Posts: 519
From: chicago
Registered: Aug 2004

posted February 07, 2005 12:25 PM         

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Hey good knowflakes, I posted a few weeks ago about the breakup that I had with my Aqua guy so it is not a secret, I am starting to feel okay now. Since our break up I have found out other things that really broke my heart even more, but thats ok. I am pushing forward w/all my might. Anyway we still share that deep connection just this morning I felt that deep feeling that I use to feel when he was thinking about me. We still share that connection. We have not talked to each other in almost a week now and he made a choice to go in another direction,but I still feel him and I know what I feel is real. Not meaning that he will be back or what we had was real just that I know that feeling. It is scarey that are wires are still crossing and that he is still connecting with me when he wanted to go inanother direction. It may sound crazy I know, but i am ready to move on, just wondering if anybody understands what I am talking about?

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posted February 07, 2005 03:02 PM         

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*raises hand*

I do...spot on I understand every word you said Mama...every single word...

and it's a surreal feeling...it's saddening as well...least it has been for me...

*hugs Mama Mia*

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posted February 07, 2005 07:07 PM         

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Yes, I have been in that situation before too, a few years ago. It is bittersweet to say the least. But you're doing good! Just take your time and slowly the connection will fade, everyday the connection will release itself a bit more...that is unless he does something to come back to you. But if both of you stay mutual to end it, then it will eventually fade.

I bet you can feel it now, because it's been a few weeks. The breakup person sometimes has thoughts of "should I have done that?" sort of thing. You're right in what you're feeling though. He's thinking about you, about the situation. What he is exactly thinking is something only you can know though.

((((((hugs)))))) to you

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From: Gotham City
Registered: Jan 2005

posted February 07, 2005 10:35 PM         

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Yeah that feeling...The person I loved also went WAAY far away in another direction, and to this day I still know when he's thinking about me. He was a special person to you, and you were to him, and you'll always be. I wouldn't let it get you down, b/c it's not really a sad thing, you just won't ever forget eachother.

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From: chicago
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posted February 08, 2005 10:24 AM         

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Yes bittersweet is a very good way at putting it,cause that is how I am looking at it. I know that he has been thinking about me and I know that he is wondering did he really make the right choice. But here is the thing the choice has been made, and if you know in your heart that it is the right choice no need to second guess. Like I said I wll be okay I know the days are getting better it is just the nights that I have a hard time with. When I lay down and my kids are sleep and the tv is off and all my friends are gone it is just me. That is when the stuff gets a lil heavy. I talk to GOD and I know that he only wants the best for me, but it right now it is still hard for me. Especially when I lay down. All I can think about is how he went in another direction but was still trying to hold on to me too. (Guess have his cake and eat it too syndrome) I will be okay thankyou guys for letting me know it happens..

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From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004

posted February 08, 2005 01:10 PM         

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Raises hand too - not with a lover, but with a very deeply connected friend of opposite sex - it is very very sad, but I know for me it is the best thing to let go, but who knows in the future hey guys??? Love to all xxxx

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Registered: Jan 2005

posted February 19, 2005 12:36 AM         

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I also know the feeling. He was already headed in a different direction when we mutually broke up 3 years ago...but he didn't want to lose our friendship. He called me on my last birthday and I could tell he was thinking 'What if'. I know he thinks about me quite often as I do him. It 'is' sad but it 'does' get better.

jfjinca

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From: new zealand
Registered: Dec 2004

posted February 19, 2005 12:54 AM         

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In my opinion I think you should hold on to the feeling, although he might not be the one for you anymore, I think you will be more likeliy to attract another him if it seems on the outset that you already do.

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From: S.E.A.
Registered: Dec 2004

posted February 19, 2005 03:07 AM         

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G'Day Mama Mia Hang in there woman! I know what u must be going thru.. been there a couple of times meself. Not an easy lesson..but an important one nonetheless. And i guess its all the more harder with us 'intuitive' signs.. i mean,u may find yourself asking: how come I didnt sense/know he was all wrong for me in the begining? or why didnt I see it coming? ... But,the way i see it.. He probably was the right one at/for that time. And now that time has passed, and u have sensed it, u have learnt whatever it was that u were supposed to learn ..and so now its time to move on. (umm, i'm not intending this to sound shallow or anything..)

Its never easy to leave a loved one/to move on... but,these things always happen for the better... out there is another new experience... another special man who needs ur love/needs to love you back.

Be good to yourself.. no one is to be blamed. Not you, not him. He has his own dragons to slay..and so do u. Let your innerself heal for a while.. and once you're fully recharged, you'll be ready to take on the world yet again.

Umm.. wow..sorry to ramble on.. anyways,hope it somehow made sense.. it was just my take on these kinda experiences. Hope all is well in ur side of the world.

Peace & Love !
Scorp sun/Pisces moon

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From: Montreal, Canada
Registered: May 2003

posted February 19, 2005 09:24 AM         

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Do you really miss him at night? you really miss the contact of someone who offers security and a warm hug, who says everything is going to be allright in the morning. A lot of people can do that, If you felt his hand on your arm right now, would it make you feel happy and secure? If not then it's best that you find someone who does,
Romance is not everything!
Security, and a warm hug is

Natasha

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From: chicago
Registered: Aug 2004

posted February 22, 2005 12:11 PM         

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Thanks guys for the warm words. Giving your
input does help.

Sthenri: I was missing him at night alot it seemed like when I laid down all the pain came to me. BUT things have gotten so much better for me as where that goes. I am sleeping real good at night. I still miss him and continue to think about him, but I do realize now that it is for the best. I will just be glad when all the feelings are gone for him and I have gotten the lesson so that I can recieve someone else..Thankyou..

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From: S.E.A.
Registered: Dec 2004

posted February 23, 2005 07:35 AM         

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And we're always here to distract you and keep you pre-occupied ! Time truly is a healer. A good time-consuming hobby may help quieten/dampen the memories for a while till ur more ready to dissociate...

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From: Palmer, Alaska (the valley)
Registered: Jul 2004

posted February 23, 2005 04:06 PM         

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sorry, deleted

ang-

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