posted July 21, 2012 09:23 PM            

As long as one is respectful, does not cause harm by name calling , criticizing or demeaning another for their beliefs or actions , one can still be Faithful and assertive.

posted July 23, 2012 01:13 PM            

In stopping and looking deeply at your reaction of hurt or anger in this situation, the origin of your reaction, and where continuing to react that way will lead you in the future, light can be shed on the real problem. It would be completely natural and healthy to go to these people and express how the situation makes you feel, but only after the practitioner sees the situation clearly, realizes that they only comprehend half of the story and the person acts that way because they are suffering from attachment too, and understands that though the person may be acting a way in which they disapprove, their responsibility is not to make the person stop, but to understand their reaction to this person's actions.

posted July 25, 2012 05:24 PM            

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In stopping and looking deeply at your reaction of hurt or anger in this situation, the origin of your reaction, and where continuing to react that way will lead you in the future, light can be shed on the real problem. It would be completely natural and healthy to go to these people and express how the situation makes you feel, but only after the practitioner sees the situation clearly, realizes that they only comprehend half of the story and the person acts that way because they are suffering from attachment too, and understands that though the person may be acting a way in which they disapprove, their responsibility is not to make the person stop, but to understand their reaction to this person's actions.

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posted July 25, 2012 05:35 PM            

But, xiiro, you did have a lot of things to say that really struck me, so I want to give it time and really think more on it.

posted August 14, 2012 06:59 AM            

What I have found is people want to be listened to and deep down know when whatever it is that is troubling them is probably something they should not have be engaged in.

Granted that is not everyone, which is a different matter altogether.

This is a nearly universal thought in every faith or humanistic philosophy I've studied, it is also showing compassion to both listen and to offer sound advice on whatever it is the other person is dealing with if one is capable of doing so.

I suspect that one of the reasons why Christians have limited impact is that advice will usually be along the lines of "let go, let God".

posted August 15, 2012 04:16 AM            

The offer to talk stands. I don't feel strung along, you are welcome to take or leave the offer. =) I understand your reluctance and in many cases feel it is smart to be cautious with who one opens up to on the internet.

Just know if you need someone to talk to, toss ideas at, vent, or just help organize chaotic situations,..I exist.

=)

posted August 16, 2012 06:16 PM            

I used to try to help everyone but learned( from being burned) that it is not my assignment.
If i don't feel led to reach out to someone, I won't.
I will share my faith whenever asked, but I don't go throw it on someone, unbidden

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posted August 16, 2012 06:17 PM            

There are two approaches to that, one is to argue, which never works, the other is, as Francis of Asis said, evangelize and use words if you have to use them.

Sadly, one can see the trainwrecks coming in their lives from taking such an approach, however it is sometimes better to let the burned hand teach best.

posted August 17, 2012 03:14 AM            

Also find comfort in "if you loved me, you would be happy for me"

posted August 19, 2012 02:02 PM            

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posted August 19, 2012 02:24 PM            

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I don't mean to whine or complain, as I know that I'm overall a lucky person compared to some who are far worse off than me. Still, I can't talk about this anywhere else and I just need to vent.

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I don`t take it as whining but rather a valid concern for you

posted August 19, 2012 02:33 PM            

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Originally posted by juniperb:
I don`t take it as whining but rather a valid concern for you

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thanks; I need that

posted August 22, 2012 08:33 AM            

I had someone diss me the other day and I didn't care. It takes TIME and getting rejected a LOT. Being a Mod will teach you that it doesn't matter if you are liked. You have to like yourself.
Stick with being a Mod in your Forum and you will grow to where things like this will not be a huge deal.

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