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Topic: Why do aries influenced women always get competitive with me?
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Dreaminess
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posted August 19, 2015 08:45 PM
  
Is it bc i am their opposite? Everytime i have to deal with an aries influenced woman it won`t take long before they`ll start making things into a competition. They always are in a competition with me while i am like "wtf is your problem?" i don`t know what i say and do that always ends up triggering their competitive jealous side. Like I have never ever experienced someone to be so jealous of me before like a girl i know with an aries moon opposition mars, its insane. She gets jealous if i look good she gets jealous if a boy notices me she gets jealous if i say and do something that is good she basically gets jealous and threatened by anything that is positive for me and for some reason sees me as competition. She is the worst experience i`ve had with an aries influenced woman. Those other aries influenced women i have dealt with are not so bad. With them its been more in specific areas that will suddenly trigger a childish jealous competitive side to them. Not once have i dealt with an aries influenced woman and managed to not trigger their competitive jealous sides. I am just surprised at how little it takes for them to suddenly get jealous and competitive. It can be the dumbest reason that brought that side of them out. Before when i read aries are competitive i always thought they meant "healthy" competitive, like where they have to compete. Like in a sport game or something haha. IP: Logged |
NYCdodger
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posted August 19, 2015 08:50 PM
whats your 10th house or midheaven located?Whats your Rising? IP: Logged |
Dreaminess
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posted August 19, 2015 08:56 PM
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Originally posted by NYCdodger:
whats your 10th house or midheaven located?Whats your Rising?
You have asked me this before(you were supposed to take a guess of what you thought i had to but never did)  haha lol. i am not sure of the time i got out so i dont know my rising. IP: Logged |
NYCdodger
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posted August 19, 2015 09:02 PM
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Originally posted by Dreaminess:
You have asked me this before(you were supposed to take a guess of what you thought i had to but never did) haha lol. i am not sure of the time i got out so i dont know my rising.
Oh yeah i FORGOT LOL. Well I do recall you saying that you MIGHT have your rising located in either Cancer or Leo. This means that somewhere Aries is at the top of your chart which can be an indication. My MC is in Sag and I always either attract them or they try to "outsmart" me (never works) lol But i have noticed that the Aries-Libra combo is a weird one that Libras tend to always win lol IP: Logged |
ReadingTheStars95
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posted August 19, 2015 09:06 PM
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Originally posted by Dreaminess:
You have asked me this before(you were supposed to take a guess of what you thought i had to but never did) haha lol. i am not sure of the time i got out so i dont know my rising.
xD.. I like how you worded that. Hopefully you'll be able to find out some day.. I get to wondering just how accurate the birth-times are on some birth-certificates even, sometimes.. Anyways.. For some reason, I almost felt like your Cancer Moon may have a bit to do with the opposition you get.. Especially from the Aries Moon. I'm not sure why this stood out to me.. lol
Well, I would say the sign of Aries, at its best, can actually be a very playful sign. However, sometimes Aries can be a bit too Ego-driven.. Remember, Mars DOES rule the 1st house.
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Dreaminess
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posted August 19, 2015 09:18 PM
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Originally posted by NYCdodger:
Oh yeah i FORGOT LOL. Well I do recall you saying that you MIGHT have your rising located in either Cancer or Leo. This means that somewhere Aries is at the top of your chart which can be an indication. My MC is in Sag and I always either attract them or they try to "outsmart" me (never works) lolBut i have noticed that the Aries-Libra combo is a weird one that Libras tend to always win lol
Oh my gosh this is what happens to me to. I have attracted some aries influenced men but the women always ends up feeling the need to try to suddenly outsmart me or prove they are bigger and better at something or that they are equally as good or whatever its just childish to me haha. IP: Logged |
Dreaminess
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posted August 19, 2015 09:27 PM
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Originally posted by ReadingTheStars95:
xD.. I like how you worded that. Hopefully you'll be able to find out some day.. I get to wondering just how accurate the birth-times are on some birth-certificates even, sometimes..Anyways.. For some reason, I almost felt like your Cancer Moon may have a bit to do with the opposition you get.. Especially from the Aries Moon. I'm not sure why this stood out to me.. lol
Well, I would say the sign of Aries, at its best, can actually be a very playful sign. However, sometimes Aries can be a bit too Ego-driven.. Remember, Mars DOES rule the 1st house.
Yes I also think the opposition comes from that. Me and this aries moon girl do also have our moons square in synastry haha. IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted August 19, 2015 09:42 PM
You've asked many similar questions. It's your cancer moon that's very sensitive and see things from the perspective of the self. Aries mooners might just be playful and provoking because they get bored easily but you take it personally and see them as selfish and aggressive. I have seen several cancer moons react like this. (Nita of them though depending on the chart). But if you have a lot of Neptunian influences to add. It's not that they get competitive with you. They are just generally competitive and like to live in the moment.
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Dreaminess
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posted August 19, 2015 09:49 PM
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Originally posted by theunknown:
You've asked many similar questions. It's your cancer moon that's very sensitive and see things from the perspective of the self. Aries mooners might just be playful and provoking because they get bored easily but you take it personally and see them as selfish and aggressive. I have seen several cancer moons react like this. (Nita of them though depending on the chart). But if you have a lot of Neptunian influences to add. It's not that they get competitive with you. They are just generally competitive and like to live in the moment.
Belive me when i say they get competitive with me like its insane. Yeah i have my moon in cancer and we might tend to be sensitive but that does not mean we are blind. IP: Logged |
Free Leon
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posted August 19, 2015 10:08 PM
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Originally posted by Dreaminess:
Belive me when i say they get competitive with me like its insane. Yeah i have my moon in cancer and we tend to be sensitive but that does not mean we are blind.
According to many sources Aries energy is very intuitive. Maybe they pick up on the preconceived notions you have of them and they subsequently reciprocate it through heightened competitive behavior. Aries energy is independent by nature. The ones I've met/befriended could care less about what others think. Sure, they enjoy competition, but they'll really crank it up a notch if they're directly challenged, which is probably what they sense from you with the preconceived notions you project towards them. You expect them to be competitive, so that's exactly what you'll get from them. Just think of rams, and how they go at one another head on. IP: Logged |
Belage
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posted August 19, 2015 10:19 PM
Dreaminess, you said your moons are square. Do you know which degree of Aries the girl's moon is and which degree of Cancer your moon is? if that square between you 2 is anywhere around 19 degree of Aries, this might be a reflection of transiting Uranus in Aries, so she would be acting rash toward you and you would be feeling the blunt of her extreme emotions. IP: Logged |
Dreaminess
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posted August 19, 2015 10:37 PM
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Originally posted by Free Leon:
According to many sources Aries energy is very intuitive. Maybe they pick up on the preconceived notions you have of them and they subsequently reciprocate it through heightened competitive behavior. Aries energy is independent by nature. The ones I've met/befriended could care less about what others think. Sure, they enjoy competition, but they'll really crank it up a notch if they're directly challenged, which is probably what they sense from you with the preconceived notions you project towards them. You expect them to be competitive, so that's exactly what you'll get from them. Just think of rams, and how they go at one another head on.
I don`t really expect anything from them tbh. They just suddenly decide to compete with me bc of some dumb reason that i said or did that triggered jealousy and competitiveness in them. Just out of the blue i am suddenly in a competition i didn`t know i was in, lol. The reason why i asked this question is bc i think its something in my chart that makes them like this towards me, bc in my experience these girls haven`t been so competitive towards other women in their life. They are much more positive, supportive and chill and don`t get the sudden need to compete with them.
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Free Leon
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posted August 19, 2015 10:42 PM
As Belage suggested, it might be transiting Uranus having an unpredictable influence on their Aries placements around 17-20 degrees, in addition to difficult aspects to some placements in your chart.Their behavior would also make sense if you have an Aries Midheaven. IP: Logged |
cchampliss2
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posted August 19, 2015 10:43 PM
Aries folks are ultra competitive and sometimes I just let them be competitive all by themselves. Their fires aren't known to be very longstanding. This coming from a Cap sun. IP: Logged |
LaceyLeigh
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posted August 19, 2015 11:42 PM
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Originally posted by Free Leon:
According to many sources Aries energy is very intuitive. Maybe they pick up on the preconceived notions you have of them and they subsequently reciprocate it through heightened competitive behavior. Aries energy is independent by nature. The ones I've met/befriended could care less about what others think. Sure, they enjoy competition, but they'll really crank it up a notch if they're directly challenged, which is probably what they sense from you with the preconceived notions you project towards them. You expect them to be competitive, so that's exactly what you'll get from them. Just think of rams, and how they go at one another head on.
I agree, I'm not competitive at all, unless someone else brings up a challenge. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted August 19, 2015 11:46 PM
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Originally posted by theunknown:
You've asked many similar questions. It's your cancer moon that's very sensitive and see things from the perspective of the self. Aries mooners might just be playful and provoking because they get bored easily but you take it personally and see them as selfish and aggressive. I have seen several cancer moons react like this. (Nita of them though depending on the chart). But if you have a lot of Neptunian influences to add. It's not that they get competitive with you. They are just generally competitive and like to live in the moment.
As a triple Aries yes yes yes to this post! I love to joke around whether that be teasing others or laughing about myself but it's always in good fun (if I actually didn't like you you wouldn't be included, period.) My Cancer boss always took my jokes literally and it was a super buzzkill to explain them every single time. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted August 19, 2015 11:49 PM
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Originally posted by Dreaminess:
I don`t really expect anything from them tbh. They just suddenly decide to compete with me bc of some dumb reason that i said or did that triggered jealousy and competitiveness in them. Just out of the blue i am suddenly in a competition i didn`t know i was in, lol. The reason why i asked this question is bc i think its something in my chart that makes them like this towards me, bc in my experience these girls haven`t been so competitive towards other women in their life. They are much more positive, supportive and chill and don`t get the sudden need to compete with them.
Even if they are 'competing' with you it's probably just to prove something to themselves, it doesn't have anything to do with you personally. It may be that anybody could do the same thing and an Aries person would "accept the challenge" as they say. It's kind of funny because your Moon is showing very strongly regarding this subject. You think it has something to specifically and personally towards you but so far you state you've only had this problem with Aries people. If it was about you you'd have this problem with everyone. Cancer and Aries square each other too so it could just be that friction. IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted August 19, 2015 11:53 PM
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Originally posted by Dreaminess:
I don`t really expect anything from them tbh. They just suddenly decide to compete with me bc of some dumb reason that i said or did that triggered jealousy and competitiveness in them. Just out of the blue i am suddenly in a competition i didn`t know i was in, lol. The reason why i asked this question is bc i think its something in my chart that makes them like this towards me, bc in my experience these girls haven`t been so competitive towards other women in their life. They are much more positive, supportive and chill and don`t get the sudden need to compete with them.
tbh its very easy for Aries moon. All you need to do is ignore them or acknowledge them, throw some compliment and they'll chill out. Otherwise, you can just tell them upfront: "what you said was hurtful" and they'll back off because honestly they dont care about you or your feeling at all. So when someone mentions something they werent aware of, they will snap out of their me-me-me mindset. Aries mooners hardly care about their surrounding environment and anyone's feeling. They want to act like the boss, look like the boss, feel like the boss. They want to be the best. That's it. Some compliments would do. Otherwise just ignore them. They wouldnt be able to tell the difference. The cancer moons I met thought I was competitive with them and get really mean to me. In my head, i'm like: "I dont care, you dont matter to my world."
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Dreaminess
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posted August 20, 2015 12:10 AM
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Originally posted by theunknown:
tbh its very easy for Aries moon. All you need to do is ignore them or acknowledge them, throw some compliment and they'll chill out. Otherwise, you can just tell them upfront: "what you said was hurtful" and they'll back off because honestly they dont care about you or your feeling at all. So when someone mentions something they werent aware of, they will snap out of their me-me-me mindset. Aries mooners hardly care about their surrounding environment and anyone's feeling. They want to act like the boss, look like the boss, feel like the boss. They want to be the best. That's it. Some compliments would do. Otherwise just ignore them. They wouldnt be able to tell the difference. The cancer moons I met thought I was competitive with them and get really mean to me. In my head, i'm like: "I dont care, you dont matter to my world."
Wow this is so accurate haha. IP: Logged |
Dreaminess
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posted August 20, 2015 12:47 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Even if they are 'competing' with you it's probably just to prove something to themselves, it doesn't have anything to do with you personally. It may be that anybody could do the same thing and an Aries person would "accept the challenge" as they say. It's kind of funny because your Moon is showing very strongly regarding this subject. You think it has something to specifically and personally towards you but so far you state you've only had this problem with Aries people. If it was about you you'd have this problem with everyone. Cancer and Aries square each other too so it could just be that friction.
"If it was about you you'd have this problem with everyone." Weird that you said that bc not long ago i did make a thread about what in a chart makes same gender out to "get" you bc i`ve experienced that alot from women haha. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted August 20, 2015 05:58 AM
I don't know. If I start to feel competitive, I will let you know why. I did feel a little "hmph" at Libra always winning. Because that isn't true.  IP: Logged |
Soltze
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posted August 20, 2015 06:53 AM
Bad Mars interaction would be my guess.
I know that if my Mars is squared by anything other than Venus things will go crazyIP: Logged |
NYCdodger
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posted August 20, 2015 09:32 AM
Just let them know that you're making them uncomfortable. I've dealt with a few Aries mooners and I know how they can be. Every sign has that annoying quality that we detest and we have to help each other become more aware of it.If they can't respect that, put them in their place and never associate yourself with them again. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted August 20, 2015 10:26 AM
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Originally posted by Dreaminess:
"If it was about you you'd have this problem with everyone." Weird that you said that bc not long ago i did make a thread about what in a chart makes same gender out to "get" you bc i`ve experienced that alot from women haha.
How's your Moon aspected? Aries or not, women are competitive in different ways and if someone makes you feel bad don't take it personally. It's their issue. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted August 20, 2015 10:45 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
How's your Moon aspected?Aries or not, women are competitive in different ways and if someone makes you feel bad don't take it personally. It's their issue.
I don't think it's just women. I also try to remember that it's their issue. I'm not all that concerned about winning, more about peace. But if someone pushes me enough... I prefer it when they can't get to me.
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