posted January 06, 2011 05:00 PM            

Can you help me figure this guy out? My Scorpio crush was giving me mixed signals all the time. I avoided him for 2 weeks, because I was advised that's how I'd pique his interest.

So hook, line and sinker, he came over to me and asked me questions...about me. Hardly happens. All we do is stare, smile and talk about the weather, and not so often. He smiled at me and my heart stopped as he looked at me. I was putty again.

That was yesterday. Today, he completely avoided me again. I thought, after 8 months of yo-yo hot and cold tactics from him, and consistent interest from me...that things would get more intimate. At least, a full on conversation.

posted January 06, 2011 06:58 PM            

I usually just get a 'hello.'

Also, the staring into each other's eyes, that's what keeps me hoping. But a lot of people have told me that if he's not making any moves, he's not interested, especially after 8 months. That I'm just an ego boost to him. Because I can't hide my feelings, and show him that I'm interested. When I see him, I'm more confused than before.

posted January 07, 2011 09:23 AM            

I'm so stupid. I offered my broom, so he could sweep his car windows. He declined and kept his back turned to me.

posted January 07, 2011 11:39 AM            

And as far as bipolar, he's very hot and cold, friendly and mean. I've been my chatty, cheerful self, but sometimes his reaction to it makes me feel like I'm acting desperate, by trying to start a convo. I hate feeling like that.

posted January 08, 2011 06:06 PM            

My scorpio rarely talks to me. He knows how I feel because I told him, but he doesn't say much. He just always stares. I can feel when he watches me. I just accept it as his nature. It's kinda flattering to have someone so interested that they want to watch you (that's if it doesn't creep you out lol).

posted January 08, 2011 11:48 PM            

"We just want to know if you still like us."

Now that doesn't mean that anything will happen. You being interested and hopeful, kind and generous will not make them start a relationship with you. Truth of the matter is, if he really wanted to be with me, you, or whomever they've set their sights on, there would be no doubt of his interest, and pursuit.

"If you are confused, then he doesn't like you."

posted January 09, 2011 12:18 PM            

Do I come off as desperate when I'm chatty and blatant about wanting to talk to him? Is it a turn off when I'm obvious?

The last thing I want to seem is desperate.

posted January 10, 2011 09:08 AM            

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Originally posted by GypseeWind:
Oh God no, please don't pull a jealousy game on a Scorpio! That's not a happy thought.

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posted January 10, 2011 09:50 AM            

I don't understand him, his hot cold approach, but I feel something with him, like I've known him before, or something. Like instant comfort and ease. Until he's the one that looks uncomfortable.

My intuition says that he likes me, really really likes me. But he's hesitant.

posted January 10, 2011 10:25 AM            

I honestly understand where you are coming from, being so sure that there is something there, that the other person really really likes you etc. etc. I used to be in a similar situation and seriously I would have bet an arm and a leg that the feelings are mutual. I know you won't really believe anyone who is telling you otherwise (and somehow part of me is still not completely convinced) but from very painful personal experience and that of friends, I can only confirm and underline what Nine and JFK are saying. Projection can go a loooooonnnnnng way to see/read s.th. into a persons gaze, demeanor etc. But honestly, it doesnt have to mean much, it may just be reflection of your own strong feelings. Even if a man is hesitant and extremely shy, do you really think he would be that shy? The example you are giving of him coming outside and only giving you a sideway glance/good morning.... Any cripplingly shy or hesitant man would at least manage to exchange a few words in such a situation, if he's interested, I'm now convinced. I think what appears as hot and cold, might just mean that one day he may have been in a good mood, hence he was being more attentive, talking with his neighbour, then again he was having a bad day. Don't get me wrong, I don't believe in all those 'He's just not into you' theories and if a guy isn't pursuing you like a wild animal, he cant be interested. But what I do believe is that a guy who is shy/hesitant but has a basic interest will use opportunities that are presented to him to get to know you. If he doesn't even do that, it's highly likely that he may consider you a great friend, nice person, but you may not (yet) be on his romantic radar or he may just be occupied with someone else. And that's completely astrology unrelated advice, although I do have a number of scorpios (and strong scorpio planet. placements) in my family and circle of friends, and above mentioned holds true for the men as well.