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Topic: Banging my head against the wall..
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Lioness Knowflake Posts: 2949 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 04, 2011 07:29 PM
Im really irritated and annoyed.. I need to get it out... Hope no one minds... Me and Pisces got into a huge argument like 2 months ago... We have been speaking at all. When we see each other we avoid all eye contact and make extra efforts to avoid each other... Me especially... When I see him turn and walk into another direction... I see him more now that I did before... We always seem to be walking towards each other in the walkways.. When I see him coming my way, I make a quick turn and take a short cut away from him, never looking at him.. I haven't "seen" him in months.. He keeps walking straight towards me, but I move into another direction.. so we dont really pass near each other. At all times I am more than 20 feet away from him.. Keeping my distance as much as possible... Ive made special arrangements so I dont even have to go into his office any more.. Today I was walking to my office, and he's standing talking to someone just outside of the walkway.. He could have easily turned his back as I walked by.. He was standing right in a spot, where I had no choice but to walk right past him, there was no turn for me to take.. So I keep walking, He sees me, and he takes a few steps backwards into the walkway... He then turns towards my direction as I got closer (he was still talking to someone) When I get close he stares me DEAD in my eyes for like 4 seconds.. I look at him back.... He was "telling me with his eyes" its cool now.. or I want to tell you something... He said hi with a mellow but firm voice.. Now if the other person wasnt there I wouldnt have said anything back, I would have just kept walking.. But well I have to play it off in front of people.. I said HEllloooooo.. in a happy go lucky voice (that only a leo can do.. lol) I kept walking and never looked back... SO WTF! he should have just turned his back and ignored the fact I was near... Why even say Hi..... everything isnt cool with me.. I havent let go of the anger...
Grrrr.. this just annoyed me.. Am I nuts?? lol He's just being a smart azz... IP: Logged |
Jounia Knowflake Posts: 250 From: United Kingdom Registered: May 2011
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posted August 04, 2011 07:48 PM
lol I love this kinda **** I don't think he was trying to be cocky or anything, I think he can't take it anymore or something I think it took guts for him to make the 1st move........ But I kinda of sense from what you've written that this turn of events has really intrigued you - I think you're glad it's happened...... Only time will tell girl! See what happens tomorrow. Try to 'see' him though..but very subtley And let us know!! IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 2949 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 04, 2011 07:53 PM
Well It bothers me.. I dont want to go back like this with him... (its been a mess)He cant take back what he said to me, so I have a lot of anger with him Im not able to let it go, at least not yet... I want to keep my distance.. I will continue to avoid him and not speak to him, unless absolutely necessary.. I guess this is where the Leo can hurt the Pisces feelings... I have nothing to say to him.. I deleted his phone number... IP: Logged |
Jounia Knowflake Posts: 250 From: United Kingdom Registered: May 2011
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posted August 04, 2011 08:05 PM
He obviously really hurt you too though....because you mean business!IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 2949 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 04, 2011 08:42 PM
quote: Originally posted by Jounia: He obviously really hurt you too though....because you mean business!
Yeap he said the wrong thing to me.. IF you havent noticed Leo's can be a tinny weenie bit stubborn.... LOL IT annoys me that after all this time, NOW he wants to say Hi.... come on.. give me a break.. its to late.. IP: Logged |
Jounia Knowflake Posts: 250 From: United Kingdom Registered: May 2011
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posted August 04, 2011 08:56 PM
I'm sorry to hear that. What sign is your moon in?IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 2949 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 04, 2011 08:58 PM
quote: Originally posted by Jounia: I'm sorry to hear that. What sign is your moon in?
Everything is Leo... except Venus which is cancer... and a Pisces Asc. IP: Logged |
racole12 Knowflake Posts: 989 From: the world is my home! Registered: Feb 2010
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posted August 05, 2011 12:31 AM
Lioness...I told my pisces to forget that I even exist, to delete my number, address, fb, email... etc etc. And he just got quiet on me. (what led to this... is that he invited me to his place for a week but he was in a "mood" (he didn't tell me until I actually got there) which he asked me to leave early, so, I ended up forgetting my jump drive at his place. Well, 2 days later he was like, I found your jump drive and I'll put it in the mail tomorrow! I was like, wow, maybe he is trying to change... (Let me tell you how important the jump drive is to me... it has my whole portfolio on it!) Well, a week went by... I still didn't have it. I call him, and he was like, "I forgot"... Well, now it's 3 weeks later and I was like, "Pisces! I need my jump drive! NOW!! My portfolio is due on Monday!!" So, he was like, "I'll put it in the mail so you'll have it by Thursday." So... guess what? Thursday comes... guess where my jump drive is...? Exactly... he forgot again!! So, I got all ****** off and went off on him. Told him to forget about it... and told him what I told you at the beginning of this post- to forget about me! Guess what he did... He drove 6 hours and taped it to my front door and drove home. He texted me after he got home saying... "I know you hate me, that's why I didn't call while I drove to your house, but your jump drive is taped on your door." This was monday... I haven't say anything to him... I don't know what to do. I'm just so tired of him forgetting everything (including forgetting about me). It only seems like I have to do something drastic for him to remember/change... I hate to see a 14 yr thing end... but I don't know what else to do. Maybe, I need to start a "So, you are dating/marrying a Pisces?" support class... IP: Logged |
racole12 Knowflake Posts: 989 From: the world is my home! Registered: Feb 2010
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posted August 05, 2011 12:34 AM
I have Gemini ASC, Saggie Stellium in the 6th house (Merc, Sun, Neptune, Mars)... with Venus in 5th house/Scorpio. I guess I keep attracting Pisces b/c of my Sun conj Neptune, and MC in Pisces... sigh. It's never going to end!! Soon, I'm not going to have any more brain cells left from banging my head against the wall... IP: Logged |
Betty Boop Knowflake Posts: 1537 From: Betty Boop Land Registered: Sep 2010
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posted August 05, 2011 12:49 AM
I stopped talking to my ex/Pisces for a long while even though we were around each other daily. I didn't feel awkward about it as I have Pisces Mercury and I can be quiet for long periods of time anyway (and so can he).But he took it the wrong way... God only knows the crap that goes on in his mind and the spin he likes to put on things - which is so often unrealistic & negative. He thought I was being mean to him... since obviously everything is always 'all about him'. We weren't well matched on many levels.... and he often did not *get* me at all. I hate to have to explain myself to someone... BUT - Actually, this psychological immaturity or 'lack of knowledge' is not generally a Pisces thing. I am blaming it on his Aries Merc and possibly other things in natal/synastry. Usually they are more perceptive. Maybe your Pisces wants the opportunity to be friends again. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop Knowflake Posts: 1537 From: Betty Boop Land Registered: Sep 2010
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posted August 05, 2011 12:53 AM
Lioness -- are your Moon/Mercury in aspect? (in natal!)IP: Logged |
crabclaws Newflake Posts: 23 From: Los Angeles, CA Registered: Jun 2011
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posted August 05, 2011 01:09 AM
pieces can be real ball busters sometimes. I didn't know leo's are stubborn. They can't take no for a answer. venus in cancer IP: Logged |
Jounia Knowflake Posts: 250 From: United Kingdom Registered: May 2011
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posted August 05, 2011 04:15 PM
quote: Originally posted by racole12: I hate to see a 14 yr thing end... but I don't know what else to do. Maybe, I need to start a "So, you are dating/marrying a Pisces?" support class...
Do it!! I'll join IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 2949 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 05, 2011 05:30 PM
quote: Originally posted by Betty Boop: Lioness -- are your Moon/Mercury in aspect? (in natal!)
YES they are Conjunct by mintues. Both at 14 Leo.. Sun at 16 Leo IP: Logged |
nordicsoul Knowflake Posts: 388 From: Registered: Oct 2010
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posted August 05, 2011 07:50 PM
Lioness,I simpatize with your anger. I guess piscis are just difficult to figure out. they are so moody and change mind every 4 seconds. i believe that the quaities that make them to be liked (like out of touch with earth, romantic, sensitive). i have a thing for moon in piscis and i have venus in cancer as well. i dont know if i would give him a chance. i think you have tried several times before, but it seems that a part of you still need him. some unfinished business going on. just follow your gut feeling. whatever happens is what your sould needs best, IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 2949 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 05, 2011 08:01 PM
@ racole Im sorry he did that... the jerk! lol @betty We have the awkward feelings, but I dont care. Its going to stay like that.. Im not budging. @crabclaw YOu didnt know Leo's are stubborn??? boy are you in for a surprise.. I can take a no, no biggie.. the ego says its not worth it anyways... lol IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 3110 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 05, 2011 08:52 PM
What are the rest of his placements?IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 2949 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 05, 2011 09:19 PM
quote: Originally posted by nordicsoul: Lioness,I simpatize with your anger. I guess piscis are just difficult to figure out. they are so moody and change mind every 4 seconds. i believe that the quaities that make them to be liked (like out of touch with earth, romantic, sensitive). i have a thing for moon in piscis and i have venus in cancer as well. i dont know if i would give him a chance. i think you have tried several times before, but it seems that a part of you still need him. some unfinished business going on. just follow your gut feeling. whatever happens is what your sould needs best,
His flakiness or not being able to make up his mind doesn't bother me.. (maybe its my pisces asc) even the disappearing dont bother me (well in the beginning) but I always knew he would be back, so I wasnt worried... I would disappear on him also... He really really just pushed my buttons to another level.. HE said the wrong things to me out of anger (yeah I know it was anger talking) But that doesnt change it.. He still said it... I feel really betrayed by his words.. We have had disagreements before, but we always maintained this great level of respect and maturity... We NEVER ever cussed at each other or called another a name,even when upset.. We discussed what the problem was, and settled it... Well we had a 4 hr argument... The crap hit the fan... lol.... We were both highly upset, but he lost it and went into the name calling, and said some mean things.... He didnt like the fact I was telling him, something was bothering me.. So then I got defensive and said things back.. We crossed the line with each other, on what was "our" level of respect.. We havent spoken since.. IF anyone else would have called me those names, I would have laughed and chalked it off... but thats just NOT what we did... I have very hard feelings towards it.. He cant take it back, and well neither can I.. I just cant believe we went to that level... @teasel sun/pisces moon/scorpio ven/cap mars/aqua Im done.. Im not going to let it go... No more communication.. nothing.. I deleted his number... I wont give in and well he wont either... but thats mars opps mars... lol IP: Logged |
StelliumH6 Knowflake Posts: 245 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted August 05, 2011 09:27 PM
racole12: My stellium in House 6 is Sagittarius too. I have Gemini ASC and MC Pisces. Plus I would sign-up for your class!Funny. Whenever a Pisces male thread appears I see the same ladies popping in. These guys are somethin' else! IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 2949 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 05, 2011 09:32 PM
Wait maybe this H6 is something.. My Leo stellium is in H6.. Its always the same women, talking about the same pisces man, that keeps popping back up... lol I have to see mine all the time, so it keeps coming back around to bit me in the azz.. I cant get away from it! I will do my darnest to avoid it though! I cant even speak to him... more or less look at him... Yesterday was the first time I "saw" him.... Even though I see him... make sense?? IP: Logged |
noblefish11 Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Indiana, United States Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 05, 2011 09:51 PM
Ok, as a Pisces guy, I feel like I should add my two cents. Not to generalize, but Pisces are very sensitive, and we tend to "get lost in things." I bet this guy has been obsessing about the fight that you had, and it's probably upset him. The fact that his moon is in scorpio would suggest to me that he can hold a grudge longer than the typical pisces, and it may be hard for him to think about rectifying the situation. But, the sun and moon placement make me think that he is sincerely trying to communicate and ammend the situation. Pisces can be awkward, and perhaps speaking with that other person and seeing you walk by forced him to just react without thinking. Or, maybe since his venus is in capricorn, and capricorn is practical, he realizes that the mature thing to do is move on. I'm obviously not an expert on this situation, but my gut tells me he's trying to move on from what happened. As to how that turns out, I wish you luck! IP: Logged |
StelliumH6 Knowflake Posts: 245 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted August 05, 2011 10:11 PM
It makes perfect sense to me! You "see" him everywhere.Maybe you are not suppose to get away from it. I have quite a bit of Fire in my natal chart. Not Leo like you. I had to learn that I did not need to control this relationship. He has taught me, it is what it is. I was never vulnerable or wanted to do the right things for anyone like I do for him. I have become softer (in a good way) and I am selfless with him. I thought I was number one in my other partnerships. I always had to know everything. Tell me, tell me. He showed me that he cares by his actions. After almost 3 years I do trust his feelings for me. See how long it took?! IP: Logged |
Lioness Knowflake Posts: 2949 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 05, 2011 10:14 PM
quote: Originally posted by noblefish11: Ok, as a Pisces guy, I feel like I should add my two cents. Not to generalize, but Pisces are very sensitive, and we tend to "get lost in things." I bet this guy has been obsessing about the fight that you had, and it's probably upset him. The fact that his moon is in scorpio would suggest to me that he can hold a grudge longer than the typical pisces, and it may be hard for him to think about rectifying the situation. But, the sun and moon placement make me think that he is sincerely trying to communicate and ammend the situation. Pisces can be awkward, and perhaps speaking with that other person and seeing you walk by forced him to just react without thinking. Or, maybe since his venus is in capricorn, and capricorn is practical, he realizes that the mature thing to do is move on. I'm obviously not an expert on this situation, but my gut tells me he's trying to move on from what happened. As to how that turns out, I wish you luck!
Well your pretty much right... For what ever reason, I can feel him and I pick up on him, like no one else ever before... When he starred at me, and said Hi.. (the impression I got) was him saying I havent forgotten BUT its cool now, and I dont want to go around ignoring each other and having these awkward moments. So Lets say Hi when we see each other.. baby steps.. BUT!!! ITs still not cool with me... He damaged the Leo ego and pride.. He hit my sun,moon,merc and mars... I feel as if he stabbed me in the back.. once someone damages the leo pride, its nearly impossible to come back from that. I will not let that go. I dont want anything to do with him, and if that hurts his feelings... then so be it. Him trying to tell me its "cool now" is BS! does he really think its that easy?? He's saying I will talk to you now??? I dont think so..
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Lioness Knowflake Posts: 2949 From: Registered: Mar 2010
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posted August 05, 2011 10:17 PM
quote: Originally posted by StelliumH6: It makes perfect sense to me! You "see" him everywhere.Maybe you are not suppose to get away from it. I have quite a bit of Fire in my natal chart. Not Leo like you. I had to learn that I did not need to control this relationship. He has taught me, it is what it is. I was never vulnerable or wanted to do the right things for anyone like I do for him. I have become softer (in a good way) and I am selfless with him. I thought I was number one in my other partnerships. I always had to know everything. Tell me, tell me. He showed me that he cares by his actions. After almost 3 years I do trust his feelings for me. See how long it took?!
Im glad things are working out!... Thats great... The thing about me and Pisces was our friendship...I valued it... and I got slapped for it.
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noblefish11 Knowflake Posts: 56 From: Indiana, United States Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 05, 2011 10:21 PM
Lioness,With a lot of Leo in your chart, and his Scorpio Moon, I can understand your frustration. He may be ready to fix things, but it sounds like he's hurt you too badly. Distancing yourself would be best for now, and maybe some day you'll be able to talk to him again. If he confronts you, you should be honest and just tell him that he hurt you and that you need space. It will probably upset him, but I can only see the situation getting worse if he's trying to fix things and you are still angry with him. Keep us posted! IP: Logged |