posted May 02, 2005 06:57 AM              

I had a Libran boyfriend he did all that.It was really nice and was amazing at sex too.It was wonderful experince.

I met Aussie guy and he would always think of sex and talk about it shamelessly and top of that he wasn't at all romatic.Althouh he was cute It was a big turn off. I don't know whether you can teach somebody to be romantic???? I did tried to explain but I am not sure if he understands.

My question is what kind of person would you go for

1. somebody has good sex drive and not at all romantic

2. A person who is romantic but suck at Sex.

3.A person who is good at both.

Another question is what do you want more in your relationship.What do you think is more important.Romance or Sex.

This question is to both sexes....I mean man and woman. You can write your planet placements.

posted May 02, 2005 07:35 AM              

So I would have to say BOTH are important. I honestly think they’re proportional to each other.

“edited to add

posted May 02, 2005 08:01 AM              

Sun Cap
Moon Aqua
Rising Lib (Conj. Pluto)

posted May 02, 2005 10:21 AM              

somebody has good sex drive and not at all romantic

sun in sagittarius

moon in aries

ascendant in leo (trines sun, trines moon, trines venus)

venus in sagittarius (Trines moon, conjuncts neptune, sextiles pluto, trines ascendant)

mars in leo (trines Moon, squares uranus, trines neptune, sextiles pluto)

posted May 02, 2005 10:21 AM              

somebody has good sex drive and not at all romantic

sun in sagittarius

moon in aries

ascendant in leo (trines sun, trines moon, trines venus)

venus in sagittarius (Trines moon, conjuncts neptune, sextiles pluto, trines ascendant)

mars in leo (trines Moon, squares uranus, trines neptune, sextiles pluto)

posted May 02, 2005 10:30 AM              

My placements~
Gemini Sun/7th(Taurus)
Venus in Taurus/(7th, conjunct retro Merc[ also Taurus/7th])
Mars in Leo( 9th, square Scorp Uranus/12th... I've heard that's bad...?)
Scorpio Ascending
... I, also have Eros conjunct Chiron, 29Aries, in the 5th.... but, I have'nt figured it out yet... and, my Juno is in Virgo, conjunct my MC...

Fun Thread!

posted May 02, 2005 10:43 AM            

BUT - he has to always want sex because it's always on my mind

Sagittarius sun
Sagittarius Ascendant
Aquarius Moon
Libra Venus
Sagittarius Mars
Scorpio Mercury

posted May 02, 2005 11:17 AM              

I have got Aries Moon and I feel all the time like that....I mean I want my things then I just want it.

Blue topaz: Hey! Venus in Libra, Asc,Sag,too...cool...
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Sex for me starts far away from the bedroom, with a look while we're in the middle of a dinner party or when we're doing something together than isn't even related.
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Agree !
Age...I would say they are numbers.
as for experince some get it sooner some take ages to get it.

Amisha :

I guess you don't like musshy musshy types.

Laglady:
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And I can't stand when guys talk about sex
in inapropriate times.
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What do you do with guys like that????

posted May 03, 2005 03:32 PM            

Since I realize that I won't necessarily be in the frame of mind to want lots of great sex as I get older, I'd like to make the most of my sex drive now.

I enjoy romance, but I view it as being often just empty gestures...and I guess I can also view it suspiciously. If they're really romantic when you first date, I've found that it doesn't last, it's like a game that's played to hook you...also, the men I've known to be romantic often lacked hugely in the concrete stuff, like being responsible, mature, reliable, whatever. It's like they're trying to use romance to make up for a lack of something - kinda like someone who buys people things cause they can't express love.

posted May 03, 2005 08:41 PM            

#2 -- I'll give lessons.

But in saying that, I note that "romantic" means different things to different people. What I find romantic, you might not....

posted May 04, 2005 03:51 AM              

maybe its my libra rising? or venus in 7th in aries? or gem stellium. pluto is in scorpio (very sexual!), but mars is in gemini (very airy and not too preoccupied with sex).

honestly, i had a hard time sorting my thoughts out. but i realized that i look at sex as the 'completion' of love with someone. that is, love has to precede a sexual relationship, otherwise for me it holds no meaning whatsoever; it is as meaningful as two insects mating to produce eggs, thats it.

that is why i am so against arranged marriages; in my culture they are norm, but i am rebellious in that stance. how could you have sex with someone who you 'like' but dont 'love'? not sufficient for me. i need to feel the romance first.

any person ive ever wanted to have sex with has only been the person i first loved and was romantically involved with.

interestingly enough i never wanted to have sex with my husband but avoided it like the plague (and i didnt!) how strange and funny. because i didnt love him and he knew it also; and because i was afraid and grossed out at having sex with someone i didnt love.

so in the end i asked myself;
love without sex? yes, i can do that and i have before ; and that is what makes me feel complete and happy.

sex without love? the thought disgusts me and its not for me at all; against my value system and loyalty.

love and sex? ideal, only if love is established first.

It pained me to write that though! because i can be so overly sensual and flirtatious. lol. but only with ppl i really love

posted May 04, 2005 08:42 AM              

In fact I was also wondering after sending the recent post that in every post I am kind of giving lots of options.I don't know really what that means.

Love without sex...sucks
Sex without Love...sucks for me.

Azalaksh

I would define Romance more the way Blue Topaz mentioned.

handholding, cuddling, I LOVE to be sung to and have candles lit, a glass of wine

but ofcourse it has to come genuinely and not without soul in it.

GAL

posted May 04, 2005 09:04 AM              

Does it make me more of an Aries? I think it would have if I didn’t have a singleton Moon.
But yeah I definitely carry some of their traits - how could I not?
But I guess it also means I’ll have some of their bad traits too lol

Now that I’ve read this again I’m now a little I think I confused romance with love.
Is romance a way of proving you love someone?

You can have relationships based on sex…they’re called flings - and there’s a reason why they don’t last

Love without sex? Isn’t that just friendship?

posted May 04, 2005 09:14 AM              

Well, first instance I give a look. A look that clearly shows my disapproval. If that doesn't do the trick I'll speak up, but if there are other people around I'll keep it light. And if still.. after making it 100% clear that I don't need to hear about "poking her in the.." then I'll leave the converation and go find something else to do, or someone else to talk to.

posted May 04, 2005 12:39 PM              

Let's be really real, romantic is even being involved with someone on the level where it's not just about the sex and neither one of you saying to the other, in the moment, I can't stand you right now, leave me alone - AND REALLY MEANING IT. Believe me, I LOVE sex (even though being in a continuous relationship with someone may prove that I'm not the sex-animal I believed myself to be because I sometimes say no even if I am one who turns on very quickly).

all that to say -
""handholding, cuddling, I LOVE to be sung to and have candles lit, a glass of wine"

is just being immersed in the bond between the two of you - I don't know how to explain that too swell but I don't consider that romance, I consider that just being because any one of those things can happen on any given day, at any given time, and most like any given second if you are friends which i consider a must in a relationship of this statue. it's part of your persona with or without the person and it comes out naturally between the two of you - not planned or i wonder if they would like this or any of that stressful crap. The "universal" romance that people can try to convince me that is, sounds planned to me. What's romantic at that time (the whole handholding, cudding, wine, singing bit) when all of that is happening is the fact that you both want to be in that type of setting at that moment and everything else to you becomes second to your bestest friend - observers or no observers (btw - i think some people do that universal romantic gesture to show off and that's NOT romantic - to me, that is).

for example:
I'm sitting in bed braiding my hair, I'm wearing a tee-shirt and a pair of shorts watching America's Next Top Model. I'm basically, engrossed in the show. My bestest friend, is watching me intently. Fine - definitely a turn on but I go on watching the show trying very hard not to smirk. (Mind you, no matter how common that may be for either one of us - ok - i'll say that is romantic to me because it pleasantly surprised me no matter how many times he has done this). Now, if he comes over to me blowing farts on my neck and wrapping his arms around my waist and then does something ikky like put his tongue in my ear (btw - ewwwwww, *giggle, giggle*) and I'm swatting him and half-saying to him to let me watch my show because I know where all that may lead to and I don't like to always give-in right away - there is romance again. that's 3 romantic settings in one. then what happens after that may be sex, maybe not but I kind of hope so - even if it is a quicky, which I love just as much, if not more than a long sweaty night.

question: are you suggesting that to act (strictly courtship-like) is being romantic? I don't get it. i'm just not that "creative".

i might have to come back to explain a little better.