Oh boy. I should've listened to the cautionary tales.So, in May my relationship ended after six years. In June, I registered on a dating site and that is where I met this Scoprio guy.
He seemed funny and interesting, so I took the courage and sent him a message.
Also, I'm a Pisces and heard that these two signs can work out pretty damn well.
So, we start talking on Skype, it goes pretty well apart from one disagreement. Since my last relationship was a bit toxic, I get very defensive when people treat my opinion badly.
But, we got past that and had a really interesting talk, when he opened up about his fears regarding relationships. That, if people can break up after 5+ years, what is the point in trying?
Following that, we only had some short, casual talks (he is a busy person). Then, came a turning point when I asked him if he is interested at all, because he never initiated conversations. Turns out, my timing was bad. There was already someone else in the picture when we started talking, don't know if date, or just an ex, because I didn't ask for details.
He aplogized, saying he doesn't like keeping more irons in the fire and he doesn't expect me to wait for him to make a decision. I thought it over, and decided to keep talking with him. But I tried to keep in mind, that this could easily end with me getting dumped.
Over the time I grew more frustrated and bored with this situation and yesterday I had reached the conclusion that this is going nowhere. He is obviously not interested, didn't even ask me out on a date, and just doesn't have the guts to cut me off completely.
But guess what, today for the first time in three ******* weeks he started a conversation. I was baffled.
He grabbed a few beers with a friend and got emotional. Opened up again, and shared his rather sad views on life. He called me cute, when I told him he can talk to me about these things, and seemed eager to do so. Then he took a shower, and apparently had a change of heart, cause he eluded my questions. He did ask about my problems though.
Then, I just knew he will "escape" and I was right, he told me he needs to go, because he feels sleepy. To my reaction, he said "you are better off without me ". Great.
Okay, I get it, possible emotional trauma left him suspicious and he finds it difficult to come out of his shell. This, or he is just manipulative.
Sadly, since I am so damn empathetic with other people's pain I'd feel bad for quitting now. However, I am no one's emotional trash can or plan B.
I'd like to hear some second opinions, maybe someone here has already faced a situation like this one?