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Originally posted by venuscorpio86:
I have my venus in scorpio and it sabatoges any good relationship or potential for a relationship and it scares me, I'm not the person I wanna be when dating I treat my significant other with: suspicion and more negative ways vs positive ways. How do I control this? Im not like this with friends or other people....I just want to be happy and not have these dark heavy thoughts and feelings when dating...any solutions!
I don't think its necessary for you to fight against yourself. It can be an attempt that will feel upstream and tiring.
The key is to be aware of your virtues and vices. Be honest with yourself . And advertise that honesty as an inextricable part of your personality and love nature.
You would be surprised at how many people are drawn to you when you are first honest with yourself.There is something attractive about that level of self-acceptance.
As a Sco Ven, I find that another Sco Ven is a good match for me. Its levels of intensity that I have yet to experience in other couplings. And you can be YOU completely.
The disadvantage however is that it can be 100% "the best awful" or 100% "terribly good".Ime,the thunder always comes with the rain. Can you handle it?
My Scorpio Venus seems to come out at its best in crises. I show my tender nature when there is devastation/upheavals in the life of the person I care for.
When nothing is happening or things are calm, I am not at my best. I can succumb to self destructive behavior, mood swings, dark feelings of regurgitated hurt from the past or heavy emotions.
Pluto/Mars rules Scorpio Venus and I am not suggesting that all relationships you have should characterize the Hospital casualties ward on a full Moon. But you need ACTION.
If not, you unconsciously create drama around you or are drawn to it. Its important to know this about Venus in Scorpio, it needs to feel "alive" in most life "situationships". More so than most signs(save for Aries).
"Adrenaline" is the very core of both Mars and Pluto(which rules Scorpio Venus).So take up physical exercise, devote your energy in a venture that will consume your mind/attention completely.
This Venus can be obsessive when applying themselves to something they love. The mind is distracted from other "menial" things that may irritate /annoy them.