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Cardinalgal
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From: Lincoln, UK
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posted October 31, 2005 10:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cardinalgal     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Sue,

Sorry to bother you but I have a quandry...

Had a reading this morning with a psychic medium that I go to and she is always spot on with everything. She told me that my partner and I are meant to be together and that he loves me and wants to marry me. She also said that we will marry, and it'll be for life. Apprently, he's itching to propose to me but wants the time to be right. I know what you're thinking... 'Where's the problem girl?' Read on

She then told me that his ex will try again to muscle in and spoil things and that this time, he'll firmly tell her 'NO' in no uncertain terms. She's tried before but as he's a nice guy and didn't want to hurt her, he perhaps hasn't said 'no' loud enough for her to hear. Anyway, the medium is adamant that the only way his ex would succeed in any way is if I let her get to me. I keep going over all the lovely things she's said, (even told me he's my soul mate which I've felt ever since I've known him,) and trying to be strict with myself about not rising to the bait when it's presented, but Oh God how I just want to ring her and tell her to 'BACK OFF!!!'

Sue, you once told me to 'change the energy around the situation' which is advice that went very deep with me - I just wondered how you dealt with your sticky situation a while ago, and if you have any further advice for me in the light of what I may have to encounter in his ex? I have only ever tried to wish her well and even actively encouraged him to stay friends with her at the start of our relationship, but now... well now I just feel the anger rising and my fists clenching!

I also know I'm perhaps over-reacting because this is something that 'may' happen but I get the gut feeling it's started to happen already - just want to be prepared.

So sorry to bother you with this but you're always so wise and have the talent for hitting the nail right on the head so often that you seemed the obvious choice Don't worry if you're too busy as I'll totally understand Thanks for listening

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sue g
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posted October 31, 2005 11:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
Cardinalgal

Will come back to you asap,goingto a Halloween party with son and hubbie, so pls dont think I am ignoring you!

Thanks for asking me, honoured indeed.

Later lovely dont worry pet...youve nothing to fear....love conquers all...
xxxx

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Cardinalgal
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posted October 31, 2005 11:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cardinalgal     Edit/Delete Message
Bless your kind heart Sue!
Have a wonderful time at the party and Happy Samhain to ye!

Love to you and yours xxx

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sue g
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posted October 31, 2005 03:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Sarah

Back again girl......

Okay I think the first thing yer man HAS to do is to tell the ex in no uncertain terms how you feel and that maybe he could eventually stand back from her altogether. If this was my man and she made me feel like this, I would be looking for that to happen

The story with me is very different. The woman wasnt an ex just a vague sort of friend who wanted to be friends with BOTH of us......I didnt gel with her anyway and in the end what happened was my hubbie ended up telling her that I didnt really want to get close. When she asked why he said "well Sue is the kind of person who attracts a lot of people (bless him) and she doesnt have the energy for any more people in her life. She answered with "oh isnt that lucky for her" or something in a smilar vain. She is small minded and I wouldnt be able to sustain a half decent conversation with her for more than 10 minutes.

He doesnt see her much now......I TRUST him with my life, not sure of her intentions, but now she knows how I feel (and she did hint to him was it because they were friends haha and was I threatened by that).....

The point is, I feel Sarah, your man like my man has to speak out for you in this instance. I am not backward at coming forward, but didnt have the energy for this and at some level maybe was testing him too......he certainly supported me on this and we have been great since. Ive had no dark thoughts about her OR seen her whichis weird cos she lives quite near.

I am sure your clairvoyant is right....he is the one, but I do feel he needs to speak out more.....he cant please everyone and if he runs away from this, it will only come knocking at his door again.....she wont go away until the boundaries are strongly put in place.

So what would I do? Well I would tell him how much I loved him and trusted him, but that you arent happy about her being around, cos you "feel" she is an intrusion in your relationship. I would then ask HIM to speak to her (not you girl)....it will be more effective coming from him...and if he wont.....well.....that is up to you to decide what to do...

Honestly Sarah I think all realationships go thro testing times and this is one for you.....I dont think its something ye both can run away from.....so girl, take a big deep breath and plunge in with him. I feel if you do the challenging, she will think its just you that is unhappy and that he is content for her to still be in his life.

So good luck...will send you some irish magick and strength and please ask if there is anything more I can do.

Lots of love


Sue xxx

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Cardinalgal
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posted October 31, 2005 03:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cardinalgal     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you so much Sue!!

You're absolutely right! It's that support from him that I've wanted all along and I will certainly do as you suggest if she rears her head again - I have a suspicion that she already has and that he just hasn't told me to save my feelings and/or wrath but as I can't prove it, I will stay quiet until I'm certain.

Thank you so much Sue for your support and understanding - I've really tried to only wish her well and to send her happiness but she seems to be unable to move forward for some reason. Well, whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger and I know that whatever happens, I'm in the right place to begin the next stage of my journey through this life I've chosen. So mote it be as they say!

Huge love and thanks to you Sue and that man of yours is very lucky!
xxx

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sue g
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posted October 31, 2005 04:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
Sarah

You are very welcome girl.....will you come back into this thread and we can use it if you like to keep updated. I am so sure this is a test for HIM more than you....I mean in as much that he needs to start speaking out soon and not being so passive in life...I think then once he confirms to you his strength life will be hunky dory.

Speak soon.....

Lots of love


Sue

xxx

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Cardinalgal
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posted November 01, 2005 12:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cardinalgal     Edit/Delete Message
Will do Sue xxx

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Randall
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posted November 02, 2005 10:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
You are an Angel, Sue.

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"There is no use trying," said Alice; "one can't believe impossible things." "I dare say you haven't had much practice," said the Queen. "When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast." Lewis Carroll

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sue g
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posted November 05, 2005 04:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
Why thanks Randall.......angel......mmm.....maybe sometimes.....with just a touch of

Love to you

xxx

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