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T O P I C R E V I E WHomesickJourneyWomanThis gentleman and knew each other a long time ago, and back then I had a huge crush on him, however I didn't have the courage to make a move. He felt the same, but he never let on. In hindsight, we both seemed to be dancing around something but never admitting to it. Major Elephant in the Room situation. People assumed we were together, though. We met up again by chance last year and have been corresponding since then. I feel very attracted to him, but also ambivalent. He's indicated interest, but I'm being very cautious partially because of my personality and partially as I have a history of abusive relationships. We have a way of pushing each others buttons, and we can't keep information from each other if we try. Whenever reluctant to talk about something, all he has to do is keep pressing (relatively gently) for me to spill all, but that's a two-way street as I can do the same to him. However, I have a...nebulous...feeling that we're not really seeing each other as we are. Whenever we've had misunderstandings they come down to that - not seeing each other clearly. And that concerns me. I can tell you that if anything describes our connection, it's INTENSE. It was that way back then, and it's that way now. I would love to think the second chance is the charm, but I don't know. He's not rushing me or anything, but I still feel doubts.What do you guys see?Me: Aug 5, 1977; 14:27 EDT; 40N55, 72W40Him: Nov 22, 1974; 8:21 GMT; 51N53, 2W14Syn chartDavison chartComposite chartThank you in advance for any advice/analysis you can give.------------------My natal chart*************************"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting."-e.e. cummingsHomesickJourneyWomanOh, dear.Did I post in the wrong forum again?------------------My natal chart*************************"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting."-e.e. cummingsLaLunaMaterHey there, who hasn't been hurt and questioned trying again, right?Well looking at your IC in Pisces with him putting his Moon and Jupiter right on it would speak to feeling nebulous since you have no placements in Pisces except for that IC.It's not unusual to be getting to know someone and have misunderstandings. Why don't you sit in a quiet place and let your mind rest, focusing on breathing. Once you feel no attachment, however long or however many tries at meditation it takes to get to that grounded place, ask the question "Is he the right person for me?" Then you need to sleep, the best time to meditate is before sleep, in my opinion, anyways. Let the answer come to you in your dreams since the seat (IC) of you is in Pisces.Go home to find the truth.HomesickJourneyWomanThanks very much for your reply, LaLunaMater. I saw the IC connection and my first thought was, "he does feel like home in some way". But the other way I saw it was through the lens of my peripatetic childhood and adulthood (military dad so always moving), which...unstable when what I wanted/needed was stability.Do you see anything that would be concerning long-term, if I do decide to take the plunge, or would this be more like, "well, we had our second chance, and now we know it wouldn't have worked?"We just click. We did then, we did when we met up again. He's been one of the "what ifs" of my life, esp because I thought I'd never see him again.------------------My natal chart*************************"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting."-e.e. cummingsLaLunaMater quote:Originally posted by HomesickJourneyWoman:Do you see anything that would be concerning long-term, if I do decide to take the plunge, or would this be more like, "well, we had our second chance, and now we know it wouldn't have worked?"Could you also put up your pdf of the synastry so I can see the declinations of your planets and angles?Have you looked at the declinations yet? They can add so much more info.I'm also particular to the 12th harmonic chart which seems to tell more about how a person operates.HomesickJourneyWoman quote:Originally posted by LaLunaMater: Could you also put up your pdf of the synastry so I can see the declinations of your planets and angles?Have you looked at the declinations yet? They can add so much more info.I'm also particular to the 12th harmonic chart which seems to tell more about how a person operates.I'm not the best at declinations. I'm mostly self-taught and it hasn't been in the most organized fashion.Synastry pdfDavison pdfComposite pdfMy 12th Harmonic Chart, pdfHis 12th Harmonic Chart, pdf------------------My natal chart*************************"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting."-e.e. cummingsLaLunaMaterThat is perfect, thank you!What I see is high compatibility for both of you. But I'd like to do a write up using multiple methods of relationship compatibility. I'll link my sources as well so you can break it down for yourself too since sharing is caring!It's almost the weekend and I have a couple things to accomplish before I can break down what I'm seeing.I can give you a tentative "I'll have it done and sent to you by tomorrow." Okay?HomesickJourneyWomanThank you very much! I'm not in a huge hurry, so take all the time you need. I'm finding this all fascinating and my curiosity is piqued.------------------My natal chart*************************"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting."-e.e. cummingsHomesickJourneyWomanBump.antiphonSun conjunct asc seems the most relevant attraction aspect. Venus square Pluto brings the intensity you mentioned, but can also create issues related to jealousy and control.Mars square Saturn is the biggest concern. My neighbors have this and I can hear them shouting at each other sometimes. Johnny Depp and Amber Heard have it. Not recommended. You mentioned pushing each other’s buttons — I wouldn’t count on that just going away.Overall this doesn’t seem worth it to me. The positives aren’t super strong IMO. HomesickJourneyWomanThanks for your analysis, @antiphon.------------------My natal chart*************************"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting."-e.e. cummingsHomesickJourneyWoman@LaLunaMater? Sorry to bother you, but I was wondering if you were able to look at the info I provided? I realize I asked around the time Mercury was preparing to start his moonwalk, so.------------------My natal chart*************************"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting."-e.e. cummingsHomesickJourneyWoman@LaLunaMater? Are you back yet?------------------My natal chart*************************"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting."-e.e. cummingsRandallBump!
We have a way of pushing each others buttons, and we can't keep information from each other if we try. Whenever reluctant to talk about something, all he has to do is keep pressing (relatively gently) for me to spill all, but that's a two-way street as I can do the same to him.
However, I have a...nebulous...feeling that we're not really seeing each other as we are. Whenever we've had misunderstandings they come down to that - not seeing each other clearly. And that concerns me. I can tell you that if anything describes our connection, it's INTENSE. It was that way back then, and it's that way now. I would love to think the second chance is the charm, but I don't know. He's not rushing me or anything, but I still feel doubts.
What do you guys see?
Me: Aug 5, 1977; 14:27 EDT; 40N55, 72W40Him: Nov 22, 1974; 8:21 GMT; 51N53, 2W14
Syn chartDavison chartComposite chart
Thank you in advance for any advice/analysis you can give.------------------My natal chart*************************"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting."-e.e. cummings
Did I post in the wrong forum again?
------------------My natal chart*************************"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting."-e.e. cummings
Well looking at your IC in Pisces with him putting his Moon and Jupiter right on it would speak to feeling nebulous since you have no placements in Pisces except for that IC.
It's not unusual to be getting to know someone and have misunderstandings. Why don't you sit in a quiet place and let your mind rest, focusing on breathing. Once you feel no attachment, however long or however many tries at meditation it takes to get to that grounded place, ask the question "Is he the right person for me?"
Then you need to sleep, the best time to meditate is before sleep, in my opinion, anyways. Let the answer come to you in your dreams since the seat (IC) of you is in Pisces.
Go home to find the truth.
Do you see anything that would be concerning long-term, if I do decide to take the plunge, or would this be more like, "well, we had our second chance, and now we know it wouldn't have worked?"
We just click. We did then, we did when we met up again. He's been one of the "what ifs" of my life, esp because I thought I'd never see him again.
quote:Originally posted by HomesickJourneyWoman:Do you see anything that would be concerning long-term, if I do decide to take the plunge, or would this be more like, "well, we had our second chance, and now we know it wouldn't have worked?"
Could you also put up your pdf of the synastry so I can see the declinations of your planets and angles?
Have you looked at the declinations yet? They can add so much more info.
I'm also particular to the 12th harmonic chart which seems to tell more about how a person operates.
quote:Originally posted by LaLunaMater: Could you also put up your pdf of the synastry so I can see the declinations of your planets and angles?Have you looked at the declinations yet? They can add so much more info.I'm also particular to the 12th harmonic chart which seems to tell more about how a person operates.
I'm not the best at declinations. I'm mostly self-taught and it hasn't been in the most organized fashion.
Synastry pdfDavison pdfComposite pdfMy 12th Harmonic Chart, pdfHis 12th Harmonic Chart, pdf
What I see is high compatibility for both of you. But I'd like to do a write up using multiple methods of relationship compatibility. I'll link my sources as well so you can break it down for yourself too since sharing is caring!
It's almost the weekend and I have a couple things to accomplish before I can break down what I'm seeing.
I can give you a tentative "I'll have it done and sent to you by tomorrow." Okay?
Mars square Saturn is the biggest concern. My neighbors have this and I can hear them shouting at each other sometimes. Johnny Depp and Amber Heard have it. Not recommended. You mentioned pushing each other’s buttons — I wouldn’t count on that just going away.
Overall this doesn’t seem worth it to me. The positives aren’t super strong IMO.
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