posted April 20, 2010 05:26 PM         

Ami

posted April 20, 2010 05:44 PM         

Ami Ann~ YES, it seems that anymore, ALL he does is explode.
Looking back, our communication has never been stellar, but our love for each other always helped us find a way to get through to each other. I have never EVER felt for anyone what I feel for him, and it was love at first sight for us both. Time has marched on, and after being together for eight years (dated two, married six) the passion has died down, and it could be that now our lack of communication is becoming more focused in our relationship. I don't know, I just feel beaten down, because he doesn't seem to want to even try to work on these issues in our marriage. He creates problems (in his own mind) out of literally nothing. What should be a nice, happy day together turns into a fiasco because everything upsets him.

posted April 20, 2010 06:56 PM         

The Saturn/Uranus opposition seems to be doing something to him as well, pulling him this way and that internally. It's moving through his 2nd and 8th houses, making him feel nutso at times, like he can't contain himself. He needs a change in his life, a major one, that's why he's being so difficult.
He has a Moon/Uranus opposition , which is part of the T-square. That's a very tough aspect too (I know, I have it lol). When life gets hard, there's this sort of pressure which becomes built up and comes out in really bitchy ways, and there's a desire to start over in life and rebel from whatever is familiar (Uranus battling with the familiarity of the Moon). This is why he's being such a pain - he's creating distance so he can see clearly.
I don't know how much space you two give each other, but I would advise you to take a step back from him, and refrain from asking questions (or cut back) about how he's doing just because he seems like he would get very prickly and the Moon/Uranus stuff makes for excessive moodiness when life change is happening.

posted April 21, 2010 08:04 PM         

MVM~ I am very empathic, especially when it comes to the ones I love. I've learned over the years to compartmentalize the vibes I'm always picking up all around me, as a means of not absorbing EVERTHING. But with my DH, I FEEL everything he is feeling. I soak up whatever vibe he is giving off like a sponge. And it's mostly been negative for a good while now. I know before he gets home from work if he's had a bad day; because I'll start feeling that energy. That might sound hokey, but it's true. Very draining.
He works ALOT, and he says he thinks we need MORE time together, but I'm beginning to feel like he needs more time to HIMSELF. Away from work, away from family, just to recharge. It's as if he wants me around all the time to lash out at me.

"Methinks his career is also in for a major rethink - it feels like he's itching to change it. Can you confirm any of that?"

Wow. I certainly can confirm that. He feels trapped in his job, because it's good money & good insurance. A month ago, I had a brainstorm, and came up with the idea of us buying a very small house, which we could afford to buy outright, rather than get a mortgage on a larger home. This would allow him to cut back on his hours, keep our health insurance, and go to school. This is a big downsize for us, a VERY small fixer-upper, with tiny bedrooms, I'll no longer have an art studio, tiny bathrooms, you get the picture. The thought of not having to maintain a large house is really appealing to me. Our family thinks it's crazy, but I don't care. I wanted to do this to help him pursue his dreams, and to help our marriage. With the long hours he works, it's been up to me to handle the entire purchase, getting permits, getting stuff moved. He initially loved the idea. I thought, "there's the light at the end of this dark tunnel!", but it was short lived. When he is home, and wants to know what's going on with our move, he nitpicks every decision I've made, and complains about every little detail. I hope once we've made the transition to a simpler lifestyle, he may find some peace. I hope he does cool down soon, because I AM about to snap.

Ami Ann & Lalalinda~ Thank you for your positive energy guys!

posted April 21, 2010 08:33 PM         

hubby :
has been squaring ic between natal chiron and natal moon
t.neptune obviously present as well
( chiron square merc in natal )

myself has :
t.chiron - neptune opposing n.venus
n.chiron is opposite n.uranus
reverse t.pluto makes a trine to n.chiron and n.venus
( t.sat to n.sun-moon as well ) ..