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Solane Star
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posted March 28, 2007 12:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Solane Star     Edit/Delete Message
Speak for yourself

"An open ear is the only believable sign of an open heart."

-- David Augsburger

We can easily get into trouble in relationships when we assume that we know what someone else is thinking or feeling. Parents, in particular, can be quick to judge what’s going on in their children.

Rather than assuming we know someone else’s experience, we could shift our perceptions into questions. Instead of saying, ‘I know you’re hurting,’ we could ask, ‘Are you feeling hurt?’ This allows us to connect with the other with no risk of misunderstandings.

"It's always wise to raise questions about the most obvious and simple assumptions."

-- C. West Churchman

"To assume is to be deceived."

-- Yiddish proverb

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yourfriendinspirit
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posted March 28, 2007 01:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for yourfriendinspirit     Edit/Delete Message
Reminds me of what I was once taught:
God gave us {1} mouth, and {2} ears for a reason...
"To Listen twice as much as we speak"

Solane Star, thank you for this gentle reminder

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Sendin' love your way,
your friend in spirit

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Bluemoon
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posted March 28, 2007 09:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bluemoon     Edit/Delete Message
I love this, Solane!!! I also love what you said, yourfriend. My father use to say that also.

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Solane Star
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posted March 28, 2007 01:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Solane Star     Edit/Delete Message
Reminds me of what I was once taught:
God gave us {1} mouth, and {2} ears for a reason...
"To Listen twice as much as we speak"

WOW!!! Thanks!!! Guys!!!

Never heard of that one before, guess I must of had to much of number (1) going on and not using number (2) enough, at the time!!!!! LOL!!!


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Mirandee
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posted March 28, 2007 04:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mirandee     Edit/Delete Message
I like this a lot too and what you said as well, yourfriend.

My husband always said, " He who continues to assume, continues to blunder."

Don't know where he got that saying but it is very true. He has used it often on me to remind me of when I am assuming or when I am doing too much of #1 above and not enough of #2.

Though there are times when I have thrown his saying back on him when he assumes. Guess we all do that at times.

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Kamilla
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posted March 28, 2007 05:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kamilla     Edit/Delete Message
My boss has his own interpretation of "assume" not very spiritual but convincing ...lol
making an A$$hole out of U & ME.

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Moon666Child
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posted March 28, 2007 05:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Moon666Child     Edit/Delete Message
that is the exact same as I believe Kamilla, assumption is a big problem.

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Heart--Shaped Cross
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posted March 28, 2007 10:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Heart--Shaped Cross     Edit/Delete Message

"When I am getting ready to reason with a man, I spend one-third of my time thinking about myself and what I am going to say and two-thirds about him and what he is going to say."

- Abraham Lincoln


http://www.cybernation.com/victory/quotations/authors/quotes_lincoln_abraham.html

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Heart--Shaped Cross
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posted March 28, 2007 10:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Heart--Shaped Cross     Edit/Delete Message
In the documentary "Bowling For Columbine", filmmaker Michael Moore asked rockstar Marilyn Manson what he would have said to the two kids who shot up the school, if he had a chance to speak with them.


Manson:

"I wouldn't have said anything to them.
I would have listened to what they had to say.
That's what nobody did."

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