posted August 19, 2004 10:08 AM              

My ex had a Gemini moon/1st house and he is very devoted now, only that took until he was 48.

posted August 19, 2004 12:50 PM              

rasberry, those neptune aspects make you restless, and prone to erratic behavior according to the books. Get near structure and stay away from drinkers and partiers. If you get mad at people, try and see things from their point of view.
Once you find someone who has empathy for you, tune in to see if that person is attractive.

Another thing, love takes work, but more importantly courage. Take a stab at it, be brave, give yourself six months and see how things lead. The worst thing that can happen is you waste your time, and when you have fun it's not a waste.

To many people are obsessed with "wasting their time" There's no hurry, just give yourself a timeline and see how things are progressing after that. Mine is a year, usually. Sometimes six months. Three months is a little fast I think since most people barely know you by then.

Do not layer relationships, if you have a complaint talk to your therapist, you are prone to losing boundaries so be careful to talk to detached observers about your relationship. I have made this mistake before-I have Nep. conjunct Ascendant opp Sun.

Natasha
Taurus

posted August 20, 2004 03:30 AM              

I'm a Libra with Cancer Moon, Venus in Virgo...

posted August 20, 2004 10:14 AM              

Case in point: I was very much in love with a Gemini with Pisces Moon and Jupiter, Cancer Venus and Mercury. He was everything I wanted, only moody, so sometimes he couldn't reassure me. Sometimes he had to work, instead of appreciating him I became very insecure and started dating my now ex. He was broken-hearted but I kept all his letters.

i was sure he would dump me someday for someone better, smarter, prettier, because he loved me so much I felt I couldn't live up to it. My insecurity started telling me things about myself that weren't true, like he's not that great.

Then my ex and I fought almost every month about that guy, and I would cry and re-read his letters. This made my Libra/Scorpio Mercury/Gemini Moon/Gemini Rising, ex furious and he would become very abusive. After 7 years, I left, but I realized I had poured all my energy from the Gemini into the LIbra, and the Gemini had deserved so much more from me.

After all the love I shared came from him, I didn't generate it all by myself, my heart just isnt that strong. I like to be the center of a man's heart, but unless I can make him the center of mine, I 'll never get what I want. There are very few men who will make you feel your entire heart is taken up by him, and that man won't make it feel like work, he will contribute.

The Gemini would send tons of beautiful love letters, cards, and splurge on trips for us together, he basically made love all the time out of air. And I still have his letters! Poor new boyfriends can never compete with that.

Jupiter in Pisces is a very exalted position, if you meet that you are lucky, the position brings luck in writing, and children, and is very romantic.

So the answer is to never settle, wait for someone who is your entire heart's desire, who is very romantic especially if you have the Cancer Moon. I feel bad for my Gemini Moon/1st house ex, because we battled for control of my heart so much, but his excessive pride and lack of affection didn't help either.

Strangely the Gemini wasn't always affectionate, but he made my heart feel full.

There are very few men like that, I must have known 350-400 men in my lifetime, including acquantainces, co-workers, family, I have travelled all over, been everywhere, but there are very few men who fill your heart.

The reason you can't decide is because they are not deciding on you, you are not the center of their heart, center of their existence. That's not unrealistic because if you need more, you have to get more, love is about expectations.

I have been in therapy and I can say for sure that no matter what you have to be sure.

Self confidence is very important for women especially, my ex hated women working, and so he didn't build my confidence. A romantic man who loves you will naturally let you blossom, and encourage your natural growth. He ought to be able to say I will wait for ten years, as long as i can still know you.

posted August 20, 2004 10:17 AM              

So that's a high recommendation for Australians, don't believe that they are macho, they are much less macho than American and Canadian men.

posted August 20, 2004 12:18 PM              

"A romantic man who loves you will naturally let you blossom, and encourage your natural growth. He ought to be able to say I will wait for ten years, as long as i can still know you. "

posted August 20, 2004 03:26 PM              

Lots of romances have ended with two people being separated for a few years.