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Topic: Pisces Man's Words - He drives me Crazy
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StelliumH6
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posted June 01, 2012 11:14 PM
  
We have been in a relationship for 3 years. We did not have enough time to spend together one day this week so he said, Do you want to at least see me? We both made the effort to meet up for a little while and a quick hug. That made us both want more, but we had busy schedules, things to do, so we left with a - See you later. I text him soon after and said, "Do you think that is all it is .. physical attraction?" He responded, "Fair question. I'm not sure."
What the heck does that mean?IP: Logged |
IndigoDirae
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posted June 01, 2012 11:58 PM
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Originally posted by StelliumH6:
We have been in a relationship for 3 years. We did not have enough time to spend together one day this week so he said, Do you want to at least see me? We both made the effort to meet up for a little while and a quick hug. That made us both want more, but we had busy schedules, things to do, so we left with a - See you later. I text him soon after and said, "Do you think that is all it is .. physical attraction?" He responded, "Fair question. I'm not sure."
What the heck does that mean?
Sorry. I'm gonna need a LOT more than Sun here. I was with a Piscean for 4.5 years. You said your relationship has lasted for 3, but today, you suddenly ask if a 3-year relationship is nothing but physical attraction? You're not the only one confused. I can't quite follow what you're saying here, though, I'd genuinely like to help. -A. IP: Logged |
seaofjoy
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posted June 02, 2012 04:56 AM
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Originally posted by StelliumH6:
We both made the effort to meet up for a little while and a quick hug.
is that a relationship? ... tbh, i'd be confused too! must be more than physical, because you've kept in touch, you can have relationships that are satisfying emotionally & intellectually but as seperate packages & not have it feel like and overall satisfying relatuionship. the fact that you're questioning it sounds like u're unsure if it meets ur needs. his response is rather like an agreeable pisces. sounds like he is okay, but unless he has other air planets in him - generally pisces are a bit more clingy. IP: Logged |
mir
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posted June 02, 2012 07:03 AM
Well he's a Pisces AND a man (not a woman nor personal sign) so what I mean is that his respons prob. carries that universal vibe related to the question; '*IS* it the physical attraction that makes a love-connection/commitment work on the long run?' (philosophical approach)
Wouldn't our honest answer be: "yes, that's *it*" ?
(physical attraction ofcourse is more than only sex, it's also hugging, touching etc. ~ without it we have the platonic connection)IP: Logged |
sexyaqua30
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posted June 02, 2012 07:43 AM
After 3 years you have to ask that?IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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posted June 02, 2012 08:01 AM
Just for the record I hug, kiss, and touch (in appropriate and non erotic ways) those I'm close to in platonic relationships (unless they obviously don't feel comfortable with that). Heck, when I went to the Russian Orthodox Pascha I had complete strangers (male & female) hugging and kissing my cheeks which was strange to me but I adapted. Anyway, I didn't want anyone to suddenly wonder if they were weird or alone for doing the same (or assuming that such affection only comes from lust).  IP: Logged |
mir
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posted June 02, 2012 08:32 AM
Yea lol, so for the record; I wasn't talking about hugging trees and all that stuff  IP: Logged |
ariesdragon
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posted June 02, 2012 12:55 PM
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Originally posted by StelliumH6:
We have been in a relationship for 3 years. We did not have enough time to spend together one day this week so he said, Do you want to at least see me? We both made the effort to meet up for a little while and a quick hug. That made us both want more, but we had busy schedules, things to do, so we left with a - See you later. I text him soon after and said, "Do you think that is all it is .. physical attraction?" He responded, "Fair question. I'm not sure."
What the heck does that mean?
It means he's not sure if it's more than physical attraction I find Pisces very sexual anyway lol
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StelliumH6
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posted June 02, 2012 02:15 PM
That is exactly what he meant - He is not sure our relationship is more than physical passion. However, this is why he drives me nuts .. It took him a long time to tell me the words, I love you. He shows his feelings through what he does for me/his actions. I have had this personal conflict within me about this for the last several years. I need to "hear" his affection. I think I have gotten past it, then it comes up and bothers me. I am mad at myself! Awww!
The Pisces people I know have an unspoken way of loving the other person. But this verbal vagueness does not fill my needs.IP: Logged |
ariesdragon
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posted June 02, 2012 02:19 PM
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Originally posted by StelliumH6:
That is exactly what he meant - He is not sure our relationship is more than physical passion. However, this is why he drives me nuts .. It took him a long time to tell me the words, I love you. He shows his feelings through what he does for me/his actions. I have had this personal conflict within me about this for the last several years. I need to "hear" his affection. I think I have gotten past it, then it comes up and bothers me. I am mad at myself! Awww!
The Pisces people I know have an unspoken way of loving the other person. But this verbal vagueness does not fill my needs.
girl tell him you need some oral foreplay! That'll work trust me  IP: Logged |
StelliumH6
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posted June 02, 2012 02:48 PM
Oral foreplay! I love it! <3IP: Logged |
ariesdragon
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posted June 02, 2012 02:50 PM
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Originally posted by StelliumH6:
Oral foreplay! I love it! <3
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Thefish
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posted June 04, 2012 03:56 PM
I'm guilty of this although my cap mars in the 12th belies my wistfulness. No astrology can tell you what you feel you need/want. By the fact that you are inquiring about what he is saying suggests that you want more but you're afraid to "have that discussion" for fear of losing the nebulous yet somewhat satisiying relationship you have. The problem is that you need definition and by the looks of things he's not going to define anything so it's up to you to press the issue. Most people don't work out not becuase they're wrong for each other or incompatible, but becuase one or both parties fails to communicate and subsequently work on issues that are present. IP: Logged |
Desiring Shadows
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posted June 04, 2012 04:37 PM
It means you should find someone who knows he likes you for you and not just your booooody. JK
Idk what it means. Could mean anything really.."That is exactly what he meant - He is not sure our relationship is more than physical passion. However, this is why he drives me nuts .. It took him a long time to tell me the words, I love you. He shows his feelings through what he does for me/his actions." This is a guy who verily is reluctant to express feelings. IME, those men are either not very interested/afraid of rejection/disoriented way of expressing amorous affilations. If you're feelings are pretty blatant, yet you still remain unsure, then I would just let the relationship go. Think about it, its been 3 years time, how long is a lover going to be cautious? Or why stick around if you don't feel like your needs are being met?
If he expresses only actions of love, wouldn't you be aware of how he feels about you by then?
Why ask. If its there, you would know it. Intuition, baby. Why ponder on?
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violet7887
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posted June 04, 2012 11:42 PM
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Lioness
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posted June 05, 2012 12:22 AM
Stellium, what made you ask this question?
Is It you thats having doubts??
When people ask these types of questions, it's usually because thats the way they are feeling...Is this something thats in the back of your head?? IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted June 05, 2012 02:51 AM
I have a feeling he is just being agreeable... and not taking a stance intentionally - so that it doesn't lead to anything.If you had said... "I think we are so emotionally close and in sync - Do you think we were soul mates in a past life?" Maybe he would've still said.. "Fair question. I'm not sure."
It is a really standardised - kind of 'dismissive' reply... almost like saying "I don't care.. I don't really know what this is or where it is going and I'd rather slip my way out of a discussion"... which is very Piscean-male-ish.
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Odette
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posted June 05, 2012 02:54 AM
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you need definition and by the looks of things he's not going to define anything
True. And it is also possible that he will never define anything - no matter what you do to him..
In Pisces interpretations you will sometimes find the word "slippery"... I think it applies here. IP: Logged |
StelliumH6
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posted June 05, 2012 08:19 PM
Thank you all for your wonderful input!! So much of what everyone said fits perfectly and rings a bell.Thefish - Hi. What are you guilty of that relates to my story?
Trust me, he has opened up and shared so much with me compared to the onset. Desiring Shadows - He clearly tells me he is 100% interested. He knows he is not going to be rejected by me. But he is reluctant to express his feelings.
I do not think I am wired in the way others use their intuition. I over-analyze! (Stellium in the 6th, H6 related to Virgo/Mercury) violet - That is the whole thing, I do not want to force the truth out. He has shut down before. I like what you suggested about starting the conversation with . . . so we can understand each other better. Lioness - We are so good together!! I fear losing him, then I become insecure and second guess how he feels about me. I just wish he would say it more. Odette - If I could kiss you through the computer screen, I would.
I feel this is what he does: He standardizes his responses in a dismissive way. Not anything rude, just that he would rather slip out of this discussion.
He has said that he answers people's questions like a politician.
Are you a Pisces Sun/Venus (male)? IP: Logged |
StelliumH6
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posted June 05, 2012 08:46 PM
Also from Odette - He does not take a stance intentionally, so that it does not lead to anything. YES, YES, YES!IP: Logged |
violet7887
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posted June 05, 2012 09:04 PM
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StelliumH6
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posted June 05, 2012 09:51 PM
violet - You are very sweet. I appreciate your time and words.IP: Logged |
Thefish
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posted June 06, 2012 10:59 AM
StelliumH6,I'm guilty of that very Piscean behavior of giving nebuluous answers to important questions. There can be a myriad of reasons why we do this. Basically giving such an answer speaks to 1) fear
2) indecision
3) apathy All three of which are used by both sexes to keep the other sex engaged until a point of where the hand is forced. Piscean men are wildly famous for not being able to make decisions. One of my best friends who is also a Pisces often gives his rationale as to why he doesn't get out of romantic situations that are difficult/complicated etc. is due to the fact that he hates making decisions. The bigger issue is that you seem to be hinging on his feelings on the matter in lieu of saying is this acceptable for me, or are my needs being met. IP: Logged |
Desiring Shadows
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posted June 06, 2012 12:00 PM
If thats the case, than I'm all for Odettes response! IP: Logged |
StelliumH6
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posted June 06, 2012 08:10 PM
Thefish - You are right. It is important that my need for his feelings to be told/spoken/articulated etc. about me is favored and respected.
Thank you for explaining about you and other Piscean behavior. IP: Logged |
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