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Topic: Project-Happily Ever After!
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rajji
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posted November 08, 2011 08:56 AM
  
Have you ever wondered 'what is the secret to a long and happy marriage?' These time tested secrets to a happy marriage come straight from the horse's mouth -- those who are happily married ever after! IP: Logged |
rajji
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posted November 08, 2011 08:56 AM
1.Never assume.
2.Compliment more than you criticize.
3.For each time you vent about your husband/wife to your friends, tell three positive stories.
4.Remember that it is ok to do things differently (e.g. there is more than one way to peel a potato or fold the laundry).
5.Always make time for the two of you.
6.Marry someone that you enjoy listening and talking to.
7.Remember that marriage is sometimes a bed of roses and sometimes there are thorns.
8.Remember that the best gift that you can give your children is to love their mother/father.
9.Be fair! Split the housework, spending money, etc evenly. This way you are never resentful of your partners contributions (or lack of) or expenditures.
10.Never go to bed angry. (Unless it's 3a.m. and you're exhausted, angry, and not thinking straight.)
11.Remember that people do fight. It's how you do it that matters.
12.Before starting an argument, consider if it's really worth it.
13.Fight naked. 
14.Agree to disagree.
15.Never, ever mention the "D" word (divorce).
16.Do you want to be right or do you want to be married?
17.Respect each other's privacy.
18.Remember that "love is like childhood. You need to learn to share."
19.Marriage is not 50/50, it's two people giving 100/100 all of the time.
20.Surprise each other now and then.
21.The secret to a happy marriage is two TV's!
22.Have date night!
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rajji
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posted November 08, 2011 08:57 AM
23.Never pass up an opportunity to say "I love you".
24.Hold hands.
25.Hug & kiss every day (several times a day actually!).
26.Always believe that you got better than you deserved.
27.Be quick to say "I'm sorry".
28.Choose the one you love, then love the one you choose.
29.Keep the in-laws out of your marriage!
30.Love isn't always a feeling, it's a decision.
31.Hang in there. It's worth it.
32.Play nice, play often, love much.
33.Never air your dirty laundry as a couple in public.
34.Never keep secrets from each other.
35.Be each other's champion. No matter what, take your husband or wife's side first!
36.Communication is the key!
37.Always respect each other.
38.Never underestimate the power of a good belly-laugh and don't be afraid to laugh at yourself.
39.It's the little things that matter most.
40.Never use the words 'Always' and 'Never' in a fight.
41.It's ok to argue, but never use curse words to express your anger.
42.Never compare your marriage to others. What you see on the outside is not always what it is on the inside.
43.Don't make love in the same place/position everytime.
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Alma Sun
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Registered: Mar 2011
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posted November 08, 2011 11:05 AM
Nice.  ------------------
"I am not absentminded. It is the presence of mind that makes me unaware of everything else." ― G.K. Chesterton IP: Logged |
starfox
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posted November 08, 2011 05:58 PM
6.Marry someone that you enjoy listening and talking to.
For myself this would be the most important one of them all.
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juniperb
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From: Blue Star Kachina
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posted November 08, 2011 07:08 PM
wonderful and oh so true.
Thanks for sharing rajji!------------------
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~Rumi~ IP: Logged |
LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 08, 2011 08:38 PM
Most I agree with.
But these I take personal issue with.13.Fight naked.
>>>I can see how this might work in a good marriage, but in an abusive one hell no! 14.Agree to disagree.
>>>Up to a point yes, but if the differences are too much, too counter to one's ethics.....then no. 15.Never, ever mention the "D" word (divorce).
>>>Unless you mean it. 16.Do you want to be right or do you want to be married?
>>>If I am right, I am right.
If they were wrong.....why should I be a doormat?
I let myself be an abused doormat in 2 marriages I finally walked away from. 17.Respect each others' privacy.
That leads to
#34.Never keep secrets from each other.
>>>Well then it depends on what the "hidden" issues are and why the need to keep secrets.
After respecting my ex husbands' "privacy" and them off doing nasty things including one a Heroin addict
and the other a pedophile.......no more fraking secrets for me in a relationship! 21.The secret to a happy marriage is two TV's!
>>>or better yet....no televisions! 26.Always believe that you got better than you deserved.
>>>no! no! no! THAT is what I did as a doormat.....thinking they were the best I could ever have
and that it was the best I deserved.
I deserve the best and so does whomever I choose from hereon. 27.Be quick to say "I'm sorry".
>>>doormat warning! Saying sorry if actually having reason to say so is one thing
but saying sorry whilst being abused as many spousal abuse victims do often....is a big fat no! 29.Keep the in-laws out of your marriage!
>>>yes! And anyone else! 30.Love isn't always a feeling, it's a decision.
>>>Love is a feeling.....staying with the person is the decision. 31.Hang in there. It's worth it.
>>>Not always, definitely not true in every marriage. 35.Be each others' champion. No matter what, take your husband or wife's side first!
>>>Only if they are right, ethical, and moral.
If abusive, a drug addict, a pedophile, a criminal.....etc....then no! _________________________
Parts I totally agree with are:
1.Never assume.
5.Always make time for the two of you.
6.Marry someone that you enjoy listening and talking to.
9.Be fair! Split the housework, spending money, etc evenly.
This way you are never resentful of your partners contributions
(or lack of) or expenditures.
23.Never pass up an opportunity to say "I love you".
24.Hold hands.
25.Hug & kiss every day (several times a day actually!).
28.Choose the one you love, then love the one you choose.
29.Keep the in-laws out of your marriage!
32.Play nice, play often, love much.
34.Never keep secrets from each other.
36.Communication is the key!
37.Always respect each other.
43.Don't make love in the same place/position everytime.
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rajji
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posted November 08, 2011 09:57 PM
The most important things that I have learnt over the course of time are-
1.Never assume.
I have learnt not to assume,even if I do I will put it out in font of my partner instead of keeping it to myself.
4.Remember that it is ok to do things differently!
I have learnt not to criticize just because their actions dont match mine! 5.Always make time for the two of you.
Spend Quality Time.Memories to cherish. 6.Be fair! Split the housework, spending money, etc evenly.
Yes I totally agree.
By helping eachpther we are helping our family! 11.Remember that people do fight. It's how you do it that matters.
Give them the space that they need to understand where they have gone wrong.
Always be ready to forgive.
Hold Hands.
You dont have to spaek to each other at all.
Just knowing that you two are there for each other no matter what can speak volumes.
26.Always believe that you got better than you deserved.
The key to everlasting happiness!
Nobody can ever make for a perfect partner!
27.Be quick to say "I'm sorry".
Sorry and thankyou matter as much as 'I LOVE YOU'
34.Never keep secrets from each other.
So true.Opening up will remove all the guilt.
39.It's the little things that matter most. Can be a phonecall,A flying kiss,A caring look into your eyes etc
40.Never use the words 'Always' and 'Never' in a fight.
Dont issue any ultimatums!
41.It's ok to argue, but never use curse words to express your anger.
Cursing has tremondous power so beware of it! IP: Logged |
rajji
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posted November 08, 2011 10:01 PM
The Golden Rules which are a MUST for me are-7.Remember that marriage is sometimes a bed of roses and sometimes there are thorns.
8.Remember that the best gift that you can give your children is to love their mother/father.
15.Never, ever mention the "D" word (divorce).
16.Do you want to be right or do you want to be married?
28.Choose the one you love, then love the one you choose. 30.Love isn't always a feeling, it's a decision.
31.Hang in there. It's worth it.
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pixelpixie
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posted November 10, 2011 11:34 PM
Yes yes yes! For sure! Reminders are great!IP: Logged |
charmainec
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 22, 2012 02:20 AM
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Remember, love can conquer the influences of the planets....It can even eliminate karma.
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RegardesPlatero
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posted May 22, 2012 07:43 AM
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Aquacheeka
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posted May 22, 2012 12:15 PM
What a beautiful list IP: Logged |
ariesdragon
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posted May 22, 2012 02:14 PM
Wonderful! Thank u for sharing! IP: Logged |
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