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Originally posted by astrosaz:
Just wanted to find out what's the difference between someones Venus and 'Love' vs the 7th house? Especially if it's in opposite signs like Aries Rising having an Aries Venus yet their 7th house in Libra how would one express their love or desire?
****VENUS****
The 1st house Venus- "I am going to corporate with people. This regardless of context. I am instinctively aware of social rules & decorum but don't know how I come to this knowledge."
7th house Venus-"Because I am with other people/in a relationship, I should be cooperative" OR "I will be nice if people are nice to me in appropriate spaces."
The 7th house person is always LEARNING how to relate, what relating means and is the type to read "How to win friends and influence people" or books like "Think like a man and act like a woman."
The former is instinctive/raw self. The latter is reflective/contextual self.
There was a girl I watched once on a crime show who entered her neighbors residence to ask for help.
She stood outside and knocked on the door. And when they opened, she wouldn't enter until they told her it was okay to come in.
Her reason for staying on the porch? She'd had an intruder slit her throat, her hand was putting pressure on it and she didn't want to "bleed" on their carpet. That's Venus in 1st. Always polite.
The 7th house Venus is nice depending on whom you are and where the context is i.e it's not their default mode to be nice(unless Tau/Lib is rising).
So they tend to "reflect" based off on the person they are interacting with.
Ever been on a date with someone whom every time you talk, they seem to mimic your body language or "mirror" it in some way?
When you lean forward, they lean forward. They talk about themselves and then switch to "enough about me. Tell me about you"?
They seem to have excellent social graces for where it really counts. But it seems to "perfect", even slightly "rehearsed" because it seems more like they are feeding off of you and are not completely being themselves?
Well that is a 7th house Venus. And they are seldom aware that they are doing that as they reflect their personality based off on the partner a lot. And will seem to mimise or "edit" out those things that may cause disagreements, awkwardness or discomfort (a Venus in 1st house may not this)
Venus in Aries in 1st smiles at the cashier and spontaneously flirts(even if she/he doesn't encourage the advances). They have a lot of flirt to go around. And its free.
The 7th house Aries Venus will wait to be greeted. Depending on the approach,they will reciprocate and be as playful or as jolly as the initiator.
Sometimes they'll initiate, but if the response is not warm they will close down. They certainly don't continue to flirt if the advances are discouraged.
Because Aries is involved,they may even get a little angry that you "rejected" them or were not nice to them. The reaction often is "I was so nice to you but you were not even nice back to me."
****LOVE****
Love is the Sun.Love is Forever & objective. Venus is not love but affection/companionship or romance (subjective).
Sun in Cancer can take care of ALL human beings.Their capacity to care,transcending colour/country barriers. At its core,it is undending.
Venus in Cancer is more discriminating on whom gets their "care" I.e they are motivated to take care of the partner or those they love only and can preclude others.
Sun in Cancer cares by way of personality assertion.Venus cares by way of relationship reflection or relation preservation.
****7TH HOUSE****
7th house are all those things that others bring out of you. The 7th,Lib and Venus are one archetype. In that they all are reflective in essence (this except when Lib/ Venus are in the 1st,then they are "active").
So a Venus in Aries in 1st house (Aries Asc)will flirt up a storm the 1st time they see you. And it will be instinctive, unrehearsed.
Their capacity for affection is usually geared towards fulfilling their own needs I.e sex, fun, intellect etc. As they are not really interested in you when it doesn't directly benefit them in some way clear to them(Aries)
When Libra is Descending, they are encouraged by the interaction they have with others to be polite and courteous.
BUT since the ruler of the 7th is in the 1st, there is a "loop" that forms here. They give love(1st) freely and to anyone,then they have it reflected back on them (Lib 7th).
So this person MAY be quite popular or the type who is able to easily put people in good mood because they themselves always seem to always be in a good mood.