posted August 15, 2014 06:58 PM            

I have a problem with stalking the social networking pages (Facebook, Instagram, twitter, etc) of all of my ex's and their ex or current girlfriends. I know it's wrong and not acceptable, but it's like an obsessive thing. I do it now without even thinking about it. I want to stop, but all I can think about is the time I invested in these two guys and now their new girlfriends are with them. The guys weren't good guys at all and I know I deserve better, but I still can't stop.

What aspects would promote this type of behavior?
How can I stop?
It sounds easy to just stop, but not in my case.
Here are my placements in which I think might have a lot to do with it.

Ascendant in Taurus.
Sun in Scorpio
Mercury(r) in Scorpio
Venus in Scorpio
Jupiter in Scorpio
Pluto in Scorpio

Sun opposite Ascendant
Sun conjunct Pluto
Mercury conjunct Venus
Mercury conjunct Jupiter
Venus conjunct Jupiter
Venus trine Saturn
Mars conjunct Pluto
Mars opposite Ascendant
Mars square Saturn
Mars conjunct true node
Jupiter trine Saturn
Jupiter conjunct Vertex
Saturn square pluto
Saturn square Ascendant
Pluto opposite Ascendant
Pluto is the ruler of my 7th house
Mars is on the cusp of my 7th house.
My vertex is in my 5th house.
All of my Scorpio placements are in my 6th house.
My mars is in Sagittarius (1st degree) in my 7th house.

posted August 15, 2014 07:30 PM            

Does it feel like that at all ... A lack of that other?

posted August 15, 2014 07:36 PM            

I can't figure out what about their new girlfriend allows them to stay together.

It has nothing to do with self esteem issues because that's why I'm puzzled in the first place.

Not to take anything away from their new partner, but there's nothing wrong with me either.

My thoughts go something like this:

"Maybe she's less intense?"

"Is she the happy go lucky type and I'm not?"

"What about her makes him satisfied?"

"Why did he leave me and end up with her?"

"Are they even happy?"

"Is he treating her exactly how treated me?"

posted August 15, 2014 07:49 PM            

" These are people who are the first to call on a close personal friend or the spouse whenever a decision needs to be made--not that they always take that person's advice! However, the back and forth of the exchange helps them to find an answer within. Again, this comes back to seeing themselves through others' perspectives. These are not the types of people who go to movies or restaurants alone (by choice). They simply feel more powerful and happy with someone tagging along. Some are submissive, but most are not. They don't truly give their power away to others. However, they don't readily "own" their power without feedback from others, where the term "others" doesn't refer to people in general, but to an individual."

posted August 15, 2014 08:59 PM            

& yes, I do believe it's mostly boredom because when out and about, handling the every day affairs of my life, I don't even think about it.

I should probably find a hobby or take up running or something.

I even try to tell myself to stop, but that just makes the urge more apparent and I end up doing it anyway.

My curiosity is what gets me every time.

I honestly hate seeing my exs happy because they treated me like **** and I felt like I deserve that happiness.

It drives me nuts.

I'm learning that karma is indeed a ***** and I need to control the urge to ruin these guys' lives. Haha.

it backfires almost every time in some way or another..

I do believe my extreme amount of Scorpio energy has something to do with it.

So my next question would be, how do you get a Scorpio to stop obsessing?

I noticed that I only move on COMPLETELY when I find someone better.

posted August 15, 2014 09:05 PM            

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Originally posted by Yanmorg:

I noticed that I only move on COMPLETELY when I find someone better.

Is that the only way?

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I've asked myself this a lot and so far it really is for me. I'm actually scared of falling in love again because of how long it takes me to fall in/out of love after that

posted August 15, 2014 09:09 PM            

I've only been on love once and looking back, I wouldn't even call that affair "love".

When I mean, "better", I mean someone that brings that fire and intensity out of me.

So far, only 3 guys have been able to do this.

Passion and intensity isn't love, but I can't even think about sticking around long enough to see if love will develop if there's no intensity, depth, passion, etc.

posted August 15, 2014 09:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
Well, don't get me wrong, it's not easy for me either despite having a libra moon with a moon-uranus square.

I've only been on love once and looking back, I wouldn't even call that affair "love".

When I mean, "better", I mean someone that brings that fire and intensity out of me.

So far, only 3 guys have been able to do this.

Passion and intensity isn't love, but I can't even think about sticking around long enough to see if love will develop if there's no intensity, depth, passion, etc.

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I know what you mean ..

I really like the way you express yourself so honestly and distinct.

posted August 15, 2014 09:30 PM            

& I see we have a lot in common as far as our behavior patterns.

I'll start reading or working out, but just like you, that'll only last a little while..

Intense sports might be an option, but I'm a manger at my job and I'm in school full-time.. PLUS I'm just flat out lazy.

I did delete all of my social networking sites at one point and it was the most refreshing and liberating time in my life aside from my childhood years. I felt present versus always attached to my phone and what's going on in a virtual reality that doesn't really exist.

I would do that again, but I'm so indecisive and I don't think I'm quite ready to let go of social networking completely.

I feel that time is coming.

posted August 15, 2014 09:54 PM            

"How dare you?"

I have never been able to accept the fact that sometimes karma doesn't make its way to everybody.

sometimes we get burned and then magically, someone comes at out ls their fire out right after.

It makes me so angry.

Poison is definitely the perfect term to describe those feelings and allowing then to manifest themselves within myself.

How do you just let go knowing someone who made you so unhappy, is happy with someone else?

That's just.. insane.

How do you let go of all of that?

posted August 15, 2014 10:37 PM            

Yanmorg,

You need to find someone new to obsess over, sweet one.

posted August 15, 2014 11:00 PM            

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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
Ha! that's exactly how I feel.

"How dare you?"

I have never been able to accept the fact that sometimes karma doesn't make its way to everybody.

sometimes we get burned and then magically, someone comes at out ls their fire out right after.

It makes me so angry.

Poison is definitely the perfect term to describe those feelings and allowing then to manifest themselves within myself.

How do you just let go knowing someone who made you so unhappy, is happy with someone else?

That's just.. insane.

How do you let go of all of that?

especially when I know I'm a good woman!

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posted August 15, 2014 11:03 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
anon, You think it's that easy, smartypants?

Yanmorg,

You need to find someone new to obsess over, sweet one.

Only way out of it (given your current... situation).

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posted August 15, 2014 11:38 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Using that Merc/Pluto full force, I see!

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posted August 15, 2014 11:43 PM              

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Originally posted by KarkaQueen:
Fixed energy is very problematic and overwhelming especially if it's afflicted and in high energy, prone to violence and always in violent situations really.

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posted August 15, 2014 11:45 PM            

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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
Using that Virgo Moon to notice details, I see !

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