My dear Scorpio:Welcome to Linda Land! : )
First of all, let me commend you for your desire to understand yourself better, and to transcend your current limitations. I think this willingness to transform shows greatness of spirit.
Others here have done a far better job than I could do at analyzing your chart. But here are a few things I’ve noted in addition. I think your Venus in Libra is a huge part of your need to relate to people, but you also have Sun, Mercury, and Uranus in the 4th house, which is the house of home and family. This could also be considered a house of long term committed relationships - the kind where you settle down and begin forming families. I like to think of houses as the places we direct our energy. In your case your soul energy (Sun) needs to express itself in your home and probably in a long term, committed relationship. You probably feel lost without the comfort and security of long term relationships, and it’s probably important to share your space with someone that makes you feel cozy and comfortable. Your soul needs a partner that feels like “home” to you.
In this sense a Cancer girl is perfect for you, because these women as warm and comforting as a cup of hot coco on a cold day.
BUT - you have to be aware of one more thing. As a Scorpio you are already an intense person, someone weak spirited people will never be able to fully embrace or understand. But you also have your moon and mars sitting right on your Ascendant. Planets that sit in the first house in part define how people see you. So someone with Neptune in the first house would seem dreamy, artsy, and maybe a little disconnected from reality. Someone that has mars in the first house would come across as overtly direct and likely very aggressive, maybe even an “angry” type of person. With moon in your first house you may also seem emotional, passionate, or perhaps even a bit volatile. Both of these placements will heighten the intensity people perceive in you. Perception is NOT necessarily reality of course - you are a Scorpio and just as able to control your emotions, as you are able to control every other aspect of your life. But people standing out the outside will see your ascendant “mask” with the planets sitting in the first house and make assumptions about who you are inside.
You’ve already mentioned that you were a bit aggressive in your pursuit of your Cancer girl. I wouldn’t be too hard on yourself about this - you haven’t been in the dating market for a while, and it takes a while to fall into the right mindset date after you’ve been in a relationship for a while. However, I do have a few tips for dealing with Cancer girls in the future.
When it comes to understanding Cancer girls it is best to think of them in light of animal so often associated with them. Like the crab, the heart and soul of the Cancer girl is SO soft, and vulnerable, that she had to build a shell about herself to protect herself. The flesh underneath that shell can be bruised and hurt so easily. Most Cancers are VERY slow to drop that shell, and let people in deep enough to hurt their tender bits.
In order to properly protect themselves, Cancer’s are VERY slow movers. They need time to properly assess our prospective suitors and decide if it is safe to trust them with their tender souls. Men that rush a Cancer girl, or aggressively try to force her hand will automatically discounted. In the mind of a Cancer girl, this kind of man could never be gentle enough to handle her soft heart with tender care. By rushing her he also shows he doesn’t respect her enough to move at her pace, or understand her enough to know why she needs to move so slowly.
In my opinion, the reason your Cancer girl said she didn’t feel a connection with you is because you did not give her time to analyze what she felt. You probably pushed her to hard and to fast, which made her feel you did not understand or respect her enough to wait on her slower pace.
So she distanced herself. Most Cancer women will cut off contact with suitors that have pushed them too hard, or men they have parted ways with. It’s a defensive mechanism. These gentle girls need to retreat into their shells, hide for a while, and get their emotions straight again. I think part of her may hope that this will give you time to get your feelings straight too. Most Cancers will run away from things that hurt them, cutting people out of their life (at least for a time). I’m not saying it’s a mature action, but it’s one I and so many other Cancers are guilty of. It’s very rare that this distance lasts forever, but Cancer girls (and boys) truly do need this healing, “shell” time. The time this distance will last depends on how much you touched her heart, or hurt her, or even on how much she intuits you still feel for her. I doubt she believes you truly want to be “just friends” now. And in all truth, if you look deep into yourself, do you really want to be just friend?
I don’t know what future there may be for you and this particular Cancer girl, but I think it likely that she came into your life to help you realize a few things about yourself. Perhaps she even showed up to prepare you for another girl, similar in spirit.
If I were you, I would not limit yourself to only looking for one particular sign. Instead look for someone that understands you, and can appreciate you for all of your passionate intensity. As a Scorpio I am quite sure you have a wealth of incredible and admirable attributes, and many a woman would be lucky to have you in her life. You just need to find someone that appreciates you for who you are.
I wish you the best of luck in all of your life’s journeys.
- Isolaede