posted December 25, 2013 03:47 PM            

I'd like to exchange readings, in the spirit of the holidays. I do playing cards but I'm not opposed to any other type of deck...

My questions are about 2014 and what can I specifically expect in my love life (currently single)... how my finances will be like... how my career will go (currently unemployed)... Etc.

posted December 25, 2013 04:26 PM            

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
Hi and Merry Christmas, everyone!

I'd like to exchange readings, in the spirit of the holidays. I do playing cards but I'm not opposed to any other type of deck...

My questions are about 2014 and what can I specifically expect in my love life (currently single)... how my finances will be like... how my career will go (currently unemployed)... Etc.

Let me know your questions and I'll answer them the best way that I can!

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I'll trade with you, if you're in (:

posted December 25, 2013 05:37 PM            

Base card: 3 of diamonds
Spread: 4 of hearts, 8 of clubs and 2 of spades

Overall, January will be a time of confusion and second-guessing for you.

Do you have someone in your life? I don't think you have, so I'm gonna read as if you're single, but correct me if I'm wrong.

posted December 25, 2013 05:50 PM            

As for yours, I think you are possibly my favorite reader on here now. Because that reading was so accurate, I really cannot even process it.

Very long story short, I was in a long term relationship. He kept pulling away. I hung on and did everything in my power to fix it. Until now. I ended it. Hardest move over ever EVER had to make, because I, in no way, feel its over. I am scared he is going to come back. In january. I'm scared he's going to want to work it out... Because currently im just really confused and frustrated and miss him.

posted December 25, 2013 06:05 PM            

I want to get full closure on my ex so I asked questions about that

he told me he married her out of convenience..... but wouldn't going to it I know she has money... but can you see the other reasons why he married her?

is he happy with her?

will this be a forever marriage?

She knew about me that I was in the picture when they were together..... after I told her....i had no idea she was in the picture...... does she think that he talks to me thinks about me, does she look at my Facebook for Pinterest account

and what are his thoughts and feelings or emotions about me..... will he try to contact me

I will be back with yours!

QUOTE]Originally posted by filleaspirant:
Hi and Merry Christmas, everyone!

I'd like to exchange readings, in the spirit of the holidays. I do playing cards but I'm not opposed to any other type of deck...

My questions are about 2014 and what can I specifically expect in my love life (currently single)... how my finances will be like... how my career will go (currently unemployed)... Etc.

Let me know your questions and I'll answer them the best way that I can![/QUOTE]

posted December 25, 2013 06:07 PM            

First I asked how your financial situation will go on 2014. I pulled..

Nine of swords -The Magician- Five of Pentacles

Now I know nine of swords and five of pentacles might not look great, but to be honest seeing as the magician was the focus card... I think that you're going to have trials of error, and become frustrated, but you will have the power to make something of nothing. I honestly think its going to get darker but in the end it will completely be worth it because you can make materialize your goals after the hardships... And appreciate it more.

Next I asked about your love life for 2014. I pulled...

Queen of swords - High Priestess - The Tower

posted December 25, 2013 06:07 PM            

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Originally posted by coolingembers:
I'm about to do your reading, I'll post it within fifteen minutes. Promise.

As for yours, I think you are possibly my favorite reader on here now. Because that reading was so accurate, I really cannot even process it.

Very long story short, I was in a long term relationship. He kept pulling away. I hung on and did everything in my power to fix it. Until now. I ended it. Hardest move over ever EVER had to make, because I, in no way, feel its over. I am scared he is going to come back. In january. I'm scared he's going to want to work it out... Because currently im just really confused and frustrated and miss him.

How's that for feedback? . Okay, I need to interpret your reading now. I'm sort of new...don't hate me if I mess up.

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Wow, that's really cool! And also not, because there was a fretful, angsty feel to the read, so I know if what I "saw" comes true, you'll be anxious and very confused

Okay, so what I can tell intuitively is that he's hanging on to this past relationship more than you are right now. I don't think you want to go back. It's not that you're a woman scorned, but it's that you realize you're both better off separated than together. The moment you ended things, did you feel some anxiety leave you? Like you said, you were too worried about pleasing him and making the relationship work... Even though you miss him, you should remember how much better it felt to not have to fulfill his expectations, desires and lack of communication.

posted December 25, 2013 06:17 PM            

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
Wow, that's really cool! And also not, because there was a fretful, angsty feel to the read, so I know if what I "saw" comes true, you'll be anxious and very confused

Okay, so what I can tell intuitively is that he's hanging on to this past relationship more than you are right now. I don't think you want to go back. It's not that you're a woman scorned, but it's that you realize you're both better off separated than together. The moment you ended things, did you feel some anxiety leave you? Like you said, you were too worried about pleasing him and making the relationship work... Even though you miss him, you should remember how much better it felt to not have to fulfill his expectations, desires and lack of communication.

I don't think he has bad intentions, if he comes back, but I think it's not about passion here... feels more like being comfortable with someone that you know likes you and expects little of you. That's not the type of romance I'd want, sorry if I'm being harsh here. You deserve better.

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Yes. I did feel some anxiety leave. Which was very very very shocking because I expected a mental breakdown. I barely ended it last friday. He seemed unphased. He never said a word. He added new girls on facebook, and never contacted me. Which hurt. Because it feels like I was the only one who cared.

Last year something mildly similar happened. He wanted space in december, and returned mid january. He claimed to of not dated any other girls and just focused on bettering himself. The shock was, the changes he mentioned were real. Our relationship improved greatly... Up until november/december hit again.

So ... I am scared. First love and all that bull sh**. I really do think he will come back in january. I really will want to fix things. Were signed up for the same classes for spring semester, which starts february.

posted December 25, 2013 06:17 PM            

I don't know if your jobs going to do something with creativity and for some reason like a coffee shop keeps popping up you're always going to be moving about on the other side II don't see you specifically with customers..... just going to be a creative type of job...... like marketing or something or some new enterprise company..... your position, its like whatever they need done you do it go fill errands, order supplies etc..... it's laid back but it's also loud its got energy I guess that's I'm getting Starbucks because I feel like Starbucks is loud and energy in you know you can talk to customers for a while if you want to.

specifically with your finances again I think you're just happy because you're getting money in you'll have enough to pay for the things that you need not necessarily enough to save..... that's within the first 6 months of the new year.... I can't see the rest of the years I don't know if you're going to have this job this might be a temporary job..... is going to stretch for full 8 months.

for your love life I see some..... here and there.... type of guys coming..... like random dates or something like that but nothing that's solid....... but there is one guy that stands out and I don't know if he's connected to your job but I get hes artiesy and I get to same energy around him that I do you about your job I don't know if he's going to be related to your work situation because it's the same energy I'm getting... so it could. the courting will take a very long time you guys will start off as friends flirting and then finally it will progress into dating.

so overall you have a few dates here and there throughout the year but you'll have this guy you're going to be friends with..... and that's when I see you actually dating again is going to take a long time many months for it to get to that point

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
Hi and Merry Christmas, everyone!

I'd like to exchange readings, in the spirit of the holidays. I do playing cards but I'm not opposed to any other type of deck...

My questions are about 2014 and what can I specifically expect in my love life (currently single)... how my finances will be like... how my career will go (currently unemployed)... Etc.

Let me know your questions and I'll answer them the best way that I can!

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posted December 25, 2013 06:23 PM            

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Originally posted by coolingembers:
I asked two questions.

First I asked how your financial situation will go on 2014. I pulled..

Nine of swords -The Magician- Five of Pentacles

Now I know nine of swords and five of pentacles might not look great, but to be honest seeing as the magician was the focus card... I think that you're going to have trials of error, and become frustrated, but you will have the power to make something of nothing. I honestly think its going to get darker but in the end it will completely be worth it because you can make materialize your goals after the hardships... And appreciate it more.

Next I asked about your love life for 2014. I pulled...

Queen of swords - High Priestess - The Tower

As for this question... Usually the tower scares me but I think these cards show you having a huge shock to the system. Accessing your sub cpncious, becoming more self aware, and having a sudden realization. Which can very well be a good thing.

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Financially, it looks like more of the same for the next year. It's fine, I guess. I've made it work so far, I should be able to keep it like that for a little longer.

Sudden shock to the system regarding my love life? I'm not sure I like the sound of that. Isn't Queen of Swords extremely mental? That's me, romantically. Also, reading on http://teachmetarot.wordpress.com/part-iii-major-arcana/lesson-2/the-high-priestess-ii-upright/, the High Priestess probably means that I'm not happy with how my love life is right now and that I'm trying to work out what I want in it and from it. I'm not sure what to make of the Tower here, as I'm single and not dating... From what I read, it usually means the reversal of a situation, so could it mean that I'll fall/be in love (never happened in the past)?

posted December 25, 2013 08:17 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
can I tade with you also?

I want to get full closure on my ex so I asked questions about that

he told me he married her out of convenience..... but wouldn't going to it I know she has money... but can you see the other reasons why he married her?

is he happy with her?

will this be a forever marriage?

She knew about me that I was in the picture when they were together..... after I told her....i had no idea she was in the picture...... does she think that he talks to me thinks about me, does she look at my Facebook for Pinterest account

and what are his thoughts and feelings or emotions about me..... will he try to contact me

I will be back with yours!

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Hey cherful, sorry about the late reply. Wanted to clear my head a little bit before I do yours, as I didn't want to get your reading mixed with coolingembers'

Okay, so as to why else your ex married his wife... First and foremost, did he really say it was out of convenience's sake? I just don't get that from the base card... It's 5 of hearts, which to me speaks of a restless sense of happiness, of ungrounded happiness, and actually -- sorry if this is harsh -- female sexuality and sensuality overload. Like, he didn't know you could reach this type of satisfaction and be so into someone. Was it a quick dating-engagement-marriage? Feels like it. Anyway, I don't particularly like the spread I got for his reasons: 4C, 4S and 2S. Basically, what this says is that he wanted stability in his life, not only just financial, but social as well. He wanted to lay the foundations for something he hopes will grow into recognition from his peers, family, co-workers and community. Seems like he also wanted to escape from a difficult situation. He felt pressured and cooped up, and this marriage seemed like the best solution to escape whatever he was running from. From the last card, I'd say he wanted to just put a definite end to an older relationship, something that was dragging for months and even years. I don't feel this speaks about his wife, but actually of someone else. He wanted to put an end to this other person's hopes of being with him. Sorry, but all along I'm getting this other person is you, and his way of handling you is very cavalier to me... I'm so sorry, if this ends up making sense to you, because that's a disrespect not only to you as a woman, but as a human being as well.

As whether he's happy with her... Yes, he is. He seems very much in control of his emotions and he's using his head more than his heart here, but he's got financial stability and all the momentaneous happiness he can get. The cards for this one was KS, 4D and 5H.

A resounding yes on whether this will be a forever marriage. I'm suffling this deck like nobody's business, but this is the third time (for the third question) that I pull the 5H, so this is telling me there's a love foundation in this relationship. Also got the marriage card, the AH, and the QD, which makes me think his wife will be the force behind this marriage, but also that this will be a love that dwindles into convivial contentment in the end. They'll stay together for appearance's sake but also because it's more beneficial for them, financially speaking.

As to whether she thinks he still keeps in touch with you, yes. JD, 6C and 10H. Let me be honest with you here... She feels very confident to me, very assured in her position as his wife. She's living suspended in her own fantasy that this is the perfect marriage and that there is nothing wrong with him contacting you. She thinks that it's just harmless talk and she trusts him to not deceive her. She's too happy right now and she doesn't seem to see you as a threat to her marriage. Sorry.

Lastly, as to what he feels for you... Base is 9H and spread is QS, 9S and JC. Why does he see you as a gossip and meddlesome? He feels disappointed by you and again I'm seeing that he felt you were pressuring him into doing what he didn't want. The only heart I got for this question was the base, which I think speaks of him finding you the perfect woman, like a wish come true to him, but for whatever reason -- I don't wanna be rude, but I'm getting he felt you were pushy --, he decided to end things and convey a message to you by marrying someone else. Did you lash out? He feels you shouldn't have and that you actually almost spoilt things for him. He might try to be a friend to you, because it does feel like he had feelings for you, but right now, that's what I'm getting for his feelings...

posted December 25, 2013 08:53 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
that's funny you said that you were unemployed because I feel like you have a job around you...... I have a feeling you get when was the first maybe 2-3 months of the new year....... you're going to like it very much you're not going to be in love with it.... you being happy and grateful for having a job and getting the finances in...... the people there though u will really liking ....you actually make some good friendship even with your bosses you guys will be cordial to be good working relationship. I don't see this being a career job I see this is more of a job

I don't know if your jobs going to do something with creativity and for some reason like a coffee shop keeps popping up you're always going to be moving about on the other side II don't see you specifically with customers..... just going to be a creative type of job...... like marketing or something or some new enterprise company..... your position, its like whatever they need done you do it go fill errands, order supplies etc..... it's laid back but it's also loud its got energy I guess that's I'm getting Starbucks because I feel like Starbucks is loud and energy in you know you can talk to customers for a while if you want to.

specifically with your finances again I think you're just happy because you're getting money in you'll have enough to pay for the things that you need not necessarily enough to save..... that's within the first 6 months of the new year.... I can't see the rest of the years I don't know if you're going to have this job this might be a temporary job..... is going to stretch for full 8 months.

for your love life I see some..... here and there.... type of guys coming..... like random dates or something like that but nothing that's solid....... but there is one guy that stands out and I don't know if he's connected to your job but I get hes artiesy and I get to same energy around him that I do you about your job I don't know if he's going to be related to your work situation because it's the same energy I'm getting... so it could. the courting will take a very long time you guys will start off as friends flirting and then finally it will progress into dating.

so overall you have a few dates here and there throughout the year but you'll have this guy you're going to be friends with..... and that's when I see you actually dating again is going to take a long time many months for it to get to that point

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Well, I guess that if we look coldly at my options, I'm not unemployed. I'm a lawyer in my country, so I do have a couple of civil actions that will give me money once they're judged and the defendants have paid my so-called clients. My clients are family members, which is why I don't really count them as clients or even this as a job. It's a very freelance thing, like I'll do a legal paper for one or two days, file it and wait months for the judge to make a pronunciation. I want something that will pay me monthly, instead of just when all is said and done. I don't mean to sound snobbish, but there's just no way I'm working in a coffee shop. There's nothing really creative about the law, so this might have something to do with my on and off (mostly off) hobby of writing. Even if it's not a coffee shop, I just don't have the education needed to be in the creative sector of a company.

Actually, now that I think about it, what you described sounds like my last job, which was an internship in the Public Defenders' Office. I had a very good relationship with everyone all around, my bosses liked my work but I wasn't in love with the work. I liked it, but it was subordinated stuff, which I don't usually like to do. It was a laid-back thing as well, but I also ended up doing whatever my bosses needed me to do (thankfully, they liked me too much to make me do stupid things like wait in a line to file a legal document or do mindless stuff like that). Funny also, because we had a problem with the people that supplied coffee for the Office, so everyday I'd go out to get some for me and everyone else.

Anyway, if it's a new job, it's actually good to know I'll get enough money to pay for the things that I want. Depending on my parents for money is a drag to me and very shameful.

posted December 25, 2013 09:05 PM            

then he had a break down or so he said and I helped him through it.... that's when he said it was out of convenience, he was having financial problems with ex wife was taking him to court and getting more money off him, he thought he had no control over his life, he got arrested for DUI...... so i talked him down, sent wonderful emails about how he can overcome what's going on

yes when I found out that he got married I did yell at him because he got married and he had been trying to get back together with me. two months prior to the weddInc...... I had agreed to stay friends with him. but after I felt like I was being used and after my dad died he kept pressuring to see me and I finally said yes. he stood me up I felt like I can't take this anymore and that's when I told his wife about when I was a picture and his behavior and all the messages hes een sending me. and after I yelledled at him he said he understood why and he said that he was sorry for being such an a****** to me and how things turned out, and its probably going to be the biggest regret of his life

they're all old friend from back in the day yes it was supposedly a very fast dating engagement and marriage situation. and yes in marrying her made him look better and it gave him a lot of friends.... and his family was extremely happy he got the stability that you always wanted and any chapter in his life.

that other girl though its not me its his ex wife... they weren't even divorced for 2 years before he got married to this girl..... and a lot of difficulties with her they have a son together and she basically take him to the cleaners

I was never pushy with him, he did what he wanted when he wanted... I never asked for anything...... and I should have boundaries down but I didn't . I'm the one that walked away from him when he wanted to get back together I said no. now looking back I can see the ahole things he did that was trying to give me to probably walk away.... but when I did he asked me back.

they just had a baby so I know they're happy at this moment and she's very happy.

I would be very surprised if she even let him talk to eme after the email I have sent her even gave her descriptions of her belongings that I have found his place so she knew I was being honest with her

so he was cheating on her when they were engagement try to get back together with me after they were married I don't think she wants himhim talking to me

AA couple months ago they moved 5 hours away to his parents and his family..... so yeah I'm sure she feels very confident and her position

Originally posted by filleaspirant:

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Originally posted by cherful24:
[B]can I tade with you also?

I want to get full closure on my ex so I asked questions about that

he told me he married her out of convenience..... but wouldn't going to it I know she has money... but can you see the other reasons why he married her?

is he happy with her?

will this be a forever marriage?

She knew about me that I was in the picture when they were together..... after I told her....i had no idea she was in the picture...... does she think that he talks to me thinks about me, does she look at my Facebook for Pinterest account

and what are his thoughts and feelings or emotions about me..... will he try to contact me

I will be back with yours!

Hey cherful, sorry about the late reply. Wanted to clear my head a little bit before I do yours, as I didn't want to get your reading mixed with coolingembers'

Okay, so as to why else your ex married his wife... First and foremost, did he really say it was out of convenience's sake? I just don't get that from the base card... It's 5 of hearts, which to me speaks of a restless sense of happiness, of ungrounded happiness, and actually -- sorry if this is harsh -- female sexuality and sensuality overload. Like, he didn't know you could reach this type of satisfaction and be so into someone. Was it a quick dating-engagement-marriage? Feels like it. Anyway, I don't particularly like the spread I got for his reasons: 4C, 4S and 2S. Basically, what this says is that he wanted stability in his life, not only just financial, but social as well. He wanted to lay the foundations for something he hopes will grow into recognition from his peers, family, co-workers and community. Seems like he also wanted to escape from a difficult situation. He felt pressured and cooped up, and this marriage seemed like the best solution to escape whatever he was running from. From the last card, I'd say he wanted to just put a definite end to an older relationship, something that was dragging for months and even years. I don't feel this speaks about his wife, but actually of someone else. He wanted to put an end to this other person's hopes of being with him. Sorry, but all along I'm getting this other person is you, and his way of handling you is very cavalier to me... I'm so sorry, if this ends up making sense to you, because that's a disrespect not only to you as a woman, but as a human being as well.

As whether he's happy with her... Yes, he is. He seems very much in control of his emotions and he's using his head more than his heart here, but he's got financial stability and all the momentaneous happiness he can get. The cards for this one was KS, 4D and 5H.

A resounding yes on whether this will be a forever marriage. I'm suffling this deck like nobody's business, but this is the third time (for the third question) that I pull the 5H, so this is telling me there's a love foundation in this relationship. Also got the marriage card, the AH, and the QD, which makes me think his wife will be the force behind this marriage, but also that this will be a love that dwindles into convivial contentment in the end. They'll stay together for appearance's sake but also because it's more beneficial for them, financially speaking.

As to whether she thinks he still keeps in touch with you, yes. JD, 6C and 10H. Let me be honest with you here... She feels very confident to me, very assured in her position as his wife. She's living suspending in her own fantasy that this is the perfect marriage and that there is nothing wrong with him contacting you. She thinks that it's just harmless talk and she trusts him to not deceive her. She's too happy right now and she doesn't seem to see you as a threat to her marriage. Sorry.

Lastly, as to what he feels for you... Base is 9H and spread is QS, 9S and JC. Why does he see as a gossip and meddlesome? He feels disappointed by you and again I'm seeing that he felt you were pressuring him into doing what he didn't want. The only heart I got for this question was the base, which I think speaks of him finding you the perfect woman, like a wish come true to him, but for whatever reason -- I don't wanna be rude, but I'm getting he felt you were pushy --, he decided to end things and convey a message to you by marrying someone else. Did you lash out? He feels you shouldn't have and that you actually almost spoilt things for him. He might try to be a friend to you, because it does feel like he had feelings for you, but right now, that's what I'm getting for his feelings...

I'm unsure whether he'll contact you. I do a simple yes/no by the color of the card: red for yes, black for no. But I got a specific card that means exchanges between two people: 2C, so he might get in touch with you, but I don't think it's to reconnect romantically with you. Feels like wanting to know how you're doing, if you're okay, if you need help/anything, etc. I think he's going back and forth on the decision to contact you, and I'm leaning towards a no, but he might change his mind. It's hard to explain... he seems wilfull on this and like he'll do what he wants when he wants it. Very childish and immature.

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posted December 25, 2013 09:21 PM            

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
Well, I guess that if we look coldly at my options, I'm not unemployed. I'm a lawyer in my country, so I do have a couple of civil actions that will give me money once they're judged and the defendants have paid my so-called clients. My clients are family members, which is why I don't really count them as clients or even this as a job. It's a very freelance thing, like I'll do a legal paper for one or two days, file it and wait months for the judge to make a pronunciation. I want something that will pay me monthly, instead of just when all is said and done. I don't mean to sound snobbish, but there's just no way I'm working in a coffee shop. There's nothing really creative about the law, so this might have something to do with my on and off (mostly off) hobby of writing. Even if it's not a coffee shop, I just don't have the education needed to be in the creative sector of a company.

Actually, now that I think about it, what you described sounds like my last job, which was an internship in the Public Defenders' Office. I had a very good relationship with everyone all around, my bosses liked my work but I wasn't in love with the work. I liked it, but it was subordinated stuff, which I don't usually like to do. It was a laid-back thing as well, but I also ended up doing whatever my bosses needed me to do (thankfully, they liked me too much to make me do stupid things like wait in a line to file a legal document or do mindless stuff like that). Funny also, because we had a problem with the people that supplied coffee for the Office, so everyday I'd go out to get some for me and everyone else.

Anyway, if it's a new job, it's actually good to know I'll get enough money to pay for the things that I want. Depending on my parents for money is a drag to me and very shameful.

I don't mind waiting months for things to develop in my love life... I'm actually GLAD there's going to be SOMETHING going on in my love life for once, lol. Can you tell me anything else on this guy? Age, looks, personality, whatever? Also, have I met him already or am I going to still meet him?

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posted December 25, 2013 09:33 PM            

either he's younger than you or finality is very youthful. extremely laid back like I don't sense that he's a lawyer. he keeps is life pretty busy he's always got some plans going on. hes alevel headed, grounded, overall very nice man. Likes to travel a lot. he has a tanner complexion.

V I actually see you guys reconnecting and being friends but for whatever reason I'm getting that this is very strange.... is he not in the same place where you're at?
it seems like he's got some adventures he's going on, and his mind is occupied not necessarily thinking about his past.

it seems like when you guys run into each other it's going to become a god like its an old friend running into each other

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
Oh, and if you have more questions, let me know...

I'd love for you to read on a particular guy, my relationship with him and if you see us ever reconnecting... His initial is V, so if there's anything you can get out of this, I'd love to hear it. Past, present, future, all is good.

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posted December 25, 2013 09:54 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
yes he really did say convenience sake and for the first 6 months after his marriage he kept contacting me every week and wanted to see me and I kept saying no.... he sent me text messages like he's thinking of me and blah blah blah

then he had a break down or so he said and I helped him through it.... that's when he said it was out of convenience, he was having financial problems with ex wife was taking him to court and getting more money off him, he thought he had no control over his life, he got arrested for DUI...... so i talked him down, sent wonderful emails about how he can overcome what's going on

yes when I found out that he got married I did yell at him because he got married and he had been trying to get back together with me. two months prior to the weddInc...... I had agreed to stay friends with him. but after I felt like I was being used and after my dad died he kept pressuring to see me and I finally said yes. he stood me up I felt like I can't take this anymore and that's when I told his wife about when I was a picture and his behavior and all the messages hes een sending me

they're all old friend from back in the day yes it was supposedly a very fast dating engagement and marriage situation. and yes in marrying her made him look better and it gave him a lot of friends.... and his family was extremely happy he got the stability that you always wanted and any chapter in his life.

that other girl though its not me its his ex wife... they weren't even divorced for 2 years before he got married to this girl..... and a lot of difficulties with her they have a son together and she basically take him to the cleaners

I was never pushy with him, he did what he wanted when he wanted... I never asked for anything...... and I should have boundaries down but I didn't . I'm the one that walked away from him when he wanted to get back together I said no. now looking back I can see the ahole things he did that was trying to give me to probably walk away.... but when I did he asked me back.

they just had a baby so I know they're happy at this moment and she's very happy.

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So, I had to ask whether your ex is sexually attracted to his new wife and weirdly enough I got a no for it. The cards were 7D, 10S and QC, which, yeah, would make me say this marriage, to him, was an investment, that it was a way out to end a difficult situation and get him out of a funk, and that she's actually more of a friend to him than anything else. Did they study or work together? That would also explain the QC here...

Yeah, I can see how his ex wife could be the pushy one and the reason why he got into this new marriage. I'm still practicing, so if there's a third person, unacounted for, I'm bound to mix the third party with my querent or the one I'm reading on. Sorry for that.

Like I said at the end of my reading, he seems very childish and immature. Also, very selfish to ask you to help him deal with his sh*t while he's off leading the "perfect life". Tbh, I think he knows how to play your compassionate side and was doing everything in his power to keep you under his spell. I think he's the type of guy that just wants wants wants without a single thought spared to other people's feelings... He seems very a-hole-y to me, tbh.

Also, could he be painting a very poor, pitiful picture of himself to you? I don't get or feel any of these hardships you told me about, and I've got a feeling that he's a class 1 liar, very good at conning people into doing whatever he wants out of them.

The fact that they just had a baby would explain the mindless, restless happiness I saw in three of these readings... They both get a sense of triumph from having this baby together.

posted December 25, 2013 10:00 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
no its not coffee house I said it's like a coffee house because of the high level of energy... again I don't see you speaking with customers I see you being the runner doing things... the job that you were describing it sounds kind of like it.... maybe you will go to a startup firm where there's a lot of energy and you have many task at hand.... you will be an entry level position..... it feel like law clerk position even though I know you're already a lawyD

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posted December 25, 2013 10:00 PM            

he has a sociapath personality...... and this is coming from experts because I need help to deal with the situation.

II honestly thought they had to write that letter to her because he would always have me under his spell. and I'm glad I did so because I couldn't have that person in my life. yeah I'm almost there at he's almost gone for my mind I'm trying to date.

posted December 25, 2013 10:01 PM            

...... and you'll go to a startup I don't see you having a startup

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
No, actually, if I do start in any law firm, I'll probably have to work as a researcher/planner/fall-back-gal before I can do anything as a lawyer. Start small, grow big later.

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posted December 25, 2013 10:11 PM            

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Originally posted by cherful24:
about the new guy coming into your life again you guys will be friends for a very long time. but no you don't know him.

either he's younger than you or finality is very youthful. extremely laid back like I don't sense that he's a lawyer. he keeps is life pretty busy he's always got some plans going on. hes alevel headed, grounded, overall very nice man. Likes to travel a lot. he has a tanner complexion.

V I actually see you guys reconnecting and being friends but for whatever reason I'm getting that this is very strange.... is he not in the same place where you're at?
it seems like he's got some adventures he's going on, and his mind is occupied not necessarily thinking about his past.

it seems like when you guys run into each other it's going to become a god like its an old friend running into each other

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I like this new guy already... I don't think I could date a lawyer, because usually we're so very boring, uptight and entitled, I'd like a guy who knows how to really live his life. I've always fell for younger men, so no surprise if he's younger, lol.

V is indeed not in the same place I'm at, LOL. He's in another state, as he moved away a year, almost two years ago. V is not very much of a thinker or a planner, he's more of a doer, so I can totally see him not thinking about the past. We never reached romantic understanding -- bad timing on both of our parts -- but we did feel a deep connection with one another, so if we ever run into each other, the feeling of seeing an old friend will be very present.

posted December 25, 2013 10:24 PM            

so I don't know if it was because you too could never connect the timing wasn't good but he just realized he needed to close the book on it.

I don't have anything coming from him now. but I really feel like you guys will run into each other and when he does he will just be overwhelmed with happiness.... like it's great to see you..... he wondered what you're up to how you might have changed , what you look like, etc.