Great thread! I love to share real life experiences – to compare what the transits did and how they felt for other people etc. Below I listed my Saturn-Venus-experiences. (Of course, there are always other transits at work at the same time…) My natal Venus is in Virgo in 9th house. From my experience in short:
tSaturn conjunct Venus = felt this one strongest. Tough, intense, draining, fearful, suspicious – not nice.
tSaturn oppose Venus = also a hard one. Felt abandoned, unappreciated - love slipping through my fingers . bad mood, bad temper on my side
tSaturn square Venus = not very “easy”, not at all “sexy” - but strong emotions, bordering on “stubbornness”, haha. Persistance and shyness combined.
tSaturn trine Venus = calm, soothing, stable, sincere times
tSaturn sextile Venus = inspiring – a “sexy” vibe - longing for “more” - some dissatisfaction with what is there - strong wishes and fantasies raise their head…
tSaturn inconjunct/quincunx Venus = Interesting! Always a “transition time”, in a way. Many things happening at once … vivid, lively.
Here are the stories:
tSaturn square natal Venus
I was still very young (16) – never had a boyfriend till then - and started crushing on a boy I knew from school. I adored him from afar – and thought he wouldn’t be interested in me. Actually, it was the first time I “seriously” fell in love, haha … I was very shy and insecure … but persistent. Six months later be became a couple – it was the first romantic/sexual relationship for both of us – lasted 2.5 years
tSaturn trine natal Venus
nothing special (peacefully together with my first boyfriend)
tSaturn inconjunct/quincunx natal Venus
I was in my early 20s – had a new boyfriend then, it started getting more serious at this time – it was also a serious relationship– sexually & intellectually very stimulating, but many (verbal) fights, strong ego-needs on both sides – not very relaxing (but interesting, I learned a lot and “manifested” as a woman in that relationship: it lasted 4.5 years)
tSaturn oppose natal Venus
Not nice! The relationship with my 2nd boyfriend started to crumble. We were each increasingly annoyed by the other – more tears and fights – some desperate feelings – we had a very special thing with each other … I I just saw my/our love slip away ... and couldn’t stop it. This relationship was very important for me – I could not image that I’d ever find anything that could compare to this … at the same time I wanted to get out of it. (We finally broke-up about six months later)
tSaturn inconjunct/quincunx natal Venus
Okay, now I had my 3rd important relationship. During that transit we just changed from a rather “lighthearted/easy” to a more serious/sincere relationship – we moved into an apartment together as a couple, when this transit came to an end – it was the first time for both of us, “living with someone”. (It became a marriage-like relationship and lasted 9 years…)
tSaturn trine natal Venus
Still with boyfriend no. 3 – meanwhile we had some very rough times … we had almost split the year before! But during this transit we entered into another “serious/sincerity”-stage in our relationship –it was a long-distance-relationship during this transit, due to professional reasons …. (for almost a year). It was not very romantic, but stable and grown-up…
tSaturn square natal Venus
Still with man no. 3 – we lived together again and enjoyed a calm day-to-day-live as a couple, rather stable – but a very (!) stressful time professionally for both of us during this time! Several sorrows and worries for both of us. Not at all a playful, romantic time for us – we were more like “good friends” (actually, our sex life started to suffer during this time ….)
tSaturn sextile natal Venus
Uuups … still with man no.3 – but I started to feel a bit “caged in” … I got more “flirty” (with other guys) – I never “did” something, I never cheated on my boyfriend … but I started to feel a certain impatience and wanderlust ... Slowly, but surely I lost faith in my old, existing relationship and started to “wish for more”. I felt less satisfied with the routine we had as a couple … (and I left him one year later – and was a single person then for some time)
tSaturn conjunct natal Venus
Heavy! Important! After about 3 years of being single (I liked it, several minor flirts and adventures …) I fell in love again – and I fell hard! The relationship lasted 1.5 years – it started as a long-distance-relationship – but it was like a “rotten fruit” from the beginning – very obsessive, very sexual – but also very hurting, jealousy, manipulation, control (especially from his side). The first relationship I felt as a “victim” in a way. (That started when this transit started) Many fears. A very “dark” thing. I invested a lot – but I never was really happy, rather desperate in this relationship. When Saturn finally left my Venus, I finally ended it. I just … flew from this relationship, it was a nasty ending. (I am still not sure what exactly Saturn wanted to “teach” me with this experience … I had to struggle hard to rebuild my self-worth afterwards, this took me another year ….)
tSaturn inconjunct/quincunx natal Venus
Single again – and I didn’t mind it much. I had changed the town just shortly before that transit started and was just busy to build a new life there. I was rather reluctant, as far as “flirting” or “sex” was concerned. I invested all my energy into my job etc. – and felt okay with this.
… meanwhile my love life has considerably “heated up” again, haha. Next transit will be tSaturn sextile my Venus – in November 2012… ;-)