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T O P I C R E V I E WteaselWhy do you think this helps? I know that support from others can make me feel better, but I also feel embarrassed when I actually vent "out loud" on the internet. I used to keep a journal - "morning pages" - but then I thought about the fact that I wanted to keep a diary to look back on, and I never went back to read my vents (I'd done it before and it stressed me out, although it's one reminder of how much negativity I feel, or how much time can be wasted on bad experiences versus good ones). I hardly write anything down now, but I've started to carry around a notebook with me, to vent there, rather than saying some things out loud.I'm asking this because I started the other thread, and then wondered why the thread on the other forum really took off. I suppose part of my curiosity is that the posts there aren't "chat", so they aren't usually looking for responses - that would be a single thread for the one vent.ail221Venting privately has helped me; writing in a journal. I have kept a journal in the past for about every two years of my life ranging from my pre-teen years 10-11 until I was about 20. It helped me vent without other biased opinions. When I stopped writing was when I starting publicly venting which was worse for everyone I should go back to journals.SaturnineMothI've never done well at venting... privately or publicly (moon opp saturn?!)... (when upset my words kinda all jumble together, "jarble blarble fobble fop".... and nothing ever is what I mean it to be....) so, I tend to bottle those up for other means of expression... ^^; (creative writing, perhaps~ lol) But, I do get it (I think)! I think the public venting helps because we all want to "be heard" to have a voice... even if nobody responds (saying it's an online medium being used to communicate, I mean... course!) lol Then, it's easy to be somewhat anonymous and yet be heard at once~ ^^ and what is said will matter in some small way... that's kinda fulfilling and serves to release tensions/nervous energies that people would otherwise build up and keep to themselves or (or) find potentially destructive/self harming release for otherwise... not always though... just stating possibilities besides venting publicly... so there's a benefit to doing things in this manner as opposed to others for some.... right? oh well, that was sort of my impression anyway! lol >.<; my mind is a bit of a mess lately, chaotic... hopefully I worded things right~ ^^; blarble, blarp... nervous energy indeed! lol MillyXI like venting privately because if I do vent publicly I feel like I'm annoying everyone, nobody wants to listen about my bad day and insecurities. Also when I vent in my journal, no one will judge what I wrote. But venting publicly or privately still feels good. It's unhealthy to keep everything inside, you'll crack sooner or later. somethingexcellentI vent to people, though not on something like a forum. And I ask too like I'll be all CAN I VENT TO YOU OMG?? and I get carried away in emotions and stuff, so venting is fun and easy. Once every so often I might just write stuff down as a form of venting and what I write is terrible (since I'm not filtering it, #LibraMercury, with the intent of providing it as something to read) so I quickly burn said writing.LexxigramerI have vented here because I really do not have anyone to vent to in my offline life.The feedback has helped me keep my sanity.OdetteI vent a lot publicly to friends and family and also on LL.. I don't feel embarrassed at all. I find it really helpful and I try to help others when they vent. Props for starting the other thread Teasel!! FaithI selectively vent here. I'll talk about general things that bother me.But for the most part I don't vent anything really personal...neither here nor in a journal. I vent over email, on the phone, or in person with friends.Faith quote:Originally posted by Lexxigramer:I have vented here because I really do not have anyone to vent to in my offline life.The feedback has helped me keep my sanity.((Hug))) You help us keep our sanity too! mirage29 quote:Originally posted by Lexxigramer:I have vented here because I really do not have anyone to vent to in my offline life.The feedback has helped me keep my sanity.^^ Double-dittos! This is what it's like for me...I like to write and 'pretend' that people will really give a sh*t... I vent at 'myself'... I type at the spirits of the air and ethers of the internet. I feel flustered and surprise when someone responds. And I understand that that's just the way it "is" and I've accepted that. I 'imagine' that i'm being talked to-- and every once-in-a-while i am... but then it was just "coincidence": I THOUGHT I was being spoken-to, but it was about someone else and not me. Then I'm embarrassed... feel so foolish, vain, and put myself back into place. Girls don't get a say-so; what could i possibly have to say that could be actually mattering and important to anything... So I just 'pretend'... become my own company. And if I can help someone along the way, it's divine and all I could wish for. But otherwise, i'm an airhead girl---and girls have nothing to say, in my world. So, I air-walk...and sing within, with my heart. Walking in the Air [3:31] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1qms9N6gDs A MOOD APARTOnce down on my knees to growing plantsI prodded the earth with a lazy toolIn time with a medley of sotto chants.But becoming aware of some boys from schoolWho had stopped outside the fence to spyI stopped my song and almost heart.For any eye is an evil eyeThat looks in onto a mood apart.--Robert Frostperegrinei thought that's what the hate threads were. dunno y people take them personally i just saw them as venting. doesn't mean it's you personally they dislike just someone irl with your placement.
I know that support from others can make me feel better, but I also feel embarrassed when I actually vent "out loud" on the internet. I used to keep a journal - "morning pages" - but then I thought about the fact that I wanted to keep a diary to look back on, and I never went back to read my vents (I'd done it before and it stressed me out, although it's one reminder of how much negativity I feel, or how much time can be wasted on bad experiences versus good ones). I hardly write anything down now, but I've started to carry around a notebook with me, to vent there, rather than saying some things out loud.
I'm asking this because I started the other thread, and then wondered why the thread on the other forum really took off. I suppose part of my curiosity is that the posts there aren't "chat", so they aren't usually looking for responses - that would be a single thread for the one vent.
But, I do get it (I think)! I think the public venting helps because we all want to "be heard" to have a voice... even if nobody responds (saying it's an online medium being used to communicate, I mean... course!) lol Then, it's easy to be somewhat anonymous and yet be heard at once~ ^^ and what is said will matter in some small way... that's kinda fulfilling and serves to release tensions/nervous energies that people would otherwise build up and keep to themselves or (or) find potentially destructive/self harming release for otherwise... not always though... just stating possibilities besides venting publicly... so there's a benefit to doing things in this manner as opposed to others for some.... right? oh well, that was sort of my impression anyway! lol >.<; my mind is a bit of a mess lately, chaotic... hopefully I worded things right~ ^^; blarble, blarp... nervous energy indeed! lol
Once every so often I might just write stuff down as a form of venting and what I write is terrible (since I'm not filtering it, #LibraMercury, with the intent of providing it as something to read) so I quickly burn said writing.
But for the most part I don't vent anything really personal...neither here nor in a journal. I vent over email, on the phone, or in person with friends.
quote:Originally posted by Lexxigramer:I have vented here because I really do not have anyone to vent to in my offline life.The feedback has helped me keep my sanity.
((Hug))) You help us keep our sanity too!
^^ Double-dittos! This is what it's like for me...
I like to write and 'pretend' that people will really give a sh*t... I vent at 'myself'... I type at the spirits of the air and ethers of the internet. I feel flustered and surprise when someone responds. And I understand that that's just the way it "is" and I've accepted that. I 'imagine' that i'm being talked to-- and every once-in-a-while i am... but then it was just "coincidence": I THOUGHT I was being spoken-to, but it was about someone else and not me. Then I'm embarrassed... feel so foolish, vain, and put myself back into place. Girls don't get a say-so; what could i possibly have to say that could be actually mattering and important to anything... So I just 'pretend'... become my own company. And if I can help someone along the way, it's divine and all I could wish for. But otherwise, i'm an airhead girl---and girls have nothing to say, in my world. So, I air-walk...and sing within, with my heart.
Walking in the Air [3:31] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1qms9N6gDs
A MOOD APARTOnce down on my knees to growing plantsI prodded the earth with a lazy toolIn time with a medley of sotto chants.But becoming aware of some boys from schoolWho had stopped outside the fence to spyI stopped my song and almost heart.For any eye is an evil eyeThat looks in onto a mood apart.--Robert Frost
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