Hi SarahBack again girl......
Okay I think the first thing yer man HAS to do is to tell the ex in no uncertain terms how you feel and that maybe he could eventually stand back from her altogether. If this was my man and she made me feel like this, I would be looking for that to happen
The story with me is very different. The woman wasnt an ex just a vague sort of friend who wanted to be friends with BOTH of us......I didnt gel with her anyway and in the end what happened was my hubbie ended up telling her that I didnt really want to get close. When she asked why he said "well Sue is the kind of person who attracts a lot of people (bless him) and she doesnt have the energy for any more people in her life. She answered with "oh isnt that lucky for her" or something in a smilar vain. She is small minded and I wouldnt be able to sustain a half decent conversation with her for more than 10 minutes.
He doesnt see her much now......I TRUST him with my life, not sure of her intentions, but now she knows how I feel (and she did hint to him was it because they were friends haha and was I threatened by that).....
The point is, I feel Sarah, your man like my man has to speak out for you in this instance. I am not backward at coming forward, but didnt have the energy for this and at some level maybe was testing him too......he certainly supported me on this and we have been great since. Ive had no dark thoughts about her OR seen her whichis weird cos she lives quite near.
I am sure your clairvoyant is right....he is the one, but I do feel he needs to speak out more.....he cant please everyone and if he runs away from this, it will only come knocking at his door again.....she wont go away until the boundaries are strongly put in place.
So what would I do? Well I would tell him how much I loved him and trusted him, but that you arent happy about her being around, cos you "feel" she is an intrusion in your relationship. I would then ask HIM to speak to her (not you girl)....it will be more effective coming from him...and if he wont.....well.....that is up to you to decide what to do...
Honestly Sarah I think all realationships go thro testing times and this is one for you.....I dont think its something ye both can run away from.....so girl, take a big deep breath and plunge in with him. I feel if you do the challenging, she will think its just you that is unhappy and that he is content for her to still be in his life.
So good luck...will send you some irish magick and strength and please ask if there is anything more I can do.
Lots of love
Sue xxx