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Topic: Not Sure How To Feel...
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Barbiegirl19 Knowflake Posts: 3523 From: Pluto with DeepFreeze Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 23, 2014 05:17 PM
DeepFreeze and I are getting married sometime next month and although we weren't exactly trying to get pregnant but we did. We weren't 100% positive that I was but literally every symptom was there. Just when I wanted to test to guarantee that what we assumed was true I miscarried. I'm not really sure how I'm supposed to feel about it. I know many women go through it their first pregnancy and that it's not really abnormal, but it still saddens me that it's gone. I'm sad but also very excited because he didn't think he could ever have children. I know I shouldn't but I can't help but feel that's it's my fault. It's really confusing and has made me really clingy and needy of him. Anyone else gone through this? What are your thoughts? How did you cope with it? According to a tracker that I was using I was 5 weeks along. IP: Logged |
Violets Moderator Posts: 3018 From: Twin Peaks Registered: Apr 2011
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posted March 23, 2014 05:39 PM
Oh man, I am so sorry to hear that you're going through that right now. Of course it isn't your fault. I have never had a miscarriage, but I know that my aunt had one when she was younger, and she was very sad, although she had two children at the time. I'm glad that the two of you at least know now that it's possible, but I'm so sorry you had to experience that.
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DeepFreeze Knowflake Posts: 1449 From: Pluto with Barbiegirl19 Registered: Nov 2013
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posted March 23, 2014 05:43 PM
She's been so strong and of course I've been there like a rock. There is quite a bit of physical pain with it too, I was surprised. I look at the positive too. We know it's possible.
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Barbiegirl19 Knowflake Posts: 3523 From: Pluto with DeepFreeze Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 23, 2014 05:45 PM
Thank you so much Violets. I had no idea until the pain and everything gradually worsened. I felt like I was going to die. I don't wish it on anyone. My mom has gone through 2 herself but she's older so I'm not sure if it's genetics or what. IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19 Knowflake Posts: 3523 From: Pluto with DeepFreeze Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 23, 2014 05:45 PM
And like he said its possible. I didn't even see him comment LOL IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 53626 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 23, 2014 05:47 PM
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Violets Moderator Posts: 3018 From: Twin Peaks Registered: Apr 2011
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posted March 23, 2014 06:02 PM
Well, sending lots of healing energy and prayers to you both, and I hope that you feel better soon, Barbie. But yes, it's possible...how cool! IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19 Knowflake Posts: 3523 From: Pluto with DeepFreeze Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 23, 2014 06:05 PM
Thank you both very much.❤️❤️❤️ I'm not sure what I'd do without him and we're both extremely excited that we're able to. IP: Logged |
23 Knowflake Posts: 691 From: The Strand Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 23, 2014 06:25 PM
Losing a child at any age is very difficult, born or not born. And for a miscarriage, it's the promise of life that you lose as well, that you don't ever get to meet the person. I'm deeply sorry for your loss, it's a hard thing to go through, not sure how I'd deal with it myself.IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19 Knowflake Posts: 3523 From: Pluto with DeepFreeze Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 23, 2014 08:02 PM
Thank you so much 23. I appreciate all of you so much. I wanted to call my own mom and talk to her about it but I'm just so hesitant. I truly am so grateful to have someone in my life who's here especially at this time. His love and support are what keeps me going. IP: Logged |
12muddy Knowflake Posts: 1600 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted March 23, 2014 08:08 PM
I'm sorry for your loss. Last year I had miscarriages n it was a dark period of time. I'll save the gory details. I guess one way to deal with it is to let your emotions out and wait till things all blow over. N to be supportive of each other. After a while it eased n eventually I was back to my usual self. I hope that you will feel better soon. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways Knowflake Posts: 6884 From: Registered: Oct 2011
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posted March 23, 2014 08:08 PM
I'm very sorry about your loss. I know about losing children as well. Katherine is 19 and Kayla is 15. There was another miscarriage too. IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19 Knowflake Posts: 3523 From: Pluto with DeepFreeze Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 23, 2014 08:17 PM
@12Muddy Thank you so much. I'm sorry about your loses too Did you have a lot of pain? I felt like I was gonna die the pain was unimaginable. I can't even imagine two. @YTA I'm so sorry for your loses as well. I can't even imagine. At least you have your kids now right Children are the greatest gifts on earth that's for sure. IP: Logged |
Violets Moderator Posts: 3018 From: Twin Peaks Registered: Apr 2011
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posted March 23, 2014 08:24 PM
quote: Originally posted by Barbiegirl19: Thank you so much 23. I appreciate all of you so much. I wanted to call my own mom and talk to her about it but I'm just so hesitant. I truly am so grateful to have someone in my life who's here especially at this time. His love and support are what keeps me going.
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Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 3328 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted March 23, 2014 10:08 PM
Oh no, BBG/DF, terribly sorry to hear that occured, surely you will be a Mother and he will be a FatherIP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19 Knowflake Posts: 3523 From: Pluto with DeepFreeze Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 23, 2014 10:21 PM
I'm sure we will be lol thank you Padre. How's your mom?IP: Logged |
Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 3328 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted March 23, 2014 11:19 PM
Not well little one, not wellMy Bro and me are having a under the surface conflict as the niece/his daughter wants to be included, he hates her mother with a pure hate and is trying to exclude them altogether or to force them to play the cards he deals Enough of that, how are you holding up BBG? What I've seen is a miscarriage can lead a woman to lose confidence that they will ever be a Mother From my pov, you have being a Mother all over you..don't lose hope IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19 Knowflake Posts: 3523 From: Pluto with DeepFreeze Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 24, 2014 12:42 AM
Well I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully everything goes well for you guys. As for me I think I'm holding up pretty well. There are moments that I get sad and hoped that it lived. I question my fertility a lot and wonder if it's me. I loooooove kids and I'd be really hurt if I couldn't have any. He was worried that it was him and now I'm wondering if it's me. But we'll see, with the way we go at it we'll have a state's worth in no time LOL. I won't lose hope. Thank you for being so sweet and supportive I really appreciate it. I haven't told anyone in my family yet and I'm kind of nervous. IP: Logged |
charmainec Moderator Posts: 8084 From: Venus next to Randall Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 24, 2014 02:37 AM
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Barbiegirl19 Knowflake Posts: 3523 From: Pluto with DeepFreeze Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 24, 2014 01:03 PM
Thank you Charm ❤️❤️IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 8192 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted March 24, 2014 01:09 PM
Sorry about the news for you and DF, Barbie. I know you two will stay strong.IP: Logged |
libraschoice77 Knowflake Posts: 1606 From: past, present, and future Registered: Aug 2010
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posted March 24, 2014 01:28 PM
Very sad and sorry to hear that happened to you two IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19 Knowflake Posts: 3523 From: Pluto with DeepFreeze Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 24, 2014 01:58 PM
Thank you guys so much I appreciate all of you guys so much. ❤️❤️ I'm sure next time will be the one lol and I'll be sure to let everyone know. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 8192 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted March 24, 2014 02:16 PM
quote: Originally posted by Barbiegirl19: Thank you guys so much I appreciate all of you guys so much. ❤️❤️ I'm sure next time will be the one lol and I'll be sure to let everyone know.
I am sure next time everything will be fabulous, Barbie Everything is going to be great! IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19 Knowflake Posts: 3523 From: Pluto with DeepFreeze Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 24, 2014 02:29 PM
It will be. We were really excited to tell everyone! Especially with the possibility of it being a Scorpio baby, because we all know how much everyone loves Scorpios here lol. But thank you so much SSS IP: Logged |