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Topic: unfinished business
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Tiger
Knowflake Posts: 11
From: Toronto, ON, Canada
Registered: Sep 2002
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posted September 10, 2002 11:43 AM
 
2 months ago I met the "man of my dreams" in Spain. He's Spanish but lives in Puerto Rico. We had a fabulous 12 hours (only) together before we had to go home. After 2 months of great phone calls/flirtations/excitement, I decided to visit him. We had a very strong connection and I was sure this man was my future husband (a psychic had said as much 6 months prior) To my surprise, his walls came up when we met and he had a very difficult time letting me know his true feelings. He mentioned that I could “break him in two…but in a good way” and that “one of us would hurt the other.” I sensed that he was intimidated by me (I’m a strong, independent woman but he already knew that). He is a deeply sensitive person having just come out of a relationship but his rejection was extremely hurtful and everything he did lacked the passion that he displayed previously – I was so confused!! We ended up parting on bad terms and I’m still wondering what I did to deserve such animosity. I will likely never talk to him again. After reading Linda’s Star Signs book last night, I’m beginning to feel that this was deserved karma. Here are our specs:me: January 24, 1973; Montreal Canada 1pm
him: October 20, 1969; Barcelona Spain (time unknown) What happened? And am I ever going to meet someone that will make me truly happy? Thanks,
Tiger
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Randall
Webmaster Posts: 16464
From: Columbus, GA USA
Registered: Nov 2000
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posted September 10, 2002 12:15 PM
Welcome, Tiger!  ------------------
"Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
VenusWarriorPrincess
Knowflake Posts: 303
From: Beach
Registered: Jul 2002
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posted September 10, 2002 07:27 PM
Hi Tiger!Don't think for one minute that, that Libra male wasn't appreciative that you are a Strong, Independent Woman! It is a driving force for any Libra to pursue.
Libra men and women are like role reversal. Libra women tend to be the stronger, more independent ones of this sign, while the males typically seem to PURSUE this type, quite frequently with marriage in mind. Libra men are artistic dreamers who seek out a more productive partner than themselves for comfort. I've witnessed this many times over starting with my parents, so I know that that wasn't the problem with you two. It seems like he was still emotionally wrapped up with his Ex, or perhaps with someone else. In many cases, after a relationship has dissolved and feelings are crushed, one or both will go out and have some fun to shake off the stress of that relationship. Sometimes by testing the waters, for reassurance of their level of appeal to someone who is new and exciting.
He was most likely in his playful, flirtatious mood when you two met and didn't know HOW to handle the reality of those consequences later. He knew that he wasn't emotionally ready for what was looking to get serious with you, so he tried to brush you off so that it wouldn't escalate into anything huge. I don't think he was referring to himself when he said "someone will get hurt." I truly believe he was talking about YOU! He was being diplomatic when he used the term SOMEONE. Remember, he KNOWS himself! Don't ever think a Libra doesn't. He needed time to PLAY!
Consider it a blessing that you didn't get strung along and get severely hurt in the end. One thing a Libra knows is him/herself. Trust that. Sure, we can be gently persuaded when we want to be, but we know what we want. Decision making is not a problem with clear goals in sight. Indecision takes place typically when having to "rearrange" from a fixed idea about something we truly want. When there are POOR CHOICES presented, where we HAVE to make a choice between them, it's difficult. Our standards are high. When there are MANY great choices, it is also difficult. Why? Because we ALWAYS want to make the BEST possible decision! Sometimes we see it as a Right or Wrong decision.
Once we make it, it's for keeps! Fear Not Tiger! The right one will come along! (smile)
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Tiger
Knowflake Posts: 11
From: Toronto, ON, Canada
Registered: Sep 2002
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posted September 12, 2002 09:55 AM
Thanks so much for the warm welcome and the very in-depth response...it has definitely been a learning experience for me and I'm just trying to move onwards and upwards! I guess sometimes things are just meant to be...IP: Logged |
VenusWarriorPrincess
Knowflake Posts: 303
From: Beach
Registered: Jul 2002
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posted September 12, 2002 02:20 PM
Tiger,Don't forget that life is about having MANY experiences. Some are great, and some are not so great. Whatever you do, don't take things too personally. There are many out there who simply don't know what they want.
Take it easy. Life should be made FUN, even in the midst of chaos! It is important to make room for something pleasing to you regardless of the situation. Balance darling. It works! IP: Logged |
Tiger
Knowflake Posts: 11
From: Toronto, ON, Canada
Registered: Sep 2002
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posted September 12, 2002 04:40 PM
You're totally RIGHT! For me, I was so caught up in the romance of it all since the day we met (and a tarot card reader had given me many clues in Jan. that this was "the guy") that I lost sight of reality - until I got there. I was disappointed in his actions given that he encouraged me to visit him and was amazed how he just totally did a 360 when I arrived.I had no inkling that it would happen. I think I was also worried that he was actually "the one" but I had changed destiny with my actions. I don't believe that anymore and I behaved in a totally appropriate manner. I've never had this happen before so I'm definitely chalking it up to experience. I feel the experience was necessary for growth. Thanks again for the words of encouragement!! IP: Logged |
VenusWarriorPrincess
Knowflake Posts: 303
From: Beach
Registered: Jul 2002
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posted September 12, 2002 05:41 PM
Your Welcome!  Glad to hear your spirits are up and more understanding of the situation. I understand your hopes. I, myself am a SERIOUS Romantic!
Trust me, I know those feelings very well. Because of it, I also tread very carefully. Double Venus here! I am always ready for romance!  Your attitude is great, your heart is ready and your also a go getter, so.... Just be patient for now and enjoy the Journey. People will come and go, and the more significant one's will remain. Don't try and analyze a person's purpose in your life. Slowly, it will unfold. Just move in a natural, fluid, positive way.
When the time comes and you meet someone worthy, and sparks begin to fly for both of you equally, just mentally hear me say.... "Go Get Em Tiger!!" I wish you the BEST! Hang in there.... IP: Logged |
myaxlrose
Knowflake Posts: 22
From: India
Registered: Aug 2002
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posted September 13, 2002 01:28 AM
Sorry to intrude in this thread... but i truly agree with what VenusWarriorPrincess wrote. You may not always know why things happen when they do, but you need to remain positive and one day you'll see that indeed, it was for the better. I have seent his from my personal experience.hang in there tiger and don't let this get u down.
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Tiger
Knowflake Posts: 11
From: Toronto, ON, Canada
Registered: Sep 2002
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posted September 13, 2002 09:24 AM
Ahh, yes, the hopeless romantic! That must come from my moon in Libra. Thanks again for the words of encouragement. I've managed to shake myself out of the reverie and back to my old self again.Cheers!
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VenusWarriorPrincess
Knowflake Posts: 303
From: Beach
Registered: Jul 2002
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posted September 13, 2002 02:43 PM
Tiger,
Glad to hear it sweetie! Go Girl!  IP: Logged | |
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