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Topic: Venus in Scorpio...bad placement for venus
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venuscorpio86 unregistered
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posted March 16, 2011 06:01 PM
I have my venus in scorpio and it sabatoges any good relationship or potential for a relationship and it scares me, I'm not the person I wanna be when dating I treat my significant other with: suspicion and more negative ways vs positive ways. How do I control this? Im not like this with friends or other people....I just want to be happy and not have these dark heavy thoughts and feelings when dating...any solutions!IP: Logged |
vertiver Knowflake Posts: 2405 From: Portland, OR Registered: May 2009
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posted March 16, 2011 06:06 PM
Its the fear of being vulnerable to someone else. Scorpio uses self-defense as a way to protect itself - like the Scorpian, yet Venus is a planet that wants to please others at the same time. The best solution is to understand why you have these urges of jealously, etc. And to overcome them by explaining them to someone else. Like "you should know I'm prone to getting really jealous in relationships, but It really just means I care for you deeply."IP: Logged |
woodenrosary Knowflake Posts: 30 From: new york Registered: Dec 2010
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posted March 16, 2011 06:08 PM
I feel your pain I have venus in Scorp as well. I think mine is placed in one of the better houses, but it is still very hard. I feel like at this rate, being stuck on one guy for your entire life isn't healthy. I might be alone forever. I can totally relate to the "dark heavy thoughts and feelings". It's hard for me to give advice when I have precisely the same problem! lol. I'm not even gonna bother telling you "try not to be so intense, take more lighthearted approach to dating" because that's just not an option for us. I think what we can do is just pray that we will find someone who can be as loving and serious as we are. It's obviously not common for men to be like that. I hope you meet that special person though <3 IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 74112 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 16, 2011 06:11 PM
You got to find your weird-o ------------------ Jesus never put his trust in man cuz he knew what was in man. He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city Proverbs IP: Logged |
venuscorpio86 unregistered
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posted March 16, 2011 06:18 PM
ya...I suppose so. I think I did find an amazing man, but ran him off with my intense ways...we argued so much not just a little arguing here and there it was 3 days of arguing mostly me going on and on and on....he told me how he felt about me but then aftrwards was so detached he was a cap man with moon pisces and mars pisces....very much the perfect man but I think I let fear get the best of me and got a little crazy =( he came back after 4 months of us not talking he put up with so much I guess that was my clue he liked me lol.. IP: Logged |
popcorn Knowflake Posts: 3367 From: Registered: Aug 2009
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posted March 17, 2011 09:19 AM
My mother is an venusscorpio woman. She is an very intense person. She knows what she want. As older I been as more I like that. Everyone who meet her know what she think about them. Children love her. She was married to my father in 30 year. They was separeted in 10 year and now togheter again. When they was separeted she hate my father so much..... I cant see nothing about that now. She never leave my father in the reality. In this 10 year she not got any new relationship or a man in her life. Now when she not have many year to be 80 she looks like coming home togheter with my father. IP: Logged |
popcorn Knowflake Posts: 3367 From: Registered: Aug 2009
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posted March 17, 2011 09:22 AM
venus scorpio people love so much and I love that. IP: Logged |
WhiteBirds Knowflake Posts: 267 From: Registered: Oct 2018
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posted August 01, 2021 08:23 AM
My God. Venus in Scorpio is the best location for me! My Venus in Taurus loves this position. After meeting Venus Aries, Gemini, Virgo, Libra and Pisces ... Give me a Venus Scorpio any day😁
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hypatia238 Moderator Posts: 14697 From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode Registered: Sep 2014
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posted August 01, 2021 12:41 PM
Yes I like Venus in Scorpio too but they often struggle with trust and opening up, they either open up too much or don't open up at all and they want to find a balance.To op, getting a therapist can be helpful, looks like you have self awareness, you just need someone to help you follow through with the transformation process all the way. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 8713 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted August 03, 2021 09:14 AM
quote: Originally posted by venuscorpio86: I have my venus in scorpio and it sabatoges any good relationship or potential for a relationship and it scares me, I'm not the person I wanna be when dating I treat my significant other with: suspicion and more negative ways vs positive ways. How do I control this? Im not like this with friends or other people....I just want to be happy and not have these dark heavy thoughts and feelings when dating...any solutions!
I don't think its necessary for you to fight against yourself. It can be an attempt that will feel upstream and tiring. The key is to be aware of your virtues and vices. Be honest with yourself . And advertise that honesty as an inextricable part of your personality and love nature. You would be surprised at how many people are drawn to you when you are first honest with yourself.There is something attractive about that level of self-acceptance. As a Sco Ven, I find that another Sco Ven is a good match for me. Its levels of intensity that I have yet to experience in other couplings. And you can be YOU completely. The disadvantage however is that it can be 100% "the best awful" or 100% "terribly good".Ime,the thunder always comes with the rain. Can you handle it? My Scorpio Venus seems to come out at its best in crises. I show my tender nature when there is devastation/upheavals in the life of the person I care for. When nothing is happening or things are calm, I am not at my best. I can succumb to self destructive behavior, mood swings, dark feelings of regurgitated hurt from the past or heavy emotions. Pluto/Mars rules Scorpio Venus and I am not suggesting that all relationships you have should characterize the Hospital casualties ward on a full Moon. But you need ACTION. If not, you unconsciously create drama around you or are drawn to it. Its important to know this about Venus in Scorpio, it needs to feel "alive" in most life "situationships". More so than most signs(save for Aries). "Adrenaline" is the very core of both Mars and Pluto(which rules Scorpio Venus).So take up physical exercise, devote your energy in a venture that will consume your mind/attention completely. This Venus can be obsessive when applying themselves to something they love. The mind is distracted from other "menial" things that may irritate /annoy them. IP: Logged |