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Topic: Not Sure How To Feel...
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StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 8192
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted March 24, 2014 02:58 PM
  
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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
It will be. We were really excited to tell everyone! Especially with the possibility of it being a Scorpio baby, because we all know how much everyone loves Scorpios here lol. But thank you so much SSS 
You're welcome, lil sweetie  IP: Logged |
Bluejay
Knowflake Posts: 120
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Registered: Jun 2013
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posted March 24, 2014 05:05 PM
Barbie and DeepFreeze, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I wanted to tell both of you a while back when you both posted about dreams, that my first thought about both dreams was that you were expecting. I just felt that it was too personal for me to comment though. My feeling about the dreams was that you had just conceived, so you wouldn't have known for sure. It's all that 12th house going on. On a subconscious level you both knew.Don't lose hope, I know so many women who have miscarried, in many cases more than once, and then went on to have multiple children. Sometimes it's a blood type issue(Rh-negative) so you may want to get that checked before trying to get pregnant. When the timing is right it will happen. I wish you both the best, and you're very lucky to have found one another. IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
Knowflake Posts: 1449
From: Pluto with Barbiegirl19
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted March 24, 2014 05:32 PM
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Originally posted by Bluejay:
Barbie and DeepFreeze, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I wanted to tell both of you a while back when you both posted about dreams, that my first thought about both dreams was that you were expecting. I just felt that it was too personal for me to comment though. My feeling about the dreams was that you had just conceived, so you wouldn't have known for sure. It's all that 12th house going on. On a subconscious level you both knew.Don't lose hope, I know so many women who have miscarried, in many cases more than once, and then went on to have multiple children. Sometimes it's a blood type issue(Rh-negative) so you may want to get that checked before trying to get pregnant. When the timing is right it will happen. I wish you both the best, and you're very lucky to have found one another.
Thank you!
Yes, my own mother had two before having three children.
We had a good idea that she was pregnant but hadn't tested just yet. So thankfully we hadn't gotten all the excitement and everything. It helps me anyway.
Of course she faced all of the hormone changes and etc. It's sad, but in the end just a part of life and fairly common. To me it's loss, but also hope. Hope that it's actually possible for us though getting checked out is a fantastic idea.
We weren't really trying but certainly not preventing either. lol I got a surprise because I thought it was like, "oops" and over. It's very painful. My mom said it can be close to as bad as child birth itself. Crazy. Everything is great though. She seems to be her happy, normal self.
It's just that doubled edged sword. A loss and hope together. I look at the hope because honestly there are a lot of years left for more chances.  IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
Knowflake Posts: 3523
From: Pluto with DeepFreeze
Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 24, 2014 05:45 PM
Thank you Bluejay! You should've said something lol! Subconsciously I did have thoughts of that being why I had the dream and that the secret message was me being pregnant. But because it freightened me so bad I just brushed it off. Now that I think about his dream maybe it's there too. Wow I can't believe I never thought of that. We were worried that he couldn't have children and now that we know we can it's really exciting. But of course the evil 12th has to go in and make me blame myself and that we can't have any. I know there are many women who've had a few and then finally start having children so I'm not too worried or concerned. It's just the scorpio venus and cancer mars won't let it go! IP: Logged |
Gabby
Moderator Posts: 3294
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Registered: Sep 2012
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posted March 25, 2014 12:11 PM
I'm so sorry Barbiegirl!! It's such a hard and terrible thing to go through!
I've miscarried once early on and I lost a baby when I was 4 months along, either way it's absolutely devastating!
I lost a baby when I was first married, 2 months along...that one was terribly painful like you guys are describing....I was very sad n confused but then I got pregnant with my son and that was all I needed to help me get over the pain of the loss!
Sometimes I still think about the one I loss but I wouldn't change anything because if I'd had that baby I wouldn't know my son, and he is just awesome!The other one I was 4 months along I didn't have any pain, but I could tell the baby was dying for some reason, we had went for a sonogram and she seemed fine...but a few days later I started feeling her, like she was slipping away I spent the weekend a total mess, sobbing because I literally felt her life force, her soul leaving my body and I still can't describe it...it's a terrifying feeling to a living soul, like life is being sucked out of you. I still can't think about it.
My guy thought I was completely blitz, crazy because we had just seen her on the sonogram! (The doctor thought she was a he, but I knew she was a girl and then the DNA testing found out she was a girl)
My husband scheduled an emergency sonogram to prove I was out of my mind, but when we got there and they couldn't find her heartbeat, we both died!
I was put in the hospital and induced labor....I fell completely apart!
I stopped eating n sleeping for weeks, it hurt so much!
But it always gets better, and it always gets easier!!! I will never get preggy again, I cannot do it again it was all I could emotionally take and something broke in me from it!
But I have children, so I don't need to be pregnant ever again!! Whew!! Im so happy you guys will be able to have children, they are so wonderful and change you forever, you realize you never knew how to love until you feel the love you have for your child...it's pure Neptune!!
They can do no wrong even as they are throwing up on you, going to the bathroom on you and keeping you up all night screaming.....somehow you just don't care...you just roll with because you love them so much!
But hopefully family is close by to give you a break at times before you kill each other!! Lol...well it's only kind of funny because it's kind of true!
BUT 100% worth it!
I'm so excited and can't wait until you tell us your officially pregnant!!! 
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Barbiegirl19
Knowflake Posts: 3523
From: Pluto with DeepFreeze
Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 25, 2014 01:22 PM
Awe Gabby I'm so sorry. I can not imagine if I lost a baby that far along. That's horrifying. I'm so sorry.  thank God for your husband and that you have him. I don't know how women who don't have any do it. It is truly so heartbreaking and it's like a piece of you goes with the baby. But at least you have children now I have younger siblings and my youngest brother really showed me just how much I love children. Just the sweetest little boy, now that they're older the sweetness has been pushed aside and their crazy has come out lol. But they're kids and I love their crazy just as much as I love their sweetness.We were definitely really excited and we couldn't wait to tell everyone, we just wanted to confirm it. I was gonna test on that Friday and started having the miscarriage the same day. I didn't know what the heck was going, I had never felt anything like it in my entire life. So thankfully for our mother google I put what I had found online and my symptoms together and concluded that I had miscarried. I was extremely heart broken, but thank God for my amazing DeepFreeze and his positivity. He's really helped me see the good from the situation and that we actually can have children together and I can't wait! I promise to let everyone know. thank you so much for sharing your story and being so supportive. You guys are so awesome and have helped me tremendously. ❤️❤️ IP: Logged |
JustAmanda1216
Knowflake Posts: 103
From: Virginia
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted March 25, 2014 01:39 PM
Aw, Barbie and Deep...I'm truly sorry to hear of this loss, but just know that you now have a little angel watching over you and the next child you conceive...and congrats on getting married!!! IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
Knowflake Posts: 3523
From: Pluto with DeepFreeze
Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 25, 2014 01:56 PM
@JustAmanda Thank you so much. We promise to keep everyone informed. IP: Logged |
Dancing Maenad
Knowflake Posts: 508
From: The Harvest
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted March 25, 2014 05:03 PM
It's good that you're focusing on the positives! You are strong together and have everything to look forward to! Congratulations on the wedding! The baby will come too, I am sure. Hugs to both!  ------------------
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Barbiegirl19
Knowflake Posts: 3523
From: Pluto with DeepFreeze
Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 25, 2014 06:18 PM
Awe you guys are truly such a blessing. Thank you guys so much for all of your positive outlooks and wonderful words. Hugs to you too @Dancing Maenad❤️IP: Logged |
MoonWitch
Moderator Posts: 1331
From: The Beach
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 25, 2014 06:21 PM
I am so sorry to hear you have had to go through this. It's far more common than a lot of people realize and I promise it is not your fault. Nearly every time an early miscarriage happens it is because it wasn't an embryo that would develop normally. It wasn't the little one's time to come into this world. I've had a couple early miscarriages. They were quite a long time ago but, yeah, it's hard for a lot of reasons. Your hopes and dreams of what could be are dashed. You feel guilt even though you did nothing wrong. Then add the hormones rushing through your body on top of that. I really hope you'll get a rainbow later to make up for the clouds now. On my fertility message board they call babies after miscarriages "rainbow babies". IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
Knowflake Posts: 3523
From: Pluto with DeepFreeze
Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 25, 2014 06:43 PM
Awee I like that, rainbow babies. Thank you so much Moonwitch❤️ It's kind of scary to think that so many little babies are lost because of miscarriages. I feel so fortunate to have someone so dedicated to seeing and making me happy. He didn't think it were even possible for him to even have children and now we know we can. I'm sorry that you also had to go through this, its so heartbreaking. Thank you for your wonderful words and encouragement. IP: Logged |
teasel
Knowflake Posts: 6059
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 25, 2014 09:33 PM
I had no idea you two were together. I'm so sorry for your loss.  IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
Knowflake Posts: 3523
From: Pluto with DeepFreeze
Registered: Jul 2013
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posted March 25, 2014 09:40 PM
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Originally posted by teasel:
I had no idea you two were together. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Thank you Teasel ❤️ We've been for over 3 months now. IP: Logged |
LionFish
Knowflake Posts: 1051
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted March 27, 2014 01:26 AM
*hugs* for both of you!
I'm so sorry that you guys have to go through this. My heart and love go out to you guys in the fullest!!
Barbie, I can't even imagine what you're going through, but I'm so glad you have DF there to support you. I know just from the "few" things I've seen him say that you couldn't have a person who loves you more beside you to help you through this.You've already found something beautiful between the two of you from this in discovering your ability to even get pregnant. When its time, the two of you will no doubt have a little angel that is the envy of all the other new parents. And your rainbow baby (i really loved that!) will be smiling down on the three of you. Stay strong, beautiful souls! IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
Knowflake Posts: 1449
From: Pluto with Barbiegirl19
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted March 27, 2014 02:39 AM
@Lionfish
Awww you're so sweet.
Thank you so much for all of the kind words.
They really really do mean a lot to us!
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