posted March 05, 2016 11:58 AM            

But if someone's my boyfriend/spouse I will give them all of the affection in the world

When it comes to friends hugging every single time I see them is something that feels habitual .. Like brushing my teeth. It's something you just do because you're supposed to

But naturally I don't always want to hug them. Because I mean when you do that so much it makes it less special and like you don't even care about THEM you just want to TOUCH

When if you appreciate a moment with someone you don't need to prove it with that
It's just felt
And it's there

But I would never tell my friends how I feel about hugs. As far as they know I FREAKING LOVE HUGS and I love them so it goes that way. I guess.

posted March 05, 2016 12:20 PM            

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Originally posted by diamondbaby:
Loves and needs physical affection the most: someone with strong Taurus/Venus/2nd house influence.
Doesn't like to be touched and express physical affection: someone with strong Aquarius/Uranus/11th house influence.

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I'm Aquarius/Libra, Venus/Uranus dominant lol. Overall i don't like touchy people when i barely know them, but i might be a little touchy if i'm flirting
With friends i'm affectionate, i like hugs!!

I think Leos/Libras/Cancers/Taurus are more confortable touching other people (from what i experienced).

posted March 05, 2016 12:28 PM            

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Originally posted by Nyctea:
I'm Aquarius/Libra, Venus/Uranus dominant lol. Overall i don't like touchy people when i barely know them, but i might be a little touchy if i'm flirting
With friends i'm affectionate, i like hugs!!

I think Leos/Libras/Cancers/Taurus are more confortable touching other people (from what i experienced).

And the ones who don't like it are probably Aquarians/Virgos.

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posted March 05, 2016 12:35 PM              

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Originally posted by Nyctea:

I think Leos/Libras/Cancers/Taurus are more confortable touching other people (from what i experienced).

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posted March 05, 2016 12:42 PM            

I'm flexible on affection, can be very giving or reserved based on the other person, am not shy about giving it, but don't want to make anyone uncomfortable. This isn't restricted to significant others. I have learned to cut back with most that I don't know well because you can't even give a polite smile to most people without them assuming you want to jump their bones (or have some other ulterior motive).

When I retreat physically or mentally then I expect my space to be respected. If I shut the door to my room then I shouldn't be disturbed unless it's important, if I'm engrossed in a book while say waiting for a ride then I may not appreciate someone deciding to spark up a conversation with me.

I wouldn't call myself "touchy feely" as the context for that, in my experience, usually means the conversation is based on feelings, and often that the implications are into giving extreme emotional comfort. Talking about my feelings, or that of others, can be done, but it's like talking about one's body...it's not the focus of my attention or what I want to talk about when given a choice. I've heard of support groups that are described as touchy-feely and I wouldn't appreciate that. I'd probably endure it gracefully if I thought the one doing it meant well, but it would encourage me to stay away in the future as it would make me uncomfortable. Or put another way, I'm happy to be hugged by someone happy to see me, but I'd find it uncomfortable to be hugged because someone pitied me, or even just trying to comfort me (though an exception can be made for those I'm especially close to, be they close friends, certain kin, or other loved ones).

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In part, I think my upbringing contributes to this, I traveled widely and mixed with so many relatives that I learned to accept a wide variety of treatment and expressions, and in rural Texas, touchy feely isn't encouraged. It's sometimes okay to be affectionate, but not being all comforting which would be seen as like being patted on the head, someone tying your shoes for you, or talked to in the condescending way some do to children (example ).

posted March 05, 2016 12:50 PM            

I could comfortably ride shoulder to shoulder on a bus with one stranger, and I might decide to EXIT the bus prematurely if another stranger tried to same thing.

^ Pisces moon issues.

Also I could easily turn germophobic (6H sun and Mercury) and that switches "on" when someone seems ill and contagious.

But I deliberately keep that switch "off" for the most part, because I dislike the anti-humanity it could lead to. People need to touch each other for our collective well-being's sake. It is harmful to recoil from people too much, it puts a negative vibe in the air.

posted March 05, 2016 02:24 PM            

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Originally posted by UrsusBlack:
One of the Virgos I know definitely doesn't like touch unless it's with a boyfriend. Mind you, her Aries and Taurus sisters are the same way. The Taurus one being the most open to physical affection depending on her mood.

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posted March 05, 2016 02:39 PM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:
*Comfortable touching other people*
LOL

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posted March 05, 2016 02:42 PM            

I also like hugging and cuddling with animals:P

But I also think thats quiet normal maybe? I dont see a lot of people hugging randomly these days... but I was never really the type of person who likes being touched randomly by my friends... there is a little barrier, but it breaks down when I'm drunk or get super comfortable.

posted March 05, 2016 02:46 PM            

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Originally posted by Vajra:
Is that a typical Virgo thing though? Both my mom and daughter are Virgos, as are several other male relatives, and with the exception of one (my grandpa) they are all physical people who hug, cuddle and pat others. Not everyone, but definitely their close friends and relatives.

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I read that Virgos aren't much affectionate... Idk, she's a Gemini/Mercury dominant too ^^

I had a Virgo best friend and he was very shy about his feelings. He had a crush on me for like 2 or 3 years if i remember but he didn't say anything until i pushed myself away from him bc of an ugly fight we had.

But about my mom, she's exactly like the stereotypic Virgo personality.

posted March 05, 2016 03:00 PM              

Depends. I'm very affectionate with my friends and loved ones. Yeah, I'm a *hugger*. Have even converted some.

But, with strangers or people I'm not comfortable with - it somehow happens that they're in my space, or *touching* too often for my liking. I hate that. I don't know why it happens, maybe I send out the wrong 'signals'? For instance, people coming over and sitting on my desk at work, talking familiarly like we're friends. Yeah, sitting on. Sheesh. Or grabbing my hand and holding on to it throughout the conversation. I mean, come on!
My politeness at distancing myself in such cases is inversely proportional to their creepiness/'mal-intentions'.

posted March 05, 2016 03:11 PM              

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Originally posted by Vajra:
@Nyctea: Hm, thinking about it - it could be a Gemini thing perhaps! I've noted that Gemini dominants are easily grossed out e.g. by normal amounts of body odor (even of a clean body) and so on...

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But wouldn't Geminis be *handsey*..??

Weirdly, the Virgos I know are not averse to touching/hugging. Even ones with Virgo mars.. Maybe it's a societal thing too...