when this kind of situations happen between us.Thank you again livvywatermonkeyHello Maleja,Sorry to hear about your breakup These are things I notice -Your Mars opposite his Neptune - he may feel you have the upper hand in arguments, like he bruises more easily than you, or is more sensitive in the areas which are activated in you both when you fight, so I wonder if he may become extra secretive/withdrawn, to try & regain some sense of control in himself?I also use progressed synastry, here is what I notice:His progressed Sun, opposite your natal Moon-Venus conjunction, on the cusp of Pisces/Aries, forming a T-square with his natal Neptune & your natal Mars -The progressed Sun-natal Venus opposition doesn’t signify the absence of attraction, far from it, but I wonder if your breakup is partly a manifestation of an inner tension or confusion within him, as he may be desiring to take more of an active or responsible role in your relationship, but doesn’t know how how to initiate this change in your dynamic? Maybe he is even unconsciously testing your boundaries to see if you will respond well to him being more direct & assertive?Hope this helps <3maleja.rangelHey dear livvyOMG, yes! He becomes extra secretive when we have an argument, like he just dissapear and make me wonder what is going on and make me feel like looking and looking just because probably he wants to regain control. I never have seen it in that way, how do you think I can help him to not feel that way? What do you mean with doesn’t signify the absence of attraction? I’m sorry, my English sometimes isn’t very good. You are so right, like sometimes I feel he push my boundaries and I don’t really respond well, like probably I make drama or start thinking about random things that aren’t even real lol Damn, i hate insecurities . Honestly I love when he takes charge lol, and when he is responsible, and probably he does love that, but maybe he doesn’t feel that way and I’m not happy about it but in the last months the things are complicated because he isn’t having a good time, he is having his nodal return and I’m always there for him. Pd: we didn’t have a formal break up, it’s like i pushed him to talk and decide but he just hasn’t answered at all. So I’m not really sure if he is thinking what to say, fixing his life, I don’t really know, or if we absolutely have a break up. It wasn’t something like oh lets have space or lets break this. Haha, that’s why im so anxious. Isn’t the first time this happens, it’s been like 2 or 3 times during our relationship that he just dissapear haha, isn’t like I hate that, but I just hate not to be sure what is going on with his mind. It’s kind of crazy Thank you so much livvywatermonkeyIf you enter your birth data here - http://astrowin.org/scripts/prog_synastry_process.php - you’ll see the interpretation for progressed/natal Sun-Venus opposition comes up for you both ... that is your most significant progressed aspect right now, & it doesn’t necessarily signify breakup or loss of attraction, indeed it is often seen at the beginning of a relationship so it is rather an attracting factor Maybe you can show him you understand things are hard for him right now, but also show you enjoy it when he takes the lead, & you could work on not being too insecure when he gets it wrong or doesn’t do it exactly right, so then he is comfortable learning with you if he feels he cannot learn about taking the lead with you without feeling embarrassed, he will be afraid of making a mistake, feel frustrated & give up, & not be there when you need comforting you can be the one place he feels good about himself, confident & worthy of praise when everything else is hard By the way, how did you get your images so big on the forum? I need to learn how to do that!!maleja.rangelwhat a great advice, thank you so much dear, I feel you are so accurated about our dynamic everytime that we have an argument, so thank you for pointing that out. I use bb image, i upload the image, select the option "BB Complete Linked" and I just paste here the link without the S in each https. Hope it works for you maleja.rangelI would love if @stoika see this!!!! I love your interpretations. Thank youlivvywatermonkeyThanks Maleja Stoika7Hi maleja.rangeltransiting Saturn is square to Composite Pluto/Mercury and transiting Uranus is exactly square to the composite ASC/DSC axis and opposite Mercury. So Uranus brings abrupt events at communication level, and with Saturn square Pluto/Mercury it seems that there are basic issues which need to get addressed but neither of the two is willing to make compromise, there a re stubborn attitudes... Saturn square Mercury is very frustrating and may be unfavourable to solve the core issue in short time... transiting Jupiter is square to the Venus/Mercury midpoint, and I can't see serious break up transits, so I guess that a compromise will be found.tr. mercury is trine Venus and transiting Mars is sextile Moon and to the Mars/Venus midpoint, I dont think it will take too long for reconciliation... even so Saturn will leave frustration, resentment and communciation will be difficult for a while, especially if the core issue is not addressed, tr. Chiron square to Neptune may lead to suppress/ignore things rather than really opening up and find solutions. maleja.rangelThank you Stoika I don’t know if you notice Saturn Conjunt the DC, isn’t this some serious aspect? In addition to what you said, I must said isn’t the first time like a break up in communication happens like in an abrupt way. I have been feeling Uranus and Saturn opposite and squaring Mercury in our composite for a while, and I have been checking and that transits are going to last for a while. I just decide to not look for him, I have been trying to look for him without success, the thing is that we didn’t absolutely break up, that’s why I’m so clueless about it. It’s been a week. Thank you so much Stoika for your time Stoika7Hi dear maleja.rangel!The Mercury/Uranus midpoint is conjunct Jupiter square Mars... this can give such abrupt communication and issue, with difficult compromise when it happens...Transiting Saturn in 7th house, especially in Aquarius, may bring distance and isolation... but doesn't necessarily mean break up. In the context of your Composite and current transits, it looks more like a burden, the square to Mercury is quite harsh at communication level... I think you will talk again as Saturn leaves this square. maleja.rangel quote:Originally posted by Stoika7:Hi dear maleja.rangel!The Mercury/Uranus midpoint is conjunct Jupiter square Mars... this can give such abrupt communication and issue, with difficult compromise when it happens...Transiting Saturn in 7th house, especially in Aquarius, may bring distance and isolation... but doesn't necessarily mean break up. In the context of your Composite and current transits, it looks more like a burden, the square to Mercury is quite harsh at communication level... I think you will talk again as Saturn leaves this square. Oh wow, pretty accurated. So probably will we talk again until next year???? Saturn will leave this square at the end of the year, probably more time so thats probably a pretty much break up hahaha. :SBeen trying to contact him with any success. Thank you Stoika. maleja.rangelPlease, don't forget me Stoika. haha. Thank you. Stoika7Oh no, not next year, lolSaturn is already at one degree away from the square to mercury, so it's going to get more favourable in a month or so... in June, the square won't be there anymore :-)RandallBump!RandallBump!RandallBump!
Im coming here for help.
We have a big argument between my long term partner and me around a week ago, since then, we haven't talked at all. I have been trying to reach him out because I feel in some way it was my fault and I hurted him, he is a very sensitive person but also a very closed person. We have been together for almost a decade.
I wonder if is possible to see a reconciliation between us? I know it was my mistake but I think we can make it out.
I will post our charts with transits.
SYNASTRY
COMPOSITE
I checked we have saturn transiting our 7th house and Im very scared with that, also the transit chiron is squaring to composite saturn and pluto.
Any help would be very much appreacciated, we love deeply but sometimes when there a fights things can get quite rocky between us, I feel like something is missing with me when I have this kind of arguments. I can keep going with things but it's just I deeply care and want to get old with him. you know? hahaha I just hate when this kind of situations happen between us.
Thank you again
Sorry to hear about your breakup
These are things I notice -
Your Mars opposite his Neptune - he may feel you have the upper hand in arguments, like he bruises more easily than you, or is more sensitive in the areas which are activated in you both when you fight, so I wonder if he may become extra secretive/withdrawn, to try & regain some sense of control in himself?
I also use progressed synastry, here is what I notice:His progressed Sun, opposite your natal Moon-Venus conjunction, on the cusp of Pisces/Aries, forming a T-square with his natal Neptune & your natal Mars -
The progressed Sun-natal Venus opposition doesn’t signify the absence of attraction, far from it, but I wonder if your breakup is partly a manifestation of an inner tension or confusion within him, as he may be desiring to take more of an active or responsible role in your relationship, but doesn’t know how how to initiate this change in your dynamic? Maybe he is even unconsciously testing your boundaries to see if you will respond well to him being more direct & assertive?
Hope this helps <3
OMG, yes! He becomes extra secretive when we have an argument, like he just dissapear and make me wonder what is going on and make me feel like looking and looking just because probably he wants to regain control. I never have seen it in that way, how do you think I can help him to not feel that way?
What do you mean with doesn’t signify the absence of attraction? I’m sorry, my English sometimes isn’t very good.
You are so right, like sometimes I feel he push my boundaries and I don’t really respond well, like probably I make drama or start thinking about random things that aren’t even real lol Damn, i hate insecurities . Honestly I love when he takes charge lol, and when he is responsible, and probably he does love that, but maybe he doesn’t feel that way and I’m not happy about it but in the last months the things are complicated because he isn’t having a good time, he is having his nodal return and I’m always there for him.
Pd: we didn’t have a formal break up, it’s like i pushed him to talk and decide but he just hasn’t answered at all. So I’m not really sure if he is thinking what to say, fixing his life, I don’t really know, or if we absolutely have a break up. It wasn’t something like oh lets have space or lets break this. Haha, that’s why im so anxious. Isn’t the first time this happens, it’s been like 2 or 3 times during our relationship that he just dissapear haha, isn’t like I hate that, but I just hate not to be sure what is going on with his mind. It’s kind of crazy
Thank you so much
Maybe you can show him you understand things are hard for him right now, but also show you enjoy it when he takes the lead, & you could work on not being too insecure when he gets it wrong or doesn’t do it exactly right, so then he is comfortable learning with you
if he feels he cannot learn about taking the lead with you without feeling embarrassed, he will be afraid of making a mistake, feel frustrated & give up, & not be there when you need comforting you can be the one place he feels good about himself, confident & worthy of praise when everything else is hard
By the way, how did you get your images so big on the forum? I need to learn how to do that!!
I use bb image, i upload the image, select the option "BB Complete Linked" and I just paste here the link without the S in each https. Hope it works for you
transiting Saturn is square to Composite Pluto/Mercury and transiting Uranus is exactly square to the composite ASC/DSC axis and opposite Mercury. So Uranus brings abrupt events at communication level, and with Saturn square Pluto/Mercury it seems that there are basic issues which need to get addressed but neither of the two is willing to make compromise, there a re stubborn attitudes... Saturn square Mercury is very frustrating and may be unfavourable to solve the core issue in short time... transiting Jupiter is square to the Venus/Mercury midpoint, and I can't see serious break up transits, so I guess that a compromise will be found.tr. mercury is trine Venus and transiting Mars is sextile Moon and to the Mars/Venus midpoint, I dont think it will take too long for reconciliation... even so Saturn will leave frustration, resentment and communciation will be difficult for a while, especially if the core issue is not addressed, tr. Chiron square to Neptune may lead to suppress/ignore things rather than really opening up and find solutions.
I don’t know if you notice Saturn Conjunt the DC, isn’t this some serious aspect?
In addition to what you said, I must said isn’t the first time like a break up in communication happens like in an abrupt way. I have been feeling Uranus and Saturn opposite and squaring Mercury in our composite for a while, and I have been checking and that transits are going to last for a while. I just decide to not look for him, I have been trying to look for him without success, the thing is that we didn’t absolutely break up, that’s why I’m so clueless about it. It’s been a week.
Thank you so much Stoika for your time
The Mercury/Uranus midpoint is conjunct Jupiter square Mars... this can give such abrupt communication and issue, with difficult compromise when it happens...Transiting Saturn in 7th house, especially in Aquarius, may bring distance and isolation... but doesn't necessarily mean break up. In the context of your Composite and current transits, it looks more like a burden, the square to Mercury is quite harsh at communication level... I think you will talk again as Saturn leaves this square.
quote:Originally posted by Stoika7:Hi dear maleja.rangel!The Mercury/Uranus midpoint is conjunct Jupiter square Mars... this can give such abrupt communication and issue, with difficult compromise when it happens...Transiting Saturn in 7th house, especially in Aquarius, may bring distance and isolation... but doesn't necessarily mean break up. In the context of your Composite and current transits, it looks more like a burden, the square to Mercury is quite harsh at communication level... I think you will talk again as Saturn leaves this square.
Oh wow, pretty accurated.
So probably will we talk again until next year????
Saturn will leave this square at the end of the year, probably more time so thats probably a pretty much break up hahaha. :S
Been trying to contact him with any success.
Thank you Stoika.
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