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Solane Star | Speak for yourself "An open ear is the only believable sign of an open heart." -- David Augsburger We can easily get into trouble in relationships when we assume that we know what someone else is thinking or feeling. Parents, in particular, can be quick to judge what’s going on in their children. Rather than assuming we know someone else’s experience, we could shift our perceptions into questions. Instead of saying, ‘I know you’re hurting,’ we could ask, ‘Are you feeling hurt?’ This allows us to connect with the other with no risk of misunderstandings. "It's always wise to raise questions about the most obvious and simple assumptions." -- C. West Churchman "To assume is to be deceived." -- Yiddish proverb |
yourfriendinspirit | Reminds me of what I was once taught: God gave us {1} mouth, and {2} ears for a reason... "To Listen twice as much as we speak"Solane Star, thank you for this gentle reminder ------------------ Sendin' love your way, your friend in spirit |
Bluemoon | I love this, Solane!!! I also love what you said, yourfriend. My father use to say that also.
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Solane Star | Reminds me of what I was once taught: God gave us {1} mouth, and {2} ears for a reason... "To Listen twice as much as we speak"WOW!!! Thanks!!! Guys!!! Never heard of that one before, guess I must of had to much of number (1) going on and not using number (2) enough, at the time!!!!! LOL!!!
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Mirandee | I like this a lot too and what you said as well, yourfriend. My husband always said, " He who continues to assume, continues to blunder." Don't know where he got that saying but it is very true. He has used it often on me to remind me of when I am assuming or when I am doing too much of #1 above and not enough of #2. Though there are times when I have thrown his saying back on him when he assumes. Guess we all do that at times. |
Kamilla | My boss has his own interpretation of "assume" not very spiritual but convincing ...lol making an A$$hole out of U & ME. |
Moon666Child | that is the exact same as I believe Kamilla, assumption is a big problem. |
Heart--Shaped Cross | "When I am getting ready to reason with a man, I spend one-third of my time thinking about myself and what I am going to say and two-thirds about him and what he is going to say."- Abraham Lincoln http://www.cybernation.com/victory/quotations/authors/quotes_lincoln_abraham.html
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Heart--Shaped Cross | In the documentary "Bowling For Columbine", filmmaker Michael Moore asked rockstar Marilyn Manson what he would have said to the two kids who shot up the school, if he had a chance to speak with them. Manson:
"I wouldn't have said anything to them. I would have listened to what they had to say. That's what nobody did." |