Hi everyone,
Essentially this friend of mine wasnt resoecting my boundries or that i was in a relationship by initially asking for phons sex( we used to do it before i got into my current relationship) as well as other minor things that i felt were now infringing on my boundries like playful talk which was a bit sexually suggestive ie talks of ass spanking.Again,ok when i was single but not now that i am taken. Yet this friend would keep doing it even though early on i told him to stop.
Also since 2017(around the time i started dating and a bit earliee) he would disappear from my life ie no contact online(we only knew each other via online chats and calls) for months on end,pop up occasionally for a few days and then disappear again.
I never minded except that he always tried to drop sexual hints in the conversation which made me uncomfortable.
I decided to call the friendship off this
time because my bf was going through a very tough time and he didnt like thus friend of mine because of his behaviour of being sexually suggestive at times.
Also this friend had just showed up again in my life after nearly 8 months of no contact from his end.
So yea i did what was best for me and my future family with my bf.
I just couldnt say it well then because i was confused about the reason why i wasnt being friends with him anymore.
Lack of poorly defined boundries and a need to please contributed greatly to this confusion along with the fact that things were a bit unsteady between my bf and I.
I see that so clearly now. Just wanted to update everyone on this now that im clear too.