Most I agree with.
But these I take personal issue with.13.Fight naked.
>>>I can see how this might work in a good marriage, but in an abusive one hell no!
14.Agree to disagree.
>>>Up to a point yes, but if the differences are too much, too counter to one's ethics.....then no.
15.Never, ever mention the "D" word (divorce).
>>>Unless you mean it.
16.Do you want to be right or do you want to be married?
>>>If I am right, I am right.
If they were wrong.....why should I be a doormat?
I let myself be an abused doormat in 2 marriages I finally walked away from.
17.Respect each others' privacy.
That leads to
#34.Never keep secrets from each other.
>>>Well then it depends on what the "hidden" issues are and why the need to keep secrets.
After respecting my ex husbands' "privacy" and them off doing nasty things including one a Heroin addict
and the other a pedophile.......no more fraking secrets for me in a relationship!
21.The secret to a happy marriage is two TV's!
>>>or better yet....no televisions!
26.Always believe that you got better than you deserved.
>>>no! no! no! THAT is what I did as a doormat.....thinking they were the best I could ever have
and that it was the best I deserved.
I deserve the best and so does whomever I choose from hereon.
27.Be quick to say "I'm sorry".
>>>doormat warning! Saying sorry if actually having reason to say so is one thing
but saying sorry whilst being abused as many spousal abuse victims do often....is a big fat no!
29.Keep the in-laws out of your marriage!
>>>yes! And anyone else!
30.Love isn't always a feeling, it's a decision.
>>>Love is a feeling.....staying with the person is the decision.
31.Hang in there. It's worth it.
>>>Not always, definitely not true in every marriage.
35.Be each others' champion. No matter what, take your husband or wife's side first!
>>>Only if they are right, ethical, and moral.
If abusive, a drug addict, a pedophile, a criminal.....etc....then no!
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Parts I totally agree with are:
1.Never assume.
5.Always make time for the two of you.
6.Marry someone that you enjoy listening and talking to.
9.Be fair! Split the housework, spending money, etc evenly.
This way you are never resentful of your partners contributions
(or lack of) or expenditures.
23.Never pass up an opportunity to say "I love you".
24.Hold hands.
25.Hug & kiss every day (several times a day actually!).
28.Choose the one you love, then love the one you choose.
29.Keep the in-laws out of your marriage!
32.Play nice, play often, love much.
34.Never keep secrets from each other.
36.Communication is the key!
37.Always respect each other.
43.Don't make love in the same place/position everytime.