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T O P I C R E V I E Wdorkus_malorkusWhy am I always attracted to people I can't have? Does anyone else experience this, and what are some ways to get over it? They tend to be people I am already close to that see me as just a friend. It's hard for me to relate to most people on a personal level - I've been told I have trust issues. I've never been in a relationship, although I am relatively young.pixelpixieGosh, i dunno... I think you pegged it yourself though, babushka....Trust issues. You feel safe when you don't have to risk actual relationships.... you can harbour a safe, secret crush that moves you yet disappoints you because it is unrequitted.Maybe one day it won't be unrequitted.. maybe it already isn't?You work through it just be being aware of it.After all, friendship really IS the best place to start a relationship.Keep talking. I wish I had better advice.. but you do need to share..... and I know you will work things through better when you can rationalize them yourself.Svetlana"Why am I always attracted to people I can't have?"Maybe if you change your feelings from wanting to "have" someone to ones of "sharing" something wondeful with that person, then the whole pattern might change.Love and Light all ways ------------------You can't lead a cavalry charge if you think you look funny on a horse. J. Peerspurple_scorpHey dorkus, how do you feel about your self-worth? It's also common to be attracted to people you can't have because they can't let you down. So, you won't get hurt, because they won't reject you....they can't because their not available in the first place.Does that make sense?with lovepurple_scorpWaterNymphLooking at it from a different point of view, maybe you prefer challenges…I know I do.The person you can’t have seems more desirable. My Venus loves a challenge ( although my Sun likes to deny it ).But if you do think it could be a trust issue…then I agree with the others ------------------aka Neptune’s Mermaid, NM, WN, Nurse Neptune, Waternixie, Nepsnympe and deputy #6
Maybe if you change your feelings from wanting to "have" someone to ones of "sharing" something wondeful with that person, then the whole pattern might change.
Love and Light all ways
------------------You can't lead a cavalry charge if you think you look funny on a horse. J. Peers
Does that make sense?
with lovepurple_scorp
But if you do think it could be a trust issue…then I agree with the others
------------------aka Neptune’s Mermaid, NM, WN, Nurse Neptune, Waternixie, Nepsnympe and deputy #6
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