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jellyfishtry
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posted May 04, 2013 01:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for jellyfishtry     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I guess am just fed up of bad situation that went for too long.
But why do people keep saying "just make the best of it" or "maybe something good will come out of it"
it's not always possible to make 'the best' of a bad situation.

after a while, maybe all what happened is a bad situation, and the only thing to learn, are that people can be plain evil...how can that be of any good, if it just reduces your faith in others?
Am not usually 'negative' but somethings i've learnt over the past few months, i really can't see what good can come out of them...but i can see how they can even make things worst at some point in the future.

(edited as to much blabla here...but wouldn't just admit a bad situation is/was a bad situation help get it over with much quicker with time, than if asked to forever look for the 'good' that may come/came out of it, when really all that happens with this, is it traps you for a long time, in the moment of when the bad thing happened, making you base your whole life around it....i hope this made any sense to someone)

I blame

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mirage29
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posted May 05, 2013 02:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sounds tough.... I can "feel" what you say... been in circumstances and situations where things seemed like they weren't 'improving' no matter what I did.

Sometimes it's about 'endurance'...

And while enduring, it's about reaching out and keeping the communication going.... like I see you doing!

Saturn?... yeah, and maybe sometimes the Moon??

Hope you see Sunnier times ... Always find a reason to believe!

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jellyfishtry
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posted May 05, 2013 10:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for jellyfishtry     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you Mirage29...lol okay the moon to and a few other planets in the solar system, along with some Earthlings....

no idea what good can come out of it, other than superbly appreciating the moment when it all ends and the next episode starts (but then if we go there with so much hope and faith only because of how bad the past was...how is that any good??)

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Padre35
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posted May 05, 2013 03:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

I think one of the keys to life is to extract lessons from poor experiences, not get overly emotional about them, but to learn what went wrong and why it happened.

This short circuits self destructive behaviors that for some, last a lifetime.

I have an lunar eclipse in my sun house this month and suspect it is the universe queuing my up to make some changes in my own life.

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jellyfishtry
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posted May 05, 2013 06:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for jellyfishtry     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
True Padre35, but that's what i'm saying...i think to just live with it or tell someone who had a miserable experience 'Hey that sucked! they sucked, h*ck you to sucked for all what happened'

is much better than when everyone repeats the cliche 'maybe it's for the better or best'....the first will push people to either fight back with you at first but then move on, while the second will make them dwell on the problem for longer waiting for when it will turn to the 'better' everyone talks about, rather than just moving on.

though don't know about emotional...
a fair balance between mind and emotion is the right thing i guess...too much of either, and little of the other is not a good idea at all...but even best is to always be true to ones own self, right? and honestly i think sometimes there is no lesson...or one that makes no difference at all whether you learnt it or not...like someone learning Finnish, in order to go live in Brazil, how useful would that be?

okay i'll stop being a smarty pant here thanks for replying

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Doux Rêve
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posted May 06, 2013 08:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Doux Rêve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know what you mean, jellyfish

So sorry you're going through hard times.

Sometimes it seems that it's all just a big joke, like fate is laughing at you while you're trying your best to see the positive in a situation, but just can't.

I don't know what life is about, and I don't know if what you're going through has a bigger purpose; but please, just remember that you're a beautiful person no matter what and that things do change, and it does get better. Keep the faith and soon you'll find yourself feeling much better. I can promise you this. ~


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jellyfishtry
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posted May 06, 2013 01:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for jellyfishtry     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you for the kind words Doux Rêve!

life is funny in that it treats us like a joke sometimes...hmmmm thinking back a few years to how it all started, if i wasn't ignored at first or if i hadn't shared what was going on with the wrongest people none of his would have happened.

ironically despite being ignored for long at first, and then only listened to when i knew it was to late to try anything...it'll just look like i'm the one who hadn't got the slightest idea what they were doing...to some but not all.

because you know somethings can only happen at certain times...and if time is up already for that 'move' then, oh well...ahem...well that sucks lol.

not expected anything at all anymore to be honest,, as a matter of fact am starting to feel smug everytime things fall down a bit further, which is better than feeling shocked hehehe. Thanks for the words again darling

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mirage29
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posted May 07, 2013 01:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Life-lesson learned....! They come along from time to time, for sure. Count it as "tuition" in the school of life and hard knocks... You're doing good!!

I like the part about keeping your mug 'smug'... !

smarty pants power!

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jellyfishtry
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posted May 07, 2013 03:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for jellyfishtry     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
lol Mirage29 could you actually picture me sipping from my mug and feigning 'surprise' and tsking as a poor soul believes they're bringing me more not so good news lol?

but it's not all so bad lol, forgot how great it is to just go out dancing and enjoying music (yes i find places for this even in the middle of the week, and on weeks i don't?i will just do that in the middle of my room at 3am hahaha) to refresh our soul!!

hmmm on second thoughts maybe this is happening because of where the north node is...

Thank you for this and the other posts i read but don't reply to on the other threads as a just enjoying reading them all

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