posted May 20, 2012 11:24 AM            

Does anyone know about him? Read his ebook?

posted May 23, 2012 11:06 AM            

I think what alot of women forget about men is that they are inherantly simple creatures.

Going back to primoridal needs, they hunt, kill, protect, bring the food home, eat, sleep, experience the testeronic needs to procreate, etc.

We women often project our complicated emotional needs onto men, which leaves them confused.

Women should re-member we are not them, nor they us...

Keeping things simple, I think, is a huge key to being successful with a man.

posted May 23, 2012 03:38 PM            

hippichick; really like what you said and I agree.

I actually haven't even read his ebook yet. I don't really want to know all the secrets. Something's blocking me. Yet I probably really need the help. I think though that we know generally what is happening in a relationship, why things go wrong... I think

But there are some deeper mechanics in a relationship that I can't really imagine him discussing.

(I can't even write today- hope this makes sense)

Also I find that all my relationships have been exactly the same almost like with the same person or should I say spirit.

posted May 24, 2012 10:38 AM            

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Originally posted by Yin:
My favorite line in the book so far:

"Becoming MORE honest with your desires and LESS concerned with the immediate outcome will help you see more of the reality of your situation. And in turn this will change your short-term expectations and your outlook, which will help you have a better time and better odds of having a happy love life."

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posted May 24, 2012 03:47 PM            

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Originally posted by hippichick:
That guy is not a bad looker himself!

I think what alot of women forget about men is that they are inherantly simple creatures.

Going back to primoridal needs, they hunt, kill, protect, bring the food home, eat, sleep, experience the testeronic needs to procreate, etc.

We women often project our complicated emotional needs onto men, which leaves them confused.

Women should re-member we are not them, nor they us...

Keeping things simple, I think, is a huge key to being successful with a man.

terri~

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Everyone is everyone else. Men and women think and act alike because hey, guess what, we're all human beings. Human beings are complicated. One thing that works with some guys won't work on others. Same with chicks.

Men have emotional depth just the same as women and to say otherwise is sexist and offensive.

-IMO

posted May 24, 2012 10:17 PM            

wouldn't you agree that men are more primal than women?

for most women show them love and give them attention and you got them hooked

posted May 26, 2012 10:47 AM            

giggle!

posted May 29, 2012 09:16 AM            

I never said men wernt emotional creatures, but we women have the tendency to throw our complex emotional natures onto men.

I have never seen, nor experienced a man dislpaying this thing men call "hormonal" which is actually a dislpay of emotions women have not been taught to keep inside.

I have been told this by men for most of my life, especially my current boyfriend.

In my half a century of life, I have come to know that men want to get to he point, keep things simple as I said and no fluff, where as women tend to get complicated and, again in my experience leaves the poor guy wondering what just hit him.

posted May 29, 2012 10:14 AM            

Now, however...IF one were to capture the true essence of what this statement's author is trying to say, I would agree, men are not from but OF the testeronic planet of Mars...but women?

posted May 29, 2012 04:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
The author knew nothing of Astrology and was just saying we are from two different planets (way different).

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lol I get that, was just being sarcastic~

posted May 29, 2012 06:53 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
The author knew nothing of Astrology and was just saying we are from two different planets (way different).

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Agreed.

posted May 31, 2012 02:15 AM            

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Originally posted by Yin:
My favorite line in the book so far:

"Becoming MORE honest with your desires and LESS concerned with the immediate outcome will help you see more of the reality of your situation. And in turn this will change your short-term expectations and your outlook, which will help you have a better time and better odds of having a happy love life."

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posted May 31, 2012 11:04 AM            

I like the idea of good synastry and absolutely chemistry, that lends the terms to greater success in two individuals being more compatible and remaining in "relationship" indefinately.

If I had someone reading, researching and trying to figure out how to "keep me" I'd be gone. It is what it is.

My bfriend of the last year and a half is moving back up north tomorrow. I am having a harder time with this than I would ever have dreamed of, but I knew this would be the sitution from the get go, I am blessing and sending him off with as much love as I can muster.

Two very loud synchronistic events happened to him yesterday to validate his decision, I told him, very lovingly, (in his Catholic terms) that it is the voice of God, letting him know he is on his path.

1500 Miles apart is going to be hard for a long distance relationship, I really dont like the term anyway, puts lables on folks, but what will be will be, he was never mine nor me his to keep.

posted June 30, 2012 09:43 PM            

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posted July 05, 2012 06:05 PM            

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The way the whole night flew by with effortless conversation.

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He doesn’t call you for the next five days before your date.

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He’s cooking for you. At his place. All you have to do is bring the wine.

You bring two bottles.

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posted July 05, 2012 06:09 PM            

You know he feels the love you feel, you could see it in his eyes.

He looks deep into your eyes when he talks to you

But he leaves you falling anyways
and goes on with his life, extremely happy