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T O P I C R E V I E Wsaya_sarSo,I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now. I know the exact day (and almost time) we first met. I can still see the moment replay itself in my head. From the first time we hung out I felt so comfortable with him and not at all vulnerable. I was able to open up right away and I've always felt safe with him. We have a lot of passion when we're together and not arguing but, the problem is we argue often.We just drive each other completely crazy!!! I'm not sure if its a communication problem or what...but I often feel like he doesn't understand where I'm coming from. But he tells me he knows exactly what I'm feeling and what I want/need/. We get into these fights with each other but he doesn't see them as fights because he loves to debate and argue and my problem is I get heated so easily and it escalades. I tend to have a short temper and he has trust problems. One big problem we have is that when we first met I hung out with a co-worker of ours (who ironically I met the exact moment that I met him) and nothing romantic happened. We just hung out and chatted. My boyfriend and I were not exclusive at the time and were nowhere near relationship status so I didn't think I needed to tell him. Well, two months later he found out that I had hung out with the other guy and got so mad about it saying that I lied to him and kept this from him and therefore I must be hiding something. 7 months later he still brings it up. He says he's over it but yet it still comes up. He doesn't get on me for it, although I feel like he is whenever it comes up. But he says that's not his intent but if the conversation fits then we get into it. I'm not sure what to make of all this. He says that in time he'll be able to act as if he doesn't think I'm hiding anything from him but he currently feels like I will hide things from him. And I'm so hurt because thats not the kind of person I am. I am incredibly loyal and wouldnt do anything to hurt the ones I love. Also, he keeps saying that he has no emotions and isn't capable of giving me all the affection and mushyness that he assumes I need. I don't see the problem (most of the time)...but of course him constantly telling me this makes me worry. Can this be due to his moon in scorpio and venus square pluto??Anyway! Here are our charts...please help me make sense of this mess!!My chart His chart saya_sarWOW!!! Sorry,I wrote soooooooo much. I have a tendency for TMI!!Ami AnneIf possible, could you make the charts bigger or give me links. Also, if you could do a synastry chart, that would be great.------------------Passion,Lust, Desire Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/saya_sarOkay,I made the charts bigger. Below is our synastry chart. I'm on the inside, he's on the outside. Ami AnneWonderful! I am up in the middle of the night. I will look, tomorrow. Keep it bumped up, please.------------------Passion,Lust, Desire Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/saya_sarBump for Ami-Annesaya_sarBump againHappy Holidays all. =)Ami AnneThank you! ------------------Passion,Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/Ami AnneOk I assume the top one is the regular synastry. I don't do the Draconic. Thanks for your patience!------------------Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/Ami AnneWant to do you, first. Then him and then the synastry?------------------Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/Ami AnneOk, to address your question and to look at your chart, I have some thoughts. Tell me what you think. Later, I may need to see your and his chart on their own so I can see aspects as the little chart is gone, but this is Ok for now.------------------Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/Ami AnneYou have Pluto in the 12th. You may have a secret fantasy life or a lot of primal emotions you feel you cannot share because you feel embarrassed or ashamed. is this true?------------------Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/Ami AnneYou have a Scorpio ASC like I do. We have deep emotions of like or not liking someone.Your finances may be up and down. Also, you may learn your life lessons through this.Is this true?------------------Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/Ami AnneYou may have a hard time seeing HOW to make yourself financially stable.Is this true?------------------Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/Ami AnneYou have a great desire to communicate. This is a great passion for you. ------------------Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/Ami AnneYour Sun combust your Merc in Aries. You are direct and come out with what you want to say. Do you have a hard time standing back in arguments? Do you jump in, fast, as a reflex?------------------Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/Ami AnneYou have a very big warm ,soft heart which wants to just love people like a puppy.Is this true?Your venus in Gem loves words and a man's mind. You want to have a loyal committed relationship. Your Chiron in the 8th may make deep emotions and deep passions have pain with them. Is this true?A glimpse at his chart has Saturn in the 7th. He has a very hard time coming out of his shell of super high standards for himself. Is this true?Answer these and keep it bumped up and I will be back.------------------Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/Ami AnneOk, I see you are on the inside. I may make some comments on the synastry before you answer, too.------------------Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/Ami AnneJust in the little I did, I can see some of why you are having the issues you are. However, I need to look more. Later, asteroids would help, too, but one step at a time.------------------Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/saya_sar quote:Originally posted by Ami Anne:You have Pluto in the 12th. You may have a secret fantasy life or a lot of primal emotions you feel you cannot share because you feel embarrassed or ashamed. is this true?As far as fantasy life, eh. I am realistic enough to know what to expect out of life so I don't try to hold on to many fantasies. Primal emotions YES but,I don't really feel like I can't share them with him because he likes honesty and he likes to know what I feel and think. Honesty and openness is the most important thing to him. His responses to my feelings, thoughts, etc can get me riled up and I get fiesty defending myself then we get into a fight. But, I've always been encouraged to be myself and speak my mind. quote:Originally posted by Ami Anne:You have a Scorpio ASC like I do. We have deep emotions of like or not liking someone.Your finances may be up and down. Also, you may learn your life lessons through this.Is this true?Um...Yes with deep emotions. I can't meet someone (even a friend) without developing strong emotions for or against them right away. My finances can fluctuate but for the most part they are pretty steady. When money starts to run low I usually come into a lot of it shortly. I am very thrifty in this sense. I'm not sure about life lessons...but, I do realize how important it is to properly maintain finances. quote:Originally posted by Ami Anne:You may have a hard time seeing HOW to make yourself financially stable.Is this true?It's funny you say this. As this current point in my life I am working a job that will end in April and I hope to never work for anyone again so I need to find a way to make my own money. So this is something that is currently affecting me. quote:Originally posted by Ami Anne:You have a great desire to communicate. This is a great passion for you. Most definitely. I am very open-minded, vocal, and opinionated. I love to talk to people (although I usually do most of the listening and input occasionally) quote:Originally posted by Ami Anne:Your Sun combust your Merc in Aries. You are direct and come out with what you want to say. Do you have a hard time standing back in arguments? Do you jump in, fast, as a reflex?Yes, its actually a big problem because I don't think before I speak and the words that come out don't always properly reflect how I really feel. I have to try and take back the words I said and rephrase them. One of the things I'm trying to work on now. Take a breath then speak. quote:Originally posted by Ami Anne:You have a very big warm ,soft heart which wants to just love people like a puppy.Is this true?Your venus in Gem loves words and a man's mind. You want to have a loyal committed relationship. Your Chiron in the 8th may make deep emotions and deep passions have pain with them. Is this true?A glimpse at his chart has Saturn in the 7th. He has a very hard time coming out of his shell of super high standards for himself. Is this true?Answer these and keep it bumped up and I will be back.HUGE HEART!!! I have sooooo much love to give!! I have such strong maternal instincts I long to have a family to take care of and love, it fulfills me. I have always been fascinated by peoples thought processes. This is how I figure people out. I like to know how they got to their thought or where they're coming from. He says his best feature is his mind. I think it's so sexy. I do have very deep emotions I am an incredibly emotional creature.When he and I first met he said that he was done with unemotional sex with random people and was looking to connect with someone on an emotional level. My exact response was "I'm as emotional as they come." He does hide behind many walls. He says that his heart is locked in a box, in a closet, with a cement block around it, platinum block around that, surrounded by a moat and alligators, etc, etc, etc...saya_sarAnd thank you sooooo much for doing this!! =) I really appreciate it. I do love him and I really want to make this work if I can...saya_sarBump for Ami Anne. =)Ami Annebump When I get back, I will look------------------Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/saya_sar quote:Originally posted by Ami Anne:A glimpse at his chart has Saturn in the 7th. He has a very hard time coming out of his shell of super high standards for himself. Is this true?I just looked back at the chart. His saturn is in 12th house. I think his Chiron in 7th house is where his biggest problem in relationships is, especially because its retro. =( He holds on to some serious hurts from the past, this I know for a fact.
We just drive each other completely crazy!!! I'm not sure if its a communication problem or what...but I often feel like he doesn't understand where I'm coming from. But he tells me he knows exactly what I'm feeling and what I want/need/. We get into these fights with each other but he doesn't see them as fights because he loves to debate and argue and my problem is I get heated so easily and it escalades. I tend to have a short temper and he has trust problems.
One big problem we have is that when we first met I hung out with a co-worker of ours (who ironically I met the exact moment that I met him) and nothing romantic happened. We just hung out and chatted. My boyfriend and I were not exclusive at the time and were nowhere near relationship status so I didn't think I needed to tell him. Well, two months later he found out that I had hung out with the other guy and got so mad about it saying that I lied to him and kept this from him and therefore I must be hiding something. 7 months later he still brings it up. He says he's over it but yet it still comes up. He doesn't get on me for it, although I feel like he is whenever it comes up. But he says that's not his intent but if the conversation fits then we get into it.
I'm not sure what to make of all this. He says that in time he'll be able to act as if he doesn't think I'm hiding anything from him but he currently feels like I will hide things from him. And I'm so hurt because thats not the kind of person I am. I am incredibly loyal and wouldnt do anything to hurt the ones I love.
Also, he keeps saying that he has no emotions and isn't capable of giving me all the affection and mushyness that he assumes I need. I don't see the problem (most of the time)...but of course him constantly telling me this makes me worry. Can this be due to his moon in scorpio and venus square pluto??
Anyway! Here are our charts...please help me make sense of this mess!!
My chart
His chart
------------------Passion,Lust, Desire Check out my journal
http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
Happy Holidays all. =)
------------------Passion,Lust, Desire. Check out my journal
------------------Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal
Your finances may be up and down. Also, you may learn your life lessons through this.Is this true?
A glimpse at his chart has Saturn in the 7th. He has a very hard time coming out of his shell of super high standards for himself. Is this true?
Answer these and keep it bumped up and I will be back.
quote:Originally posted by Ami Anne:You have Pluto in the 12th. You may have a secret fantasy life or a lot of primal emotions you feel you cannot share because you feel embarrassed or ashamed. is this true?
As far as fantasy life, eh. I am realistic enough to know what to expect out of life so I don't try to hold on to many fantasies. Primal emotions YES but,I don't really feel like I can't share them with him because he likes honesty and he likes to know what I feel and think. Honesty and openness is the most important thing to him. His responses to my feelings, thoughts, etc can get me riled up and I get fiesty defending myself then we get into a fight.
But, I've always been encouraged to be myself and speak my mind.
quote:Originally posted by Ami Anne:You have a Scorpio ASC like I do. We have deep emotions of like or not liking someone.Your finances may be up and down. Also, you may learn your life lessons through this.Is this true?
Um...Yes with deep emotions. I can't meet someone (even a friend) without developing strong emotions for or against them right away. My finances can fluctuate but for the most part they are pretty steady. When money starts to run low I usually come into a lot of it shortly. I am very thrifty in this sense. I'm not sure about life lessons...but, I do realize how important it is to properly maintain finances.
quote:Originally posted by Ami Anne:You may have a hard time seeing HOW to make yourself financially stable.Is this true?
It's funny you say this. As this current point in my life I am working a job that will end in April and I hope to never work for anyone again so I need to find a way to make my own money. So this is something that is currently affecting me.
quote:Originally posted by Ami Anne:You have a great desire to communicate. This is a great passion for you.
Most definitely. I am very open-minded, vocal, and opinionated. I love to talk to people (although I usually do most of the listening and input occasionally)
quote:Originally posted by Ami Anne:Your Sun combust your Merc in Aries. You are direct and come out with what you want to say. Do you have a hard time standing back in arguments? Do you jump in, fast, as a reflex?
Yes, its actually a big problem because I don't think before I speak and the words that come out don't always properly reflect how I really feel. I have to try and take back the words I said and rephrase them. One of the things I'm trying to work on now. Take a breath then speak.
quote:Originally posted by Ami Anne:You have a very big warm ,soft heart which wants to just love people like a puppy.Is this true?Your venus in Gem loves words and a man's mind. You want to have a loyal committed relationship. Your Chiron in the 8th may make deep emotions and deep passions have pain with them. Is this true?A glimpse at his chart has Saturn in the 7th. He has a very hard time coming out of his shell of super high standards for himself. Is this true?Answer these and keep it bumped up and I will be back.
HUGE HEART!!! I have sooooo much love to give!! I have such strong maternal instincts I long to have a family to take care of and love, it fulfills me.
I have always been fascinated by peoples thought processes. This is how I figure people out. I like to know how they got to their thought or where they're coming from. He says his best feature is his mind. I think it's so sexy. I do have very deep emotions I am an incredibly emotional creature.
When he and I first met he said that he was done with unemotional sex with random people and was looking to connect with someone on an emotional level. My exact response was "I'm as emotional as they come."
He does hide behind many walls. He says that his heart is locked in a box, in a closet, with a cement block around it, platinum block around that, surrounded by a moat and alligators, etc, etc, etc...
quote:Originally posted by Ami Anne:A glimpse at his chart has Saturn in the 7th. He has a very hard time coming out of his shell of super high standards for himself. Is this true?
I just looked back at the chart. His saturn is in 12th house. I think his Chiron in 7th house is where his biggest problem in relationships is, especially because its retro. =( He holds on to some serious hurts from the past, this I know for a fact.
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